Today, my husband finally admitted that he squandered the last three months of my share of the rent on booze. He then blamed me, demanded more money, asked for a divorce, and stormed out. When he returned he asked, "How am I the bad guy?" FML
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A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my husband said he wouldn't be talking to me for weeks, because I didn't buy him weed. Yeah, I paid all the bills and the rent this month. FML
Today, my husband admitted to getting his side chick (who I didn't know about) pregnant. If that wasn't bad enough, he actually had the nerve to call me a "selfish bitch" for wanting a divorce and refusing to help raise the kid once it's born. FML
Today, my husband got paid. I checked our bank account and was shocked to see we'd only received $300. I called him, insisting that there was some mistake. He said he'd started a new bank account in his name so he could manage our money on his own, and the $300 was my "allowance". I now want a divorce. FML
Today, I found out my husband of one year has been renting his old batchelor's apartment in secret, because he is unsure if he wants to stay married to me, and we are broke. FML
Today, I asked my husband to be a little more responsible, pick up after himself, and spend a little less. I earn more than he does, so it's usually my money that he splurges. He has gone on a non-stop tantrum for the past 5 hours, giving me the cold shoulder, and shouting at me. What have I gotten myself into? FML
Today, a guy I went out with twice, and slept with once, came knocking on my door, hysterically crying. Apparently his wife found out about “us” and kicked him out. He’s now asking where he can put his stuff, since he’s now homeless. I had no idea he was married, and she’s now looking to fight me. FML
Today, my husband of 3 weeks told me he doesn't want to be married anymore because I suggested getting a joint bank account. FML
Today, my fiancé and I had a fight over household expenses. He's never had a job in his life, but this didn't stop him demanding that I get another full-time job to pay for video games and beer. FML
Today, my husband came home drunk off his ass at 2am. He started crying on my shoulder because he couldn't go home with some beautiful woman who hit on him, because sadly for him, he's married to me. FML
Today, my husband just told me that he no longer loves me but keeps me around to handle his finances. FML
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MDoremis 38
I could name plenty of reasons he's the bad guy.
Eliiara 11
Addiction (I would assume) can unfortunately do that. It's a terrible thing to have to deal with for everyone involved.
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Comments (103)
Marynfrankie 19
You deserve better than that! I say go through with the divorce!
RedPillSucks 33
that seems like a lot of booze unless your share is a lot less than half. I'd say take him up on his offer. you can do bad by yourself. don't need a boozer to bring you down.
ELoni_fml 25
He's not the bad guy, he's the worst guy!
juggalo2 22
He needs serious help, but you do too. Start attending Al-Anon (support group for friends and family of alcoholics) so that you can get yourself right. If he doesn't get the message and start improving himself, you may have to alter the terms of your deal. An understanding support group will help you with the decision and process.
kellyem2 20
These groups can offer a great amount of support. In situations like these every choice can seem like the wrong one. Don't go through this alone, OP.
thatonetribute 31
Leave him, op.
johnarp23 4
you share rent with your husband?
ScooperScribbles 10
My guess would be that they split the cost so that an equal amount is being taken from both their paychecks rather than the entire amount from one account.
dannnngthatsux 19
Except #41, somehow he spent HER share of the rent. So it seems she gives him cash or a check and that didn't go where it should. Apparently his share did?
ohSNAPyall 27
Some people are talking as if the only problem is that the husband blew the rent money, or that he is an addict. What about the fact that he is unstable, unkind, abusive? You don't threaten divorce every time you're mad and then come back and ask why the other person is upset with you, as if nothing had happened.
juggalo2 22
The assumption is that the unstable, unkind and abusive behaviors stem from his addiction. Until he faceshis addiction, there's no hope for addressing the other problems.
marcranger 29
I don't necessarily agree. Plenty of people are assholes with or without addictions. Sure, he needs to get it together and stay away from alcohol, but cutting that alone probably isn't going to make him a better person unless he wants to be one.
DoomedGemini 38
My father WAS abusive, but as long as he's on his antidepressants he's actually very nice and happy. My brother is the same way, as soon as he's not taking his meds his anger is out of control. Some people ARE just abusive, but sometimes they do just have a problem. If it's unsafe, obviously leave. I don't want to encourage anyone in an abusive relationship to stay in hopes they'll change, my dad did not until after my mom divorced him and he found someone else. I just want to explain sometimes there are causes to the behavior.
marcranger 29
I know there can be mitigating factors, 73. I'm depressed myself, and I'm in much better control of my temper when I'm on meds. I just wanted to point out that some people are just awful no matter what, so OP shouldn't expect AA to be a magical fix for her boyfriend. In fact, I'd lean to accepting his "offer" of divorce either way.
DoomedGemini 38
That is definitely true. A big thing is if he's willing to even try to get better. He's still in denial it seems. If he refuses to even see something is wrong, there's really not much op can do. You can't help someone who doesn't want help, if he can't see something's wrong or is willing to try to get help.. Yeah, op needs to leave. And not the 'I'll try to be better' and nothing happens. If he's not going to actually try, you can't do anything.
ncparry 18
Wait...your share of the rent? You don't just pay it from one source considering you are married? Don't hang on to this one anymore, he's a loser.
dumdum1996 7
If I were you I'd take him up on that offer of a divorce.....sorry you have to deal with all this OP....
CrazyManNo9 29
Al-Anon for you. AA or divorce for him. It is a disease and he is sick, but only he can decide to get better. You need to decide the best for you and Al-Anon can help. I know. I am in AA.