Today, my husband and I went to marriage counselling. I confessed something that was bothering me, but he didn't understand. Our counselor repeated word-for-word what I said right back at him. He turned to me angrily and shouted, "Why couldn't you just say that the first time?!" FML
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Today, my husband and I went to our first counseling sessions, where the main focus was communication. When the therapist called us in together to discuss techniques we could use at home, my husband looked around, rolled his eyes, and responded with, "Uh huh" to every question. FML
Today, we went to couples' counselling. After a while the therapist said to me, “Madam, since we've started, your husband has managed two full sentences without you interrupting him, and most of what you said was, frankly, childish whining.” I'm starting to realise I might be the problem. FML
Today, after a nasty fight with my military husband, which resulted in mandatory marriage counseling, he told me we needed to talk about the fight. Not talk it over and apologize; talk it over so our stories are consistent when we see the therapist. FML
Today, my husband and I finally agreed on something: marriage counseling. FML
Today, my marriage counselor got divorced. FML
Today, I mentioned to my wife that we should try marriage counseling. She responded by denying it while throwing a carton of milk at me. FML
Today, I came home and my spouse decided to bring up our past arguments. I apologized to him for the mean things I said, not conjuring his faults. I spoke to him gently and was interested in his thoughts. I validated his feelings. I was engaged in the discussion. He responded to me with, “Too little too late!” FML
Today, I tried to talk to my soon-to-be-husband about how he needs to take a more active approach in his own life. It devolved to him screaming at me and putting words in my mouth. This has been going on for six months. FML
Today, I told my wife that she gets 100% of me and I keep nothing from her. She told me she doesn't want it and that I should get counseling. FML
Today, I told my husband that I didn't think our marriage was going to survive our stillbirth, and that we should get divorced. He said, "No way. We're going to marriage and grief counseling and not giving up on our marriage." He just doesn't understand that I blame myself so much and want to set him free. FML
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FMLJFL 5
Counseling for a reason.
brittanyrmh_ 12
Good to see communication in your relationship is a ten out of ten
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FMLJFL 5
Counseling for a reason.
ecstacie 2
Marriage counseling is a joke people just need to talk to there husbands/wives instead of paying someone to talk to. Trust is a big part of any relationship and you shouldn't hide anything from the person you vowed to spend the rest of your life with. YDI
silvercamaro 22
Maybe her husband needs more then just marriage counseling...
skittlestrailmix 14
I totally agree, it is clear that this couple needs counseling... Good luck you two.
P374RD3D 9
#22 Sometimes people are unable to solve the problem on their own and need help from a third party. OP deserves it because this is one of those cases?
0ops_i_died 8
And in most cases if someone has a problem it help to hear it from someone other than your spouse. This was obviously one of those cases...
CaptainDoorknob 7
I think anger management is better for him.
kayPandastyle 15
Yeah like a fuckn hearing aid!
emilyjgraham 34
Think about it, if he gets mad over something like this then he could be the type of person to leave her over something silly. He's agreed to go to counselling (may have taken a little persuasion) but this shows he senses something is wrong and they can't fix it alone but wants to! I think counselling can be a very positive thing, it can help people get their point across when they normally struggle. And sometimes when others are in the room they may handle the situation differently, instead of screaming at each other they may find it easier to actually talk one another!
xtalondriver 14
THERE may be people who need help learning to communicate with THEIR spouses. THERE, I said it.
AlexM42 5
Actually it is not a joke, it's an excellent method for cognitive restructuring within a relationship. The issue is that by the time that most couples start attending their relationship is already too torn apart for there to be a proper amount of time to mend it before it caves in on itself. If people would overcome the stigmas surrounding therapy the world would, on a whole, be a much happier and saner place.
klimpomppp 9
YOUR life would have been hell if you'd gotten any of those wrong XD
raven_of_azarath 35
#22 That's like saying that psychiatric treatment for people who are depressed is stupid because they can deal their issues themselves.
Mearemoi 14
What an idiot.
WritingWrongs 8
No, I think you're over-thinking it, he just wasn't paying attention, and assumed the therapist said it a different way, so he acted like that just to look like he was listening. Just my guess.
rangerPat 12
Of course, OP could also be mistaken in this and actually have thought that the therapist repeated word-for-word what she said, where in reality the therapist just put it in simple terms for hubby.
brittanyrmh_ 12
Good to see communication in your relationship is a ten out of ten
lukep135 6
I don't know why but this comment's sarcasm is funnier than usual
brittanyrmh_ 12
Well, thanks, I suppose.
AKGirlinSD 20
It's brilliant! I thought the same exact thing. Sounds like the wife feels and appearance she's talking to a wall whenever she speaks to her husband. Best of luck to them!
AKGirlinSD 20
*appears....not appearance. Silly me.
MeLuvBewbs 7
And you married him why? ... Hope both of you can resolve your issues and live happily again :)
Hiimhaileypotter 53
She probably married him because there's something about him she loves.... Just a guess.
Futacy 30
And problems ans conflict aren't always apparent from the start, just ask the 51% of couples that have or will get divorced someday.
MzMegs 20
Attitudes like yours are the reason why divorce is so prevalent, #4. People with that attitude think that communication/other issues can't be worked out and decide to just give up without even trying. NO ONE is perfect, and that means there will always be disagreements, even between the most similar of people. You just have to ask yourself if your relationship is worth more than your pity issues.
EmazingLight 9
To me this might as well have been a "he's a keeper" comment and gotten the same response.
Scarshadow101 6
Yeah...your husband needs some chill pills. Or perhaps hearing aids. It's your call.
wildsweetchild 19
We can never know..for some people, when a person who's close to them tells them something or gives them an advice, they simply can't hear it... and the more you tell them, the less is the chance they'll ever hear or get it...it's like they hit an automatic ignore button that reacts on curtain topics...so for those types of cases all it takes is a third person (even better a stranger) to tell them absolutely the same thing and magically they hear it and get it.
KMtheDrummer 6
This is the absolute epitome of that.
LuminousKing 7
Just say back everything he says
Futacy 30
OP probably used to do that all the time, but then she turned five.
tootsie68 22
Guess its not working out for you, huh?
Accuraxy 10
I would imagine no, since they are in marriage counseling.
EagorLuvsBigFoot 8
I hope everything works out well between you. my parents just got divorced so this hits close to home
SamanthaCassieL 10
I'm so sorry for that, my friends parents are currently going through it, and it really sucks and its not even happening to me directly. I hope you feel better and keep in mind, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Gordon12345 7
Or gives you PTSD.
iiTzNeeNerz 26
Or ***** you up mentally.
Myo_fml 20
That's what PTSD i-... Just nevermind. -shakes head-
EagorLuvsBigFoot 8
17- thanks so much. That just made my day :)
ICastillo 25
Sounds like the ass has selective hearing.
flutter4 7
It also sounds like he is attacking her verbally because he might be hiding something
SystemofaBlink41 27
26- or he could be a typical cranky pants....
soullessgingers 0
Sounds like it's working really well, eh?