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By dasnich - / Sunday 5 February 2012 03:46 / United States
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By  Pwib  |  14

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By  Pwib  |  14

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  curlyfry33  |  8

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  ladyLALAA  |  28

OP said he's taking more initiative in the seducing department. I'm also pretty sure OP knows relationships aren't just about sex as he hasn't had any in 12 weeks.

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  Mauskau  |  32

That or she's cheating. I'd ask her what the problem was because it feels like she doesn't want him anymore. I'd def ask my bf what was wrong XD

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  Dom925  |  1

115: Unless her boyfriend is going to kill her and her family if she leaves him, "in a relationship she doesn't know how to end," is just a euphemism for: she is too cowardly to do what is right, or she is so selfish that she is dragging some poor sucker along while she waits for another guy. In either case, it is far beyond "not the best way," and is actually exceedingly cruel.

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  israelnotjacob  |  20

Sorry dude but you need to face the facts. Sure some people choose not to have sex when they're only dating, but if she's just cut you off completely after you already had been having sex with no explanation there's only two possibilities: Either she's too cowardly to just break up with you and is hoping this will make you want to do it for her, or she's having sex with someone else. Either figure out what guy friends she seems to be hanging out with more than she used to, or simply tell her to quit being a dam baby and admit she doesn't want to be with you.

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  amanda_d95  |  8

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  rabbittboi  |  18

Ah - screw it... My phone decided to take a life of its own and finish the previous attempt at a post. Before I could make it back to edit, the two minute edit window was gone.

By  Qluz  |  3

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  louiseth  |  9

No, sex isn't everything in a relationship, but it seems as if his girlfriend is repulsed by the idea of having sex with him, which is probably not a good sign. Then again, as you say, she could be going through a tough time or something.

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  Clamcreepy  |  7

Sex might not be everything in a relationship but it is a huge part of it. Sex is a way to show your love to your significant other plus sex has a lot of benefits.

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  Michael_92  |  19

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  Dracoboxer357  |  35

Maybe it's just me, but I don't think everyone that says sex is important means that literally: It's more that intimacy is important, and trust, honesty, respect and love are all part of being intimate with your significant other. So yes, I agree with you that sex alone does not constitute a healthy, loving relationship, but not sharing that level of intimacy that you used to with your SO, can be one indicator that perhaps they have lost some of that love or are struggling through a rough patch in their relationship.

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  desireev  |  17

I believe that sex is not everything in a relationship.. But a healthy sex life makes for a healthy relationship with your significant other. Sex is a time when you are bonding and getting out of your comfort zone. You are building trust with your significant other. And sex is a beautiful thing when shared between two people who love eachother. Sex needs to be there! OP, if you haven't had sex in 12 weeks, there's something wrong. She is either pregnant, or losing interest. If you love this girl, you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel. Maybe that's what she is wanting, for you to reach out to her and reconnect with her. Try it! Love is something to be cherished. So save your relationship and talk to her! :)

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  capper44  |  18

Well i agree with you #64, but if shes going through some tough time, then should talk to her bf so that he stop being tense that he is doing something wrong... Or else he will get to know straight that wat hes doing wrong...

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  TheNewGuy03  |  26

Well, regardless of whether or not sex is important to either partner, to talk about deep-seated issues, as some of you have postulated, is a sign of trust and care for each other. If you can't talk to your significant other about anything, then that's an even worse sign than a dry spell. If both problems are present, it's the equivalent of a five-alarm blaze -- get the fuck out. |the kid|

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117- I totally agree with you. People who say sex has no part in a relationship don't know what they're talking about. If you been with them for a long time and love has been well past established, then you should be able to share a bond that nothing else comes close to.

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  iimaPrincess  |  4

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  jtthegr8  |  26

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  AlwaysCracked  |  6

Having taken several relationship psych classes I think I have a decent grasp on relationship behaviours. A poor sex life between partners is a red flag towards loss of interest or outlets through other partners. Also 63, 16 years old might be alittle young to know much about relationships. Just saying.

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  Kukua  |  5

For someone who knows a lot about relationships, you sure have a black and white view on it. You're reasoning for why they aren't having sex may be sound, but your first reaction to it is to dump her. I pity any girlfriend you might ever get if you're that quick to run from your problems instead of trying to figure out why their there and work through them.

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  desireev  |  17

Has anyone thought, at all, that OPs significant other may be pregnant? Sounds crazy, but when I was pregnant, I lost all interest in sex and spending time with my man and all the things that couples should do. It wasn't that I didn't love him or anything of the sort, I just lost interest. That, very well, could be what's going on.

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  monnanon  |  13

@74 for a so called expert on other peoples relationships you seem to have forgotten that stress, illness and depression all play a part in sexual desire. If you are highly stressed chances are you dont want to have sex, same if you are depressed. Maybe OPs girlfriend is hiding things but but cheating more a problem with depression. No doubt this will get thumbed down because i never went to any relationship classes and only have my personal experience of my husbands and I's fluctuating stress levels to go on.

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  AlwaysCracked  |  6

I didn't mean to imply I would dump them off the bat and I agree that's a bit harsh. But to be honest, if the answer was that she was cheating, there's not much to discuss with me. But loss of interest entails a talk.

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  AlwaysCracked  |  6

138, Stress can cause loss of sex appeal in some but not all. But in this situation it does seem like she's very stressed. I mean shes making a joke with gum. I also never stated myself an expert.

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  Dracoboxer357  |  35

12- If you're going to do that, then why even bother being with her? OP might as well simply move on without needing to cheat if comes down to that as I'm pretty sure not everyone in a relationship is obliged to have sex regularly. Try being with someone you love, respect, trust and cherish in a relationship, as that sounds like it might be a new experience for you. :p

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  ohmandapants  |  16

12- you are a disgusting human being. Cheating is never the answer. There is no fucking point to it. If you want to sleep around, then sleep around, whatever, but don't get in a relationship first. Or get out of whatever relationship you're in. You fucking asshole.

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