If you're serious, you sound like a horrible partner.

I tried to be funny. I failed.

I can't stand this anymore. It's "could have" or "could've". Sorry.

20- Well I figured the boyfriend isn't fully invested (or he may have been really drunk- who knows?) but it just seems weird for a guy to be completely cool with that. I don't think it would've been perceived as "controlling" if he said no, because after all, the standard social norm is that if you're with someone you don't grind against someone else (right?). Then again, maybe they're swingers or something similar. If so, more power to 'em. I just found it odd, that's all. :)

#16, I think the boyfriend was mad that the OP tried to manipulate his instinct to be jealous and protective. It seems that she was just trying to stir up a confrontation between the two guys for her own ego boost and she got hoisted on her own petard.

I honestly wouldn't care if my wife of 10 years asked me to do this. I'd say yes. "Your clothes are staying on? Yeah, do what you want." I don't own her. Sure, sex would be a no no, but something in a public place? Have fun.

Sometimes a dance is just a dance. He might not have felt there was a "threat" to his manhood at all. She, on the other hand, should have stepped up and said "no" if she didn't want to dance. She's acting like property.

"Grinding" is just a normal, casual way of dancing in some circles. Or the guy may not have specifically asked her to grind with him, but simply asked her to dance, and OP is just exaggerating the situation. In any case, my guess is that the boyfriend assumed that OP would have simply said, "No," if she hadn't wanted to dance, so, not wanting to be controlling and get in the way of what he probably saw as harmless fun, he said he didn't care.

Plus, the boyfriend would have probably been a lot more likely to back OP up if she had made it clear that she didn't want to dance with that guy.

@#16 - My boyfriend would never answer "No" for me. He trusts me and he doesn't care if I go and dance with someone else; this is the social norm here and almost all of the healthy adult couples I know abide by it. That doesn't make the majority of us swingers. My boyfriend would probably make a similar response; he would be unimpressed that I made him look like my keeper.

A dance is a dance; if I feel the request is inappropriate, or I simply don't want to dance, I'm more than capable of saying no. If he won't take no for an answer, I can chase him off myself, as can any other woman I know. We weren't born in romantic relationships.