Today, I woke up to my apartment in a state of total disarray. I've been asking my boyfriend to get either get a job, or clean the house. I just had a bunch of dental work taken care of. He doesn't have a job, and doesn't want to find one. I'm tired of trying to raise an already grown man. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I had to beg and argue with my boyfriend to get him to take a shower and brush his teeth. This has become a recurring argument now we're confined together. FML
Today, I had to beg my boyfriend to get him to take a shower and brush his teeth. This is a basic weekly argument. FML
Today, after a full shift at work, I got home to my boyfriend playing CoD, a full sink, crap all over the table, a full cat box, dirty bathroom, no laundry done and the kids at my parents' house. He yelled at me because the place was a mess. FML
Today, and ever since my boyfriend moved in, I've learned just how much his mother did everything for him and never taught him how to adult. In the last month I've had to show him how to cook, clean the house, do laundry and drying, use the vacuum, pay household bills, and he still moans its too hard. FML
Today, my wife called me at work to yell at me because the house is a mess. She hasn't helped me clean in over two years, and when I ask for help, there's always a new excuse, headache, tired from work, stress, etc. FML
Today, my boyfriend sits in an empty apartment, complaining about it being a rat hole. HE picked the place, HE refuses my help to decorate, as well as my offer to get his stuff from the old place, and yes, he could totally afford something better. But sure, his life is shit. FML
Today, after I finally recovering from being ill, my husband complained about the house being messy, that I needed to clean up after myself. I filled 2 large tote bags with his stuff laying around the house, and one small stack of medical bills for me. It took me hours to clean. But I'm the messy one. FML
Today, I asked my husband to be a little more responsible, pick up after himself, and spend a little less. I earn more than he does, so it's usually my money that he splurges. He has gone on a non-stop tantrum for the past 5 hours, giving me the cold shoulder, and shouting at me. What have I gotten myself into? FML
Today, my boyfriend, who moved in about a month ago, decided he wanted to move back out. Why? Because I don't keep my place clean enough for him. This, coming from the same man who refuses to wash or clean anything because "that's what women are for." FML
Today, my boyfriend did the washing as an attempt to help me. Not only are all my clothes now pink, he refuses to do the dishes, vacuuming, bathroom, ironing etc., as he has done "plenty." FML
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Top comments
daisythebunny1988 9
It sounds like it's time to gtfo and let his momma take care of him judging from this post
Kurliez408 32
leave him, he's not worth it if he has no intentions of helping you out
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Comments (24)
daisythebunny1988 9
It sounds like it's time to gtfo and let his momma take care of him judging from this post
Hangryko 32
Dump him. Don't waste any more of your time on this man-child.
Kurliez408 32
leave him, he's not worth it if he has no intentions of helping you out
Rae Miller 10
Take it from someone who put up with that kind of shit for 11 years. He isn’t going to change. Better cut your losses now than when you are married or have kids.
bloopaloop 27
You like this. That’s why you’re still doing it.
Baby_123 8
That’s nice of you to say sometimes staying is these perverse relationships is a mental condition and sometimes the person cannot get out
julfunky 29
Not how it works. No one “likes” this. Other factors come into play.
Jaymail 19
You need to have a really good talk with yourself. Perhaps with a Counselor or some other trusted adult. Take a couple of days. And then ask yourself if you are better off WITH or WITHOUT him. This present Virus has us all stressed out. I understand the unemployment rate is as low as it was during the 1929 Stock Market Crash. So please don’t come down on him to hard for being unemployed until after the virus is over. There MAY NOT BE any real jobs presently out there. DO make him accountable for cleaning and doing chores. If you decide to keep him then give him some sort of an incentive once he completes each task. To let him know that you notice. And that you care.
mekiswrite 21
OP shouldn't have to give him an incentive to clean a house he lives in. If he can't pay rent, he either needs to contribute in another way or find a different place to live. I do agree, however, that OP needs to consider what she is getting out of being with him.
Mathalamus 25
He probably won't find a job now.....
mayaklast 12
The simple fact that you had to ask is a big red flag. He has to get his shit together on his own, for your and his sake, and making someone do things by blackmailing them with the end of the relationship doesn't seem healthy either. Considering the relationship is clearly no longer working for you, I'd say ending it is a no brainer...
newwitch2010 11
Don’t wait, don’t walk, RUN!!!
ojoRojo 27
If you continue to allow him to live/be with you while nothing’s changed, nothing WILL change. Time for some drastic measures.