It's just infatuation, you'll get over it... Maybe.

I'm going to have to agree here ^

I doubt very seriously she found the love of her life on vacation. It takes more than a few days to fall in love, and more time than I'm assuming she's had away from her husband. Op, you've been married 8 years, if it's a happy marriage why mess it up over, what someone previously put very well as, infatuation?

"Romeo and Juliet" is a play. It's not real. Despite what literature and chick-flicks will have you believe, love is something that takes time.

162, Romeo and Juliet isn't a love story, its a tragedy...

163, they did experience "love at first sight," which is what 159 was probably trying to say. Yes, it is a tragedy, and in no way was I trying to say that's it not. I was simply focusing on the fact that its not real so you can't use it as a bais for love.

Life is a box of chocolates and my name is Forest Gump! I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed but I give Jenny all my love! - SNL skit Also, after 8 years she very well might be extremely committed to her husband, so wether is infatuation or more, I could imagine it would be troubling to feel strongly about someone else. Good luck op, I hope things turn out for the best

#159 - Just because one might have a crush at first sight, doesn't mean it leads to a relationship that will work. Romeo and Juliet barely interacted and were young, so telling them they can't be together was one of the worst things to say if you want them apart.

Dear #162, Romeo and Juliet is not a love story nor is it tragic. It's a three day relationship between a 13 year old girl and 17 year old boy that caused 6 deaths. Sincerely, the people who actually read it

Two teenagers causing six deaths in three days sounds pretty tragic to me.

Steamy cup of tea? Sounds pretty good to me :)

Did you just tell op to have an affair? There is never an excuse to cheat.. If you don't like who you're with then divorce/break up with them..

4- I think 2 was joking on that last part. At least I hope, because that's no way to treat your spouse.

Agreed. People who use not being happy in their current relationship as an excuse to cheat are douche bags. If you're not happy with your current one end it. After that you can do what you will, but at least leave the person using some integrity.

I was being sarcastic, which was apparently lost in translation. I had a feeling I should have put a break in my comment to differentiate. Cheating is always wrong.

The grass is always greener on the other side

Not if you paint it blue.

Really "found the one"? No you have the one. You agreed to marry this man so you obviously once had love and passion with him. That doesn't abruptly go away or die. It's an eternal burning flame. It may be low now but all you need to do is add a little kindling and a small spark and you're back in business.

80, That's fairy-tale thinking and you might want to do a reality check. Life is not a "happily ever after" fairytale. This "flame" is in no way eternal - it can and will go away, unless both couples are extremely compatible or unless they BOTH work very hard to preserve it. I've seen people divorce after 20 years of living together and having grown up children, plus there are plenty of stories where married people start hating each other so much that they end up assaulting or murdering their partnerr.

While I don't think it's as extreme as the way 90 put it, I agree, kinda. You need to work on a relationship just like both 80 & 90 said, but if you don't, it doesn't mean the passion goes away for the person necessarily. It also doesn't mean that if you work hard enough you will be happy. Sometime people change, sometimes you need to let things go, sometimes your spouse gets transformed into hitler...well maybe not, but I would never be happy when married to hitler...just sayin'.

Okay lighten up, this was obviously a joke.

Why so much hate on #2? It's not like affairs are unheard of these days.

It's more about that he's encouraging his sort of behavior. Cheating is a plague we need to remove from our society. Just because it happens, doesn't mean you should encourage it. That's a stupid statement.

If you're in a happy relationship, I highly doubt you are going to be experiencing any feelings for another person. There would be no need for your heart or mind to wonder towards something else. I'm in the happiest relationship of my life and I don't even look twice at the people who hit on me etc anymore. You clearly aren't happy if you can't focus on that one person... IMO

#94, some people are built that way and others aren't. Not all people are only attracted to one person in life, or at a time. Humans tend toward serial monogamy, but there's a fair amount of polyamory, too -- and, unfortunately, a rather large amount of cheating, which suggests more people have polyamourous feelings than are willing to be honest about it.

#94, I can see your point, and I always thought the same, but I've been in a very long relationship now, and I love him dearly, but in recent times I have wondered about other people and other possibilities. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong by feeling this way, it's just human nature. I would still consider our relationship a 'happy' one, however, because he's who I choose to go home to. If this ever changed, then things would be different.

Shjenn made me lol. Let me explain some human psychology for you, my dear naive sweetheart. Loving someone and being in the happiest relationship of your life does not mean that you have lost the ability to fall in love with another person. If everything in your relationship goes as smoothly as possible, it isn't hard to stay loyal, even with your thoughts. But when the troubles come, when you're pissed angry, bored as ****, starting to get delusional... you're mind start to wander. "What if...?" And that's the moment when your flesh is weak, when you have to work (fight?) for your relationship and against all those upcoming feelings that want something 'new'. I confess, sometimes I play with the thought of being with someone else. Sometimes I even get sexually aroused by it. But I don't cross that line any further, because I know that, how angry, bored and delusionaled I occasionaly may be, I am generally happy with my partner. That's all that matters.

Under totally ideal conditions, I agree with 94. In theory, if a single relationship is meeting all of one's requirements for happiness, then one wouldn't have to look elsewhere for those needs to be satisfied. However, conditions are rarely 100% ideal, and if one of your 'needs' happens to be multiple relationships, no ONE person will ever be able to fulfill that need, no matter how perfect they are for you otherwise. Also, I reject the idea that wandering thoughts are a sign of an unhappy relationship in and of themselves. I think fantasizing about other relationships is a pretty common phenomenon, both among happily and unhappily coupled individuals.

It's a scientific fact that only 3% of mammals are monogamous and that it is in fact human nature to have a wandering eye. You honey are not being honest with yourself. Happy or not someone, somewhere will catch your eye even if it's a glimpse. Also you can't honestly say you don't fantasize or dream of others because that is something you have no control over.

Well, hallo there;)

I think you're cute;)

Well, hallo there;)

So you are telling her to cheat?

please do not give advice if you're going to tell someone to cheat. no one, not even my worst enemy, deserves to be cheated on. EVER.

Do what the man says. Cheat.

Don't do what 68 says. Cheating is wrong, no matter what.

7 could mean divorce the husband, then get together with the soulmate

I don't believe Marilyn Monroe to be a good influence in any way, shape, or form; I was simply referring to a famous movie that fits the scenario. Assuming makes an ass out of you and me, but mostly you.

Because it's fertilized with someone else's bullshit.

13 & 20, exactly!!! I was thinking to myself that this guy was laying his game on thick in attempt to sleep with OP.

Until you get to the other side and realize that it's ******* awful. OP, you've been married for eight years. This other guy is probably exciting because he's new to you. Just sit back and think. Do you really wanna throw away an eight year marriage for a guy you just met?

OP just got the first one trained, why start over and have to train a new one?

#27, Perhaps they met and talked with no intention of even sleeping together. It could have been a casual mingle, at a bar or on the beach, perhaps on an activity night on cruise ship. You never know. As for everyone saying that OP and her husband have been married eight years just talk and work it out, I agree they need to talk but if she's met her soul mate she will never again be happy in her current marriage. Soul mates are a piece of you, someone or thing you search for each lifetime and sometimes they come in at the oddest moments, but if OP has found that piece she deserves to be happy. Op talk to your husband, talk to the other person and find out what your heart says, what your soul says, and where you want to be.

I think the point is that OP just thinks that she's net her soulmate, but she hasn't.