Today, my boyfriend gave me a fancy chocolate candy and I got angry at him for forgetting that I'm allergic to chocolate and threw the candy into the garbage disposal. Turns out, he had spent a ton of money getting a chocolatier to put an engagement ring inside the candy that I just destroyed. FML
I agree, your life sucks (6762) - you totally deserved it (42064)
On 10/20/2009 at 4:17pm - misc - by jaxattax (woman) - United States (California)
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Maybe you can try being less of an emotional cunt-bag next time?
My boyfriend is allergic to: peanuts, eggs, dairy , chocolate, seeds, nuts, legumes, and coconut. Somehow, I can manage not to give him gifts that will result in anaphylaxis. It's not that fucking hard to remember the things that your boy/girlfriend is allergic to, I would've flipped a shit too.
#66 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:43pm by antiprettysin
OP I can't decide what is worse. You throwing away the engagement ring or you being allergic to chocolate!!!
If you are allergic to chocolate then you are missing on some real good things!
#110 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:11pm by metheonlyb
#66 try again. Penuts are legumes you imbecile. Try to make your story plausible if you're gonna lie...
#132 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:48pm by Scrantoncity
#66: While you are right that peanuts are legumes, people usually don't think of them as such. Legumes bring to mind lentils, beans, and peas. So it's likely that she didn't even know this. If he has just said "legumes", she might have had peanuts around him without realizing. Don't just assume she's lying.
#136 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:59pm by chicagochick
Yeah, FYL OP for having someone who thinks he knows you well enough to be married to you but doesn't even fucking know your allergies.
Time to have a serious look at this relationship.
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You don’t throw away gifts just like that. Not before you talk over the reason of selection/dislike. FYL for being a super bitch which you boy friend should have thrown out in the garbage can.
Yea chicagochick is totally right. Legumes = beans. Think before you speak/type.
#186 - On 10/21/2009 at 5:19am by Sugar_lipsXo
Exactly, #200.
You WAY overreacted, it was just a sweet though misguided act, and well, you threw it away!!
Even if you are allergic, you shouldn't have been so mean about it, you could have kindly stated that you appreciate the thought, but you can't eat it.
As for your boyfriend, If he was going to propose, he should know things like your allergies. That isn't something he should forget.
Well, maybe her boyfriend did know her allergy, and expected her to say "Hon, I'm allergic to chocolate" then he would say "open it up" where she tears up and says yes.
He probably didn't count on her being a cunt bitch.
She's not a bitch. I had a reaction when I touched a doorknob after my college roommate ate Chinese food (because of the peanut oil, I guess). All of you who think the OP overreacted don't understand how difficult it is to have a lifethreatening allergy to common food items. If they've been together long enough to consider marriage, it's something he definitely knew. His creativity doesn't cancel his thoughtlessness. He doesn't know the OP well enough to be proposing, which is the true FML.
How was she supposed to know there was a ring in there?
#135 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:59pm by killinglights
Yeah, and she had an appropriate reaction, right? Hey genius, allergies do not excuse being FUCKING PSYCHO.
#155 - On 10/21/2009 at 12:09am by noshitsherlock
I agree..while it may be aggravating to have to deal with an allergy and people forgetting about it..but that's no reason to go completely psycho and throw a present into the garbage disposal. Her bf was nice enough to even get her anything..she should be happy he thought of her at least, not flip out over it. Hopefully the bf saw this and took it into consideration when deciding if proposing is really the best idea
#163 - On 10/21/2009 at 12:35am by pancakes_n_syrup
In her defense, we don't know how allergic she is, or how often she has to remind her boyfriend. Maybe she is constantly reminding him and just got fed up this time.
Also, if she is deathly allergic, I wouldn't consider it that thoughtful of a gift...
"Here honey, I got you a box of arsenic-laced candies with a surprise inside that I expect you to find upon eating said candies, unless you chip a tooth or choke on it. What's that you say? Arsenic is a poison? So sorry, I must have forgotten. Oh well, it's the thought that counts."
#194 - On 10/21/2009 at 9:08am by snake_Girl85
i completely understand OP's reaction. i'm not even allergic to anything, but if my boyfriend forgot something that vital about me, i would be pretty pissed. if i didn't throw it in the garbage disposal, i would've thrown it in the trash or at him. there would still be much yelling. i don't consider that being a bitch or overreacting, i consider that a reasonable reaction to someone essentially handing me a cyanide pill as a present. #194 has it spot on.
#202 - On 10/21/2009 at 11:18am by diet_otaku
I'm going to say you're incredibly stupid here, and YDI. And HDI, too. He should've remembered something like that, and maybe put it in something you aren't allergic to, like roses, or something. And why didn't you just throw it in the trash? Do you always throw things down the garbage disposal first?
#3 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:30pm by KaylaKiwified
You're so stupid! He's so stupid! YOU BOTH DESERVE EACH OTHER.
#31 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:44pm by InfectedWithDrew
i agree with #3 and #31. He is stupid for not knowing that someone he is going to get married to is allergic to chocolate and is that much of a drama queen. OP, you and your possibly fiance deserve each other.
#57 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:26pm by the_stereotype
Maybe he was going to say, "I know you're allergic, but TRUST me. You'll love this chocolate!" *shrug* She could just split it in half, not eat it.
#64 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:40pm by nativebacon
They're both just fucking idiots. *facepalm*
You'd think he would know her well enough to know what's potentially lethal to her. You'd think she wouldn't be so damn melodramatic about it.
#70 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:48pm by CyclonePsycho
#37, are you retarded? Chocolate allergies aren't as common as, say, a peanut or pollen allergy, but when someone has it it's bound to come up frequently because of chocolate being so prolific. And someone as close to her as boyfriend is a fucking moron for forgetting it and had no business trying to propose if he can't remember something like that.
Some allergies are so severe that you can't even touch what you're allergic to. Or eat something that's been in /contact/ with the substance. Guess why there's the warning "can contain nuts" on all sorts of things that don't usually contain nuts?
BTW, what's with putting an engagement ring into food? I mean, isn't that disgusting? The ring gets dirty, she might accidentally swallow it or bite down on it especially if it's not directly visible, and I wouldn't be happy if I ate a dessert and all of a sudden tasted metal either... What happened to just presenting the ring to her and popping the question?
#98 - On 10/20/2009 at 9:46pm by __no_one__
dear lord... so now 37 is retarded...?
seriously overreacting.
It is also quite possible that she isn't deathly allergic to chocolate, and her throat just gets itchy if she has it or something... then she would probably just pop a benadryl and not complain, and it wouldn't be a big deal... I have a good friend who is allergic to peanuts, but she can be around them and everything, she just can't eat them. There ARE varying degrees of allergies.. not just ones that lead to anaphylactic shock..
Just a comment: having your throat get itchy is the development of anaphylaxis. I know this because I go into anaphylactic shock if I eat hazelnuts, pecans, walnuts, etc. and when I was younger it used to just be this scratchy feeling in my throat, so my parents didn't think anything of it, until I started actually having my throat close up on me when I got into my preteen/teenage years.
And the OP is probably anaphylactic to chocolate, otherwise she probably wouldn't have reacted so negatively.
#115 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:15pm by XOfiestypixie
good point... but it still seems a little stupid to throw a custom made gift down the garbage disposal...
how does it make sense for her to assume something she's allergic to was custom made for her? And for people saying it would've been okay if she at least threw it in the trash - garbage disposals are for food. It makes perfect sense.
#134 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:58pm by iliketoreadfmls
Yeah, he's an idiot for doing it, and she's an idiot for throwing it out instead of giving it back. I hate when people waste food. If you don't want it give it to me and I'll save it for when I'm hungry. I'd be rather annoyed to see someone just throw away a gift of food like that when people are starving to death in the world.
Putting a ring in the food is just asking for a choking accident too. People, turn the brains on when you do things.
#64 why would she be like, "hmm well this chocolate may be life threatening for me to even touch it but my 'ring inside life threatening food' sences are tingling so for some odd reason im going to rip this in half even though i shouldnt even marry someone who doesnt know how to keep me alive"
giving someone poison is not a nice gesture, ever. it doesn't matter how infrequently it comes up, that is vital information to know about a person and forgetting it shows extreme insensitivity on his part.
#203 - On 10/21/2009 at 11:24am by diet_otaku
74 wasn't calling you retarded, they were asking if you were. but yes you are now in fact retarded.
#209 - On 10/21/2009 at 12:20pm by tequilabird
I TOTALLY feel for the OP. My close friends, boyfriend, and those around me at least a little bit know that I don't like it. That's because chocolate is EVERYWHERE. It's in like 90% of candy bars, girl scout cookies (or cookies at all), party/wedding cakes, chocolate dips for fruit at events, etc. I turn down chocolate all the time, so if my man forgot I didn't like chocolate, it's pretty much the same as forgetting we have a son together.. Believe me it is everywhere, and if you bf hasn't remembered that, he is definately not ready to marry you. I'm guessing y'all have only been dating for a month or two. I know this and I'm not even allergic (so I eat it from time to time to appease the cook), so I'm sure you turn it down much more than I do! He's idiotic, and people who say she overreacted are thinking about it like she knew there was a ring in there. If you thought you had useless food, you would dispose of it how you always do...although i do agree with #152, I hate wasted food! Although I would've been hella pissed and raised hell that he forgot something that I identify as part of my identity. He might as well forget we went to college together or that I've played soccer my whole life...what a jerk!
#222 - On 10/21/2009 at 4:19pm by mastapeace16
But still...why would he hide the ring in something he knew you were allergic to?
#4 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:30pm by too_much_fun
My thoughts exactly.
What, did he think that she would look at it and go "I'm allergic... OM NOM NOM ooh hai! A ring!!"? He should have thought it out.
OP, I would have been mad too, maybe not garbage disposal mad but still.
#65 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:42pm by Sun_Kissed18
Yeah. As tempting as it is to say that she deserves it, I really don't think so. If my boyfriend gave me something I hated or was actually allergic to, I would get pissed too. Who wouldn't? How was she supposed to know her boyfriend was stupid enough to propose in something she's allergic to?
#74 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:51pm by anniemeece
That's a sweet gesture, sort of, except how did he expect you to get the ring out of the chocolate? He probably should have thought of a different way to propose to you...
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You eat the chocolate part. AROUND the ring.
#13 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:32pm by Emilyinroom483
@ Emily - if she's allergic to chocolate, how is she supposed to eat the chocolate and get to the ring?
#14 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:33pm by singachic87
if she ate the chocolate (assuming she would have been able to if she wasn't allergic), she could potentially swallow the ring, or break her tooth biting down on it
Seriously. Though I think the OP MASSIVELY overreacted and is ultimately at blame, the bf sounds pretty stupid. 1. How can you forget an allergy of your future spouse, and 2. How can you think that hiding a diamond in ANY food is a good idea? The potential for bodily harm is way too high.
It's cute that he did that...but seriously, if he's proposing, shouldn't he remember that you're allergic to chocolate? Definitely sucks :(
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And this is why you don't throw temper tantrums. You shouldn't be getting married if you have the mindset of a 12 year old.
#7 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:31pm by Emilyinroom483
I'm sure this is why so many people get divorced. Just think if he would have been late on a mortgage payment. lol.
#28 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:41pm by lonewolf052706
I don't think you deserved it...why would he spend a lot of money to put an engagement ring inside of something you couldn't eat anyways? Not that this is a FYL, but I hope his second attempt at a proposal works out better....if he tries again.
#9 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:31pm by singachic87
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...because he forgot that she was allergic to chocolate. The poor guy thought he was being romantic, but his girlfriend threw a fit.
#30 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:44pm by Emilyinroom483
i don't feel sorry for the guy for FORGETTING her allergy. he deserved what he got, maybe next time he'll actually remember important shit like that.
#204 - On 10/21/2009 at 11:27am by diet_otaku
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^ Agreed. He probably got the idea from somewhere else, and got caught up in it, forgetting the detail of you being allergic to chocolate.
Anyways, why would you throw a bitch fit? Just remind him your allergic and hand it back - your allergy isn't always gunna be the top thing on his mind all the time. If he forgot that you mentioned it, why do you have to go crazy and ruin it? Overreacting much?
Maybe he should have remembered for something this important, but your reaction is just stupid.
#54 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:24pm by averagexbecca
My best friend is allergic to peanut butter, and though its not at the front of my mind 24/7, I always remember not to eat peanut butter around her. If someone as close to her, and who loves and cares about her if he wants to marry her, should forget, I believe she has every right to be upset. You'd think on their first dates or something she might mention, I'm allergic to chocolate, but that's just me.
OP, while its unfortunate that this happened, I hope that you can talk it out with him and not break up. Obviously he loves and cares enough about you to want to spend his life with you, but I guess he slipped up this time.
#126 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:29pm by possumisawesome
I'm going to say you deserve it for being so ridiculous. Yes, he forgot you're allergic. But I've never met anyone so spoiled as to THROW A GIFT down the disposal, allergic or not. It's rude. Maybe you'll think next time.
Agreed, poor guy thought he was being romantic :(
Maybe you haven't really mentioned you're allergic to chocolate...even if you are to throw it down the garabage disposal without a second thought is harshh and mean anyways! YDI
#19 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:36pm by realxmuto
i'd think a chocolate allergy would come up with someone you're dating...what with dessert sharing and boxes of chocolate for valentine's day being so commonplace...
Well obviously you way overreacted, so I hope you had fun fishing that ring out of the garbage disposal.
But I am still curious as to why he would put it in chocolate if you are allergic...was is an allergen safe faux chocolate or was there some inside joke that went with it?
Actually there are some substitutes that are often used to create faux chocolates. Carob is a really popular one that can be switched out in almost any recipe. If her boyfriend went through the effort to have someone create a custom chocolate its very possible that he actually had a carob 'chocolate' made.
I have yet to see such things myself, though I have searched. And thus I stand corrected. I apologize for my misinformation.
#183 - On 10/21/2009 at 5:06am by GreenAlbatross
You both fail. One) he should have known you were allergic to chocolate. Two YDI for overreacting, a simple statement would have been better. example. "Honey, why did you get me chocolate you know im allergic?"
That. I wish people would take the time to explain themselves more instead of just saying, "This.". It just leaves me asking, "What the hell about 'This'?".
#167 - On 10/21/2009 at 12:59am by sephirothyeti
Um, when people say "this" it basically means "I agree with this." It's not that hard to understand.
#169 - On 10/21/2009 at 1:03am by liquidskyfire
I know what it means. I just wish people would use complete sentences and explain what about, "This", they agree with.
#174 - On 10/21/2009 at 1:12am by sephirothyeti
Well, chances are they agree with everything, which is why they only type, "This."
Most people wouldn't see the sense in repeating word for word something that was already posted, so they leave their one word agreement.
#188 - On 10/21/2009 at 5:55am by AndelleRae
You deserve it for overreacting.
But he made a mistake, too, for putting it in something you're allergic to.
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People forget things. No need to have a titty attack and act like a 3 year old :[ edit to my first comment
i guess both. you deserved it for not thinking and acting irrationally and he deserved it for putting it in chocolate.
#20 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:36pm by rosemary
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You sure it wasn't some special sort of chocolate you COULD eat?
Also, you're kind of a bitch. Where do you get off throwing a hissy fit like that for something as seemingly benign as a candy bar?
#21 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:36pm by anaphaseii
^ This.
My auntie is allergic to chocolate, she has a chocolate-like candy made of carob that is safe for her to eat (I think someone here already mentioned carob being a substitute). Sure, it's a bit pricier than regular cocoa-based chocolate, but it smells and tastes pretty much the same.
And considering he went to the trouble of having the chocolate custom-made, it's highly likely the stuff was carob-based.
Of course the smart thing for the guy to do, if he'd never given her coco-substitute before, would be to say "oh, by the way, it's carob, not chocolate, I remembered you were allergic", so she WOULDN'T assume it was the thing she was so allergic to.
But...what's done is done. YDI for overreacting like a spoiled brat, and HDI for either forgetting you had allergies, or not mentioning what the candy was made of (had it been a substitute).
#264 - On 10/22/2009 at 9:09pm by myfriend_youfail
I think if I was going to get an engagement ring for someone allergic to chocolate, I would find a way to propose without involving chocolate in any way.
If he didn't remember something as major as an allergy, I don't see why you'd want to marry him anyways..
#25 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:39pm by popcorncomics
I'm so glad some people responding to this have some sense.
#133 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:54pm by iliketoreadfmls
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YDI I sincerely hope he broke up with you. You're far too immature to be getting married anytime soon. And he's far too inconsiderate to be marrying you. However, I blame you for never getting engaged. You're a childish person whom throws a tantrum about the chocolate. You should have checked the inside of the chocolate before destroying it.
If I were your boyfriend, I wouldn't give you another ring. I'd give you a plastic 25 cent one to destroy since you seem so keen on being a child forever.
#27 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:41pm by whatxthexeff
How often are there shiny things inside chocolates? If you think she should have checked, you should start ripping apart everything people give you, food or otherwise, just in case there's an engagement ring in there.
#36 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:49pm by GreenAlbatross
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How dare he forget anything about you!!! I'm sure he doesn't even remember what you wore last Tuesday!
Seriously, though. People make mistakes. That doesn't make it ok for you to be totally rude towards their efforts to do something nice for you. You are a bitch and YDI. Karma is a bitch.
Hahaha I could see myself doing that too... HE deserves it. What kind of dumbass idea is that, proposing in a food that you're allergic to?
#32 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:45pm by nevele11
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You can see yourself doing such? How goes being a bitch?
Ok, seriously, if he's going to be proposing to her, he should know about her food allergies already. And for those of you saying she overreacted, it sounds like he forgets and has given her chocolates a fair number of times. How the hell was she supposed to know the ring was in there. When people propose like that it's meant to be a surprise, so, he can't expect her to know.
FYL op, and he deserves it so much for being that stupid.
#33 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:47pm by GreenAlbatross
Bullshit. You're pulled the "Repeat forgetting" thing out of nowhere. And either way, she's supposed to get a "free bitch" pass because her boyfriend has a poor memory? Bullshit.
I'm tired of the "Wah I'm a stupid cunt and it came back to bite me posts," but apparently some idiots have sympathy for these people.
Ok, so I may be wrong. I will accept anything and everything coming my way if I am. But I have a similar allergy and I get a bit short with my family and best friends about it because they already know. I am however understanding and patient with people who I only recently informed of my condition. Also, from my perspective, she's not being a bitch. She never said anything about yelling or flipping out, just that she got annoyed and threw a piece of food into the garbage disposal.
Again, if I'm wrong, so be it. But it appears to me that she is not at all at fault and he is a dipshit.
#184 - On 10/21/2009 at 5:14am by GreenAlbatross
who throws choclate in a garbage disposal? but then again how could you forget that your possible soon to be wife is allergic to?
FYL- for being allergic to chocolate
btw- y would ur bf propose with chocolate if he knows ur allergic? thats one big screw up
#39 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:51pm by jessxoxo28
This is both of your faults. You shouldn't of got mad over something like that, and he should of thought about it more and put the ring in or on something else.
If he gave you a chocolate bar and youre allergic, why didn't you hand it back to him and say "i'm allergic". Instead of getting pissed and throwing it in the garbage disposal, you could have thrown it in the trash. YDI
#42 - On 10/20/2009 at 7:54pm by Velocity23
I would love to know the rest of this story and how everything turned out...
#44 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:01pm by cetaitamour
It was his own fault anyway, since he still forgot you're allergic (unless he's trying to hurt you). Why would you spend a ton of money to get a ring in the chocolate when the person is allergic to it? That's just stupid.
YDI kinda for having a stupid ass boyfriend that would propose to you while giving you a potential allergy attack. find a guy that can at least remember these things damn. he also deserved to have the fortune he spent destroyed, what a loser.
#48 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:07pm by wambamtysam
some relationship you have if he doesn't know you're allergic to chocolate by the time you're getting ENGAGED...
#49 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:08pm by youreanidiot
HDI, you're just fine.
I mean really, how can you forget your girlfriend is allergic to chocolate? It's something any guy would figure out in the first month or two of a relationship, and considering all the ways in which our culture encourages guys to give their girlfriends chocolate, it's hard to forget if yours is allergic.
In short, he's an idiot. He should be posting, not you.
#51 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:08pm by FoundManyLemons
For the slower people that don't understand this. She is ALLERGIC to the chocolate and some people get sick from even the smell of the thing their allergic to. She could have been one of those people which is why she disposed of it the way she did.
Orrrrr...it could be exactly how she said it. She got angry at him for forgetting she was allergic, and so she threw it in the garbage disposal.
#59 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:28pm by averagexbecca
Putting it in a disposal, where it gets chopped into a million little pieces and spread through the air, makes so much more sense than just sticking it in the trash can if she was allergic enough that something like smell or touch could make her sick.....
#106 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:10pm by sarah_berah
If I was so sensitive to an allergy that the mere smell could set me off, I would put the thing in a plastic bag and take it to the rubbish bin outside, I wouldn't throw it in the garbage disposal which would disperse the smell throughout the kitchen (or whatever room you might have your garbage disposal in).
You're supposed to thank them for thinking about you and be happy with it, instead of making him feel like shit. Grow up.
#55 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:24pm by hellokimmiee
thanks for editing out my comment , staff of FML... knuckleheads
#56 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:25pm by Einstein714
Going with HDI on this one. Sure OP overreacted, but seriously, he's proposing to her and he can't even be bothered to remember her food allergies? Sounds like he needed to slow down and rethink his decision anyway.
You are a little overdramatic. It was nice on his part to try and make the proposal romantic. If he hasn't dumped you, pay him back and get your own ring.
#60 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:30pm by heliophobia
Okay seriously, I don't think she was being overdramatic at all. If i were her, I would have thrown the goddamn chocolate AT the guy. I mean, seriously. Why should she have to apologized? I mean, god, what's the big deal? If there wasn't a ring in the chocolate, would any of you think it's a big deal? NO probably NOT. She didn't know how much money was spent into making the chocolate thing. She couldn't have eaten it. The ring probably didn't break. The only money that was lost was due to the boyfriend being a douchebag.
#61 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:35pm by ohlookasaraah
Wow, lil' crazy much? She would have been way better of just telling him, honey, I'm allergic,
then he would have felt really bad. Even if there wasn't a ring in there, clearly he doesn't get her chocolate all the time, she must have noticed it was a really nice bar of chocolate, she could have said thanks for being thoughtful babe, but I seriously need you to remember that I'm allergic to this in the future. It's not like he spiked her food with it and she had a reaction.
And we're assuming she even told him clearly that she was allergic, maybe she mumbled it at a restaurant somewhere and just figured he heard her.
Having a temper tantrum over something so minor just indicates that she's way too immature to be getting married. There are a ton of ways that this could have been resolved in her favor without her tossing it into the garbage disposal.
#81 - On 10/20/2009 at 9:02pm by Emrysa
If there hadn't been a ring in there it would still have been nearly as bad. It's never OK to get angry about sincere gifts, and borderline psycho to destroy it in front of the person who just gave it to you. Imagine if she had gotten her boyfriend a tie and he takes out a lighter and sets it aflame while screaming that he never wears [color].
ok...like you've never gotten angry in your life. from time to time, people get angry about things that mean something to them. if in every situation we handled things calmly, things would be a lot better. But to say she should've done it calmly is just dumb. whether or not he's done it this once or a million times, she felt hurt and threw it away. It's not like she slashed his tires. So, unless you have never gotten angry about anything, stfu.
#305 - On 11/06/2009 at 3:41pm by mastapeace16
Unless it's something that comes up a lot, something that he constantly forgets, then YDI, big time.
#63 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:40pm by xOpheliacx
You need to dump that pretentious, homicidal maniac right away!
First, he tries to kill you with deadly chocolate.
Then, he tries to break your teeth by getting a co-conspirator to hide the hardest substance in the world in said poison candy.
Finally, he is destroying your home by getting you to throw the poisoned, contaminated candy in the disposal.
Run, don't walk, RUN! He's out to kill you!
OMG it makes sense now. I thought OP was being dramatic much but no... she is being targeted by chocoterrorists.
#197 - On 10/21/2009 at 9:54am by TenebrificTurtle
I'm glad SOMEONE caught on!
To protect those allergic to chocolate from the chocoterrorists, we who can stomach the stuff have to eat it all up to deprive those maniacs of their weapon of choice. I'll go on a raid of Godiva and you attack Ghirardelli. Report back tomorrow.
You are an amazing person. I'm allergic, but I'll coordinate the attack on Scharffenberger (sp?).
#243 - On 10/22/2009 at 12:09am by GreenAlbatross
I have come back from my raid on the factory. I have succeeded in eating all the chocolate. They threatened to make more. Will go back tomorrow.
#250 - On 10/22/2009 at 11:03am by TenebrificTurtle
OH TEH NOES!! The Mars candy company is contacting their home base on Mars! We have to stop them!
#252 - On 10/22/2009 at 4:38pm by GreenAlbatross
Oh no! We have to stop them. If they get to Mars they will hoard the chocolate and create, Osama Binge Chocolate. He will come to earth and destroy all the snickerdoodles. We must destroy him, consume the evil.
We can take my spaceship if you want, stop by Venus and get a smoothie?
#257 - On 10/22/2009 at 6:51pm by TenebrificTurtle
Cool. Also... wear sweatpants, we need a big elastic waistline for this sort of work. We might have to join the gym when we return...
Also. Bring cute guys. We need cute guys to piss us off so we are inspired to eat chocolate.
#265 - On 10/23/2009 at 1:34am by TenebrificTurtle
Umm, I can't do much with the chocolate eating, I'm allergic. But I can recruit a munching militia and make things like cake, fondue and brownies out of the chocolate.
#266 - On 10/23/2009 at 3:25am by GreenAlbatross
Okay, you shall be our Choco-coordinator. You shall keep us up to date with the building of the great wall of chocolate. If we dine, we dine in Hershey! "Remember us." As simple an order as a king can give. "Remember why we died." For he did not wish tribute, nor song, nor monuments nor poems of war and valor. His wish was simple. "Remember us," he said to me. That was his hope, should any free soul come across that place, in all the countless centuries yet to be. May all our voices whisper to you from the ageless stones, "Go tell the world, passerby, that here by chocolate law, we lie."
#267 - On 10/23/2009 at 12:14pm by TenebrificTurtle
300 is exactly like going into space to fight Choco-terrorists. It thought it was an apt connection.
*Takes bow*
#270 - On 10/23/2009 at 2:20pm by TenebrificTurtle
Wow ten, don't know what to do with those. Perhaps I will breed them like spiders... this is the webs right? Or do they still live in tubes? LOL
Back to the mission... i have contracted chocoterroristicsyndromicconstipation adhd from all the chocolate. I need... MORE CHOCOLATE BUNNIES>
help me...
#273 - On 10/23/2009 at 6:02pm by TenebrificTurtle
IT'S OK! The medics are coming! They've got the milk truck and we'll have you right as rain in no time! I won't let you die of toxichocoshock!
#274 - On 10/23/2009 at 7:56pm by GreenAlbatross
Thank you, the milk has made me strong. Does a body intent on battle good. This is Hershey, we shall fight again. Let us harvest the bunnies and use their powers for our own evil... I mean righteous chocolate war.
#275 - On 10/23/2009 at 8:28pm by TenebrificTurtle
Aye sir! I'll go warm up the mixer and ready the cake batter for the chocolate!
#276 - On 10/23/2009 at 8:44pm by GreenAlbatross
Green you make me happy, YOU understand. I feel like Op does not understand how pervasive these chocoterrorists are. Her boyfriend has been turned to the dark chocolate side, a marriage to him would be a marriage to the Hershey Cult. I am proud of her for turning to the disposal, for that is what we must do, digest the chocolate and get rid of the evidence. Never again, I say, never again.
#280 - On 10/24/2009 at 1:11am by TenebrificTurtle
The battle now is won, but we must muster our forces in greater numbers for the holiday season! Halloween! Christmas! New Years! and the deadliest of them all......VALENTINE'S DAY! Time is running short and we must prepare soon!
#281 - On 10/24/2009 at 5:31am by GreenAlbatross
Those damn chocolate cherubs, we must destroy their arrows of chocolately goodness. To the gym, to slim down before the great battle, we will not let them think they have fattened us and deadened our senses... though, everything tastes like chocolate now.
#282 - On 10/24/2009 at 11:59am by TenebrificTurtle
wow way to overreact you crazy mofo. the fact he forgot you were allergic doesn't mean you have to chuck such a massive hissy fit. people forget. you didn't, so it's not like you would've eaten it and died. you DEFINITELY deserve it and i hope he dumps your ass and realizes how psychotic you are.
kind of not a good idea to put a ring in chocolate in the first place. she'd probably break a tooth..and then there would be chocolate embedded in all the crevices of the ring.
also i'm wondering, garbage disposals don't turn on automatically, why didn't he say something between the time she threw it in and flipped the switch?
#78 - On 10/20/2009 at 8:59pm by fretforyerlatte
This
Although, there is a chance he was so stunned by her psychotic reaction that she flipped it on and tossed before he realized what she was doing.
#84 - On 10/20/2009 at 9:06pm by Emrysa
who puts chocolate in a garbage disposal? there's this thing called a garbage can...
#79 - On 10/20/2009 at 9:01pm by IceCream53423
Wow, I hate how everyone is saying "OMG HE SHOULDA KNOWNZ@!!111eleven!@@".
Honestly, proposing is so hard to do. You have to think of something classy, and creative and spend a **** load of money on it. It is nothing easy to do, since you want it to be so good that there is no way you can get turned down. When the poor guy was brainstorming ideas and failing he probably got this wonderful idea and did it without thinking of allergies. Hell I don't even know what I'm allergic to myself. YDI.
#80 - On 10/20/2009 at 9:01pm by Anti_Quark
You don't get it. It isn't a contest. The idea is to move to the next step in a relationship, mutually. It's a big step, so make it nice, but that's all that matters. If the girl demands more than that, dump her.
#93 - On 10/20/2009 at 9:31pm by I_am_stupid_also
my god that's pathetic. you could have just reminded him, some people don't remember these things. it doesn't mean he doesn't care. but instead you went and acted like a total bitch and freaked out...i can't stand people like you, you make the rest of us girls look pathetic!
#83 - On 10/20/2009 at 9:05pm by elliekinslurvsya
Who throws anything like that in the garbage disposal? Its called a trash can. BIG YDI!
Btw, f your boyfriends life. It's ashame he met you.
Today, I bought a very expensive engagment ring for my girlfriend. As a surprise I put it in a fancy chocolate candy. She got angry at me and chucked it in the garbage disposal. FML
*adds "because I forgot she's one of the few people that's allergic to chocolate"*
#92 - On 10/20/2009 at 9:30pm by TotalPandamonium
if this had been the real FML posted, with the added part by Total Pandamonium, i think the majority of people would be telling him that he deserves it for forgetting something like that, with no mention of her being a "crazy bitch."
That's what I think.
All the comments would have been telling him what an idiot he is to forget something like that.
#113 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:13pm by TotalPandamonium
I agree with this totally. If it were a man posting saying that he'd forgotten his girlfriend was allergic to chocolate and lost money and a ring because of it, we'd all be saying "YDI" and "u r a fuocking mrun". But because it's a WOMAN, everyone assumes she's a crazy bitch who clearly never told her boyfriend about her allergy to set up a situation like this and entrap him.
#285 - On 10/24/2009 at 3:07pm by WitchCirce
that sucks, but he should have remembered something like you being allergic to chocolate, he should have put it in something like a fortune cookie or a glass or champagne, something that you wouldnt have gotten upset with him for giving to you. Maybe you over reacted a bit, but I think that alot of other people on here are being to hard on you.
#88 - On 10/20/2009 at 9:23pm by no1willknow88
I say HDI.
Chocolate is such a rare allergy that I don't know how it couldn't have come up several times in their relationships especially if they've been dating for a while. There are birthdays, holidays, and what not where she would have had to have mentioned chocolate because it's one of the most common dessert ingredients out there.
Not only that if she hadn't been allergic and had eaten it she probably would have damaged the ring.
Give me a basic proposal plzkthnx. I don't need a fanfare from a guy, but I'm not into stuff like that.
#89 - On 10/20/2009 at 9:24pm by TotalPandamonium
This! And just a thought: if the chocolate was custom made, wouldn't he have gotten to pick a flavor as well?
Chocolatier: So what's her favorite flavor?
Boyfriend: *brainstorming*
And at that point he should realize "Oh...my girlfriend never eats chocolate!" -_-
#256 - On 10/22/2009 at 5:40pm by Puolukka
You are so self-freeking-centered that you threw away a present from your boyfriend RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIM. Pay him back self centered idiot
He probably shouldn't have put it in chocolate if you're allergic, but maybe you should have just gave it back so he could eat it? Ever think of that?
You both fail
#103 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:02pm by iSmellNice
your a bitch. i hope he dumps you and find someone who can appreciate things
#104 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:04pm by karlfootballer
She's a bitch, but he's an idiot. Was he trying to kill her?
#105 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:10pm by 110879
I don't know why people think it's romantic to put things in food. you can swallow or hurt your teeth like crazy and even if these things don't happen, you can't chew your food without thinking what's in it for days....
The facts of the case:
1. Your boyfriend thought putting your ring in chocolate was a good idea.
2. Your boyfriend paid someone a "ton of money" to do this.
3. Your boyfriend did not know you were allergic to chocolate.
4. Instead of giving the chocolate to someone else, like a normal person would, you put the chocolate in the garbage disposal.
5. It didn't even occur to you to let your boyfriend eat the chocolate.
Verdict? You are both complete morons and you SHOULD get married to each other (just to prevent anyone else from accidentally marrying either of you) but YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE KIDS. DNA like yours must not be allowed to swim in the gene pool with that of regular people.
#111 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:12pm by FerrariCake
Correction on fact number 4: (according to the OP) The boyfriend FORGOT she was allergic to chocolate. Big difference between that and not knowing.
#286 - On 10/24/2009 at 3:09pm by WitchCirce
Him: Look, I got you a chocolate!
You: Oh. Well, I'm allergic, remember? (acting all disappointed)
Him: Well, that's okay, I'll eat it! (NOM NOM) Oh look! A ring!
You: GASP
HIM: Will you marry me?
oh LOL WTF!?!? he "forgot" right? Yeah lol you make your decisions wayyy to quick. Just because he tried to do something nice, but just forgot about what youre allergic to, you immediately throw it out?? thats mean...BTW its not that hard to remember what your boy/girlfriend is allergic to.
#114 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:14pm by madaddicted
Well, that's what you get for being an irrational bitch!
Sounds like he got lucky that he didn't get to propose, to be honest.
On the other hand, now the Alien Zombie-Ghost Sewer-Dwellers From the Outer Space Beyond the Grave have delicious chocolate AND a nice new sparkly ring!
#118 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:19pm by Witchcraft
You shouldn't have been such a bitch about it, even If he did forget.
#119 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:19pm by OmnomnomAPPLE
These YDI are not fair at all. There's a million non-chocolate things your boyfriend could have put an engagement ring in, or for that matter, he could have avoided food altogether just in case. He also could have asked your family or friends to reconfirm it'd be okay, I'm sure someone could have re-informed him you were allergic to chocolate. Even if he did forget, there's no reason for him to spend so much money on something without thinking it through. FYL
#120 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:23pm by iliketoreadfmls
At least you aren't alergic to tacos. Also, the ring was probably extremely cheap and he did this on purpose, so he could blme you for losing such a "beautiful" ring.
#121 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:23pm by seanreddog
I understand why she was upset, but did she really have to throw it in the garbage disposal? She could have just thrown it at him… In this situation that would have been a much better outcome. It was stupid of her boyfriend to bury the ring in chocolate though, lol. Aside from the allergy, wouldn't the ring smell like chocolate forever? That could get annoying.
if you get chocolate on your shirt, does it smell of chocolate forever?
No. All it takes is a basic wash to get it out.
This, absolutely. In her mind, she was throwing out chocolate, which she couldn't eat. She didn't know about the ring, so it's not like she knew she was throwing out a lot of money. In her mind it was a crappy-ass gift to get from someone who should have known better, and that could have potentially killed her (remember she's allergic to chocolate).
#287 - On 10/24/2009 at 3:13pm by WitchCirce
Allergic or not, you are a bitch.
Unless you were so allergic that a ring that came in contact with chocolate would cause a reaction... but since you think this is an FML, that's probably not the case.
Yeah, sure, he's an idiot for not remembering, but seriously you didn't have to freak the fuck out so badly.
Unless he does this all the time, but for some reason I don't think that's the case...
#128 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:38pm by DameGreyWulf
And just to repeat what others have already said, it is NOT that hard to remember what your bf/gf is allergic to. I am allergic to artificial fragrance, also a fairly unusual allergy and also one that comes up often over the course of a relationship (perfume, lotion and bath goods being as common a gift as choco). My ex was a terrible boyfriend in almost every respect, but he never forgot! And he didn't even claim to want to marry me!!
I think she's a fucking idiot. I'm not going to repeat the argument I just had with my girlfriend about this, but basically she could have been way more mature about it and just told him she was allergic, he could have had the opportunity to get the ring out anyway and propose...it would have been a cute story years down the road when they had a family together. She had to go blow it out of proportion and do that though, so now they're probably not even together anymore. I don't blame him one bit. PEOPLE FORGET THINGS! I myself have terrible memory. I might not forget something like that, but I've forgotten big things, even things that have gotten me in trouble for forgetting. Point being, it was her fault, end of story. Hope she never finds love again.
#137 - On 10/20/2009 at 11:00pm by StrikeFear13
It's sure convinced me you're a virgin. And a joke.
Zing.
#144 - On 10/20/2009 at 11:11pm by pope_suburban
And a virgin he will stay, with that attitude.
Gavik is most likely just upset because he is the man-slave of someone with bigger balls who treats him like a woman with no rights. *sob*
#147 - On 10/20/2009 at 11:23pm by Witchcraft
Furthermore, why is it okay for him to have a poor lapse of judgment by forgetting her allergy (and spending money on it), but she's crazy for poor judgment on dealing with a gift she's allergic to?
#140 - On 10/20/2009 at 11:06pm by iliketoreadfmls
Because her poor judgment cost him an engagement ring. His poor judgment cost her nothing. She knows she's allergic to chocolate. Obviously she didn't eat it.
#145 - On 10/20/2009 at 11:11pm by o0ginger0o
I doubt he suspected she might cram it down the disposal, though. :/
She could've done something else with it, what a waste of good chocolate... :[
Anyone who wastes chocolate = automatic bitch. :]
#148 - On 10/20/2009 at 11:27pm by Witchcraft
No, he dodged a bullet, hopefully, by finding out how nuts she is. He made an honest mistake. She was intentionally malicious. Even not knowing the ring was in there, her getting angry and destroying the gift was overkill. Even if she couldn't eat it, it might have been very beautifully and ornately decorated. Even if it hadn't contained the ring, she could've kept it as a decoration.
#154 - On 10/21/2009 at 12:07am by o0ginger0o
I don't think anybody is saying it's OKAY for him to forget the allergy, just that her reaction was disproportionate.
That was excessive, but I can understand how it could send someone through the roof. I've known quite a few people with pretty serious food allergies and it's not that hard to remember. Something about "this could fucking kill my friend" just sticks in my mind. Giving someone a gift that could put them in the hospital or in the bathroom throwing up for a couple hours is...not good. It's pretty reasonable to be offended. The garbage disposal was over the top, no question, but if she was panicking then I can see her thinking "gotta get rid of this" before thinking "how?"
#141 - On 10/20/2009 at 11:06pm by pope_suburban
In the midst of planning something big, sometimes you screw up and forget something, even something else that's big, like an allergy. You overreacted, big time.
#142 - On 10/20/2009 at 11:07pm by o0ginger0o
Let's think about the situation if there hadn't been an engagement ring in it: Her boyfriend brings her food she is allergic to (when he should know this, as they have been together a long time); she is upset that he chose such a bad present (that is presumably inexpensive) so she puts it down the garbage disposal. Not a problem.
I'm wondering why the boyfriend didn't have faster reflexes. Between his thoughtlessness and slowness, maybe you're better off without him :) Not really, but you probably need to have a serious talk with him. But remember, if he proposed, he probably really loves you, so at least there's that.
#143 - On 10/20/2009 at 11:10pm by chicagochick
Everyone calling her a bitch: if someone spent a ton of money to get you something that they (should) know you couldn't have wouldn't you be pissed? It's being stupid and forgetful as well as rubbing in your face haha look at the fancy thing you can't have but I'll give you anyway. Perhaps the garbage disposal wasn't the best way but at that point it probably seemed like an appropriate response. Also, wouldn't destroying what she thought to be just chocolate be better than yelling at him?
And HDI not only for forgetting but also putting a ring in chocolate- if the allergy didn't get her the metal and stone would have.
Also, for the people saying she shouldn't have made him feel bad- he would have anyway if he were any kind of decent guy for forgetting in the first place. Also, maybe her reaction would make him remember in the future.
And LOL at #68
and good point #78 -maybe it was already on?
And #80 - for something that takes that much planning you'd think he would consider the minor details too- it's a one shot kind of thing. and if she knew then he probably did, chocolate is too common for him to have not been told. And he would be reminded every Valentines Day and Anniversary and probably dinners out too (at dessert) and even in buying groceries together
Excellent point # 108
Interesting theory # 121
#149 - On 10/20/2009 at 11:40pm by love15
Rarely is anything planned perfectly. There's always so much going on that there's always that one damn thing that gets overlooked.
I bet he would've rather she yelled than thrown it down the disposal. At least then, maybe they could've talked before she destroyed the ring.
As for Valentine's Day and anniversaries, they've only been together 8 months. They've had 1 Valentine's at most. Anniversaries kinda depend on how they celebrate.
I've been married 10 years. We both still screw up. It happens. He once gave me a birthday gift that he should've known damn well was something I wouldn't be into and it was a lot of money to blow for something I wouldn't use. But, I didn't destroy it and I didn't throw it in his face. I asked what he was thinking. I TALKED to him and then I tried to find someone else to give it to so it least it wouldn't go to waste, because unfortunately it couldn't be returned.
#158 - On 10/21/2009 at 12:20am by o0ginger0o
How do you know the OP and her boyfriend have only been together 8 months?
I call bullshit.
#289 - On 10/24/2009 at 3:16pm by WitchCirce
I still kind of don't get it. He still forgot that you were allergic to the chocolate. Unless he bought a specific kind that you're not allergic to...The way that method works is you eat it and find out by biting on it that it's an engagement ring, so...he still didn't know. Maybe you guys just don't know each other well enough to get married in the first place.
#150 - On 10/20/2009 at 11:40pm by tdawgheath
A friend of mine did a research paper on the FACT that chocolate helps people, especially women, keep their sanity. Enough said.
#151 - On 10/20/2009 at 11:43pm by triplethreat13
Your friend is full of shit. Chocolate is just a mild opiate. It's a drug, not a natural hormone or neurochemical.
#189 - On 10/21/2009 at 6:03am by GreenAlbatross
If he went through the whole process without registering that you're allergic to chocolate, then he's clearly a mentally deficient deadshit. Good riddance to him, and good luck finding a man who has an IQ above 80.
#153 - On 10/20/2009 at 11:59pm by gameoverman
ok so I get you were upset he forgot, but was the hissy fit really needed. couldnt you have tossed them in the trash as appossed to the disposle. ydi for overreacting
#156 - On 10/21/2009 at 12:16am by Ladypartslegit
While he should have known that chocolate was not the greatest of ideas, due to you being allergic, having a fit like that is a bit much.
#157 - On 10/21/2009 at 12:17am by feed_the_ducks
Well. Your hall of fame hissy was probably unexpected. He could have expected one of three outcomes. One, he wanted you to honestly find the ring and say yes. Two, he could have wanted you to eat the chocolate and go into anaphylactic shock from your allergy. Or, thirdly, he could have wanted you to choke on the ring. =) I hope for his sake it was one of the latter options. That was a psycho extreme. Good luck getting another decent proposal that was heartfelt, but clumsily wrong. ^^
OP, you are fucking PSYCHO and totally deserve it. Good job. So being allergic means you're batshit fucking crazy?
#161 - On 10/21/2009 at 12:31am by noshitsherlock
As cute as the ring in the chocolate was, it was stupid of your BF to to do it if he knew you were allergic to chocolate.
Maybe you didn't need to throw it like that (though I would have probably been mad too if my BF seemed to just forget something like that when I was in the hospital) but it was but your BF should have known better.
How was she supposed to find the ring if she couldn't eat it guys? Just break it up into pieces for fun?
Wow, you're a little bit of a bitch anyway - even if he didnt put the engagement ring in there, you shouldn't just throw it away. You could have said something like; 'Thank you but Im allergic to chocolate' not 'Raarrrrrr chocolate = my death rarrrr'
Well, your boyfriend is a stupid jackass, but you overreacted. TBH, I don't think either of you should be getting married right now.
#171 - On 10/21/2009 at 1:06am by blastvortex
What a sweet surprise. Fish it out of the disposal. If your hands get amputated then your boyfriend will have justice. Go get it out now stumpy. Go go move along.
#173 - On 10/21/2009 at 1:08am by AnnoyingFlamingo
hmmmm - maybe "thanks for the thought babe, but I'm allergic... you have it..." instead you're like "thanks for the chocolate babe (sarcasm) but I'm a jerk..."
I don't see why people are calling her a 'stupid bitch', if your partner brought you something that you were allergic too you wouldn't then keep it for yourself, or give it to them for the simple reason that they forgot about something that could possibly KILL YOU.
If anything, he's the douche for putting an engagement ring in something she is allergic too. Hardly says 'i want to spend the rest of my life with you'
#185 - On 10/21/2009 at 5:19am by lmaoatyourlife
They are both stupid fuckers. He is a dickhead for hiding the ring in the chocolate and she is a cunt face for throwing it into the trash.
if i was the boyfriend i would almost definitely go apeshit, you didnt have to destroy it! i would have asked for it back and got the ring out... if omeone gives you something you cant use dont just immediately get pissed and destroy it, even if he should know you are allergic to it.
#190 - On 10/21/2009 at 6:32am by barrytwonk
wow, you sound like a bitch. even if he forgot that your allergic to chocolate, getting mad and throwing it IN THE GARBAGE DISPOSAL is just a bitch thing to do. if you're like that now, imagine after a few years of marriage! =P way to screw that up, i hope he came to his senses and returned the ring
your an ungrateful bitch:/ YDI! he did it cuz he loves you! you didn't have to yell at him you could have said oh honey you know I'm alergic! so ya ur a real bitch or that I hope he's real mad with u
#193 - On 10/21/2009 at 9:06am by lolly_lolly
"It's the thought that counts-" stories like this are precisely why that statement is bullshit. YDI, and congrats to him- gives him an easy out. Hope it didn't cost him too much, but learning you're a fucking psycho BEFORE getting married is certainly worth whatever he paid for the ring.
#195 - On 10/21/2009 at 9:32am by thousandinone
Yeah she shouldn't have chucked it, but what type of "thoughtful gift" is something that can kill you. While it was a nice gesture to buy her something, it undermines the whole "I love you and want to marry you" if he forgets something important like that. Perhaps he is forgetful all the time? She's allergic, I would be pissed if my boyfriend tried to kill me, even if the murdering was sweet.
And she didn't know the ring was in there. Next time try putting it on top of the desert, it won't get chocolate in iffy places.
#198 - On 10/21/2009 at 10:00am by TenebrificTurtle
Wow, my boyfriend forgets important things all the time and we've been together for four years. The day my grandpa died, my boyfriend FORGOT and asked why I was upset, ten minutes after I told him. Some people just fail at memory.
You seriously overreacted. Being negative to the point of being such a BITCH is not good for a relationship, no matter if it was just chocolate or chocolate with a ring in it. You should NEVER flip out on someone you love when they are trying to do something nice for you. As everyone else said, you could have said "You fucking moron! I'm allergic, remember? I don't want this" and handed it back.
Your boyfriend forgetting your grandpa's death, while certainly bad, is not on the same scale as the OP's boyfriend forgetting her chocolate allergy. Him forgetting that you're upset because your grandpa died can't kill you. Her boyfriend forgetting that she's allergic to chocolate can.
#290 - On 10/24/2009 at 3:21pm by WitchCirce
What was he going to do, eat the candy for you? What a stupid person.
#201 - On 10/21/2009 at 10:37am by captainmaharet
Okay, so he should have remembered you were allergic to chocolate and chose another way to propose (also, holy fuck I wish my boyfriend would do something that romantic). That totally doesn't excuse you for completely losing your shit.
i hope he dumps you, you sure as shit deserve it for being such an overdramatic douchebag.
#212 - On 10/21/2009 at 12:44pm by jazzmancarron
ydi for being too overdramatic
but also f his life for being an idiot - why would you put it in a chocolate even if the person was not allergic? haha just get down on one knee and be done with it!
#213 - On 10/21/2009 at 12:50pm by jeniilouise
yeah i woulda just thrown it in the thrash.. the disposal was a bit much of a reaction
and then that way you would have been able to retrieve it once you knew what was up!!
#214 - On 10/21/2009 at 1:01pm by worldinhand
What SHOULD have happened:
You: Oooohhh....thanks honey, but I am allergic to chocolate.
Him : Yeah, but....
You: Here, why don't you eat it instead.
Him: Gosh oh golly, my dream since I was a wee one was to propose like this...
You: Propose?! Oh honey, I love you...*kiss, kiss, kiss*
Him : Awww, I'm so lucky to have you. My last girlfriend who I tried this on threw the chocolate in a garbage disposal like a douche.
Wow. You must have been a severely spoiled kid. Getting angry at people for giving you the "wrong" presents. What the fuck is up with that bullshit?
well at least you showed your true psycho bitch colors before he proposed, i would have dropped your ass right there. stuck up spoiled bitch
Whether he forgot you had an allergy or not, it was still a nice thought. Which you wrecked because you're so precious you think it's OK to trash presents that you don't like or are "wrong" in some way. Your parents dragged you up, you silly spoilt bitch.
#219 - On 10/21/2009 at 3:00pm by Aziraphale
Here's to hoping he broke up with you, you Prima Dona bitch.
#220 - On 10/21/2009 at 3:08pm by KarmaLanding
He actually put a ring in food? That's stupid. Gold is probably the softest metal there is. Soft enough to make a bite mark in. =_=
#223 - On 10/21/2009 at 4:23pm by JazzProphet
my guess is that it was mold that you break open, so the "chocolate candy" was hollow on the inside... but I digress. This whole situation is pretty dumb..
A lot of this site's votes on whether FYL or YDI confuse me. That includes this FML. Yes, you just destroyed your wedding ring, but he was careless enough to put it somewhere we're you'd sooner destroy it than find it. FYL. FYL hard.
#224 - On 10/21/2009 at 4:25pm by jojomcfarlane
Bitch.
One of my friends is allergic to nuts, and no-one remembers it, not even her parents. She doesn't mind at all. And so shouldn't you. You should, instead of getting all bitchy and angry with him, nicely thank no to the chocolate because you're allergic, and he would probably say something along the lines of "there's a surprise in it. Just break it open".
#225, it's not hard to remember someone's allergic to something. It's not HER fault that her boyfriend wasn't thinking and was really careless. Lighten the fuck up. I would have been miffed if I was allergic to anything if I was given food I was allergic to.
FYL, OP. I hope you and your boyfriend work it out. :C
Wow you are ungrateful.
And FYI, just because someone is allergic to something it doesn't mean they don't eat it still. I am allergic to raw salmon but try to stop me having sushi!!
#228 - On 10/21/2009 at 5:17pm by evil_bunny
Ha! It would be a woman to be so emotional about something like that.I dont believe there is love in your relationship.Then again I dont think true love can exist with how the modern world is.
#229 - On 10/21/2009 at 5:25pm by TheUnforgiven
Whether you're allergic to chocolate or not, with your over-dramatic reaction (garbage disposal.. Really? Might as well rip out his heart and shove that in there too while you're at it. I mean, way to freak out when someone does something nice for you) I'm surprised he was going to purpose to you at all.
#233 - On 10/21/2009 at 6:59pm by containsnosoy
How is throwing it in the garbage disposal overdramatic? I mean, how's that much different from throwing it the trash? What if you someone you were very close too (close enough to be married apparently) gave you food you were allergic too as a present? You'd probably be kinda pissed and throw it away. Although, I do wonder why the boyfriend didn't try to stop her.
As a chocolatier, I don't see why it would be super expensive to put a damn ring in a piece of chocolate. If anything, it'd just crack when it sets even if it was tempered properly. If it wasn't tempered it definitely shouldn't have been expensive.
i think you missed the detail about the GARBAGE DISPOSAL. That might just maybe quite possibly probably ruin the shit out of the ring when turned on....with how this bitch over reacted, i'm sure thats exactly what she did
I actually understand how you feel. I am severely allergic to peanuts, and if a guy gave me a Recces peanut butter cup with a ring in it, I would dump it down the disposal too, because it would make me feel unloved if the guy I was going out with forgot I was allergic to peanuts. I would feel uneasy, because if I was going out with someone that forgot I was allergic to peanuts i would dump him, because what if he had peanut butter and kissed me? I would die. And how would people expect me to risk my life because there may or may not be a ring in there? If I would be her boyfriend, I would make sure to put the ring in something else than chocolate and make sure it was safe for her. Then I would TELL her that it was safe for her to eat before giving it to her. God people! Give the poor girl a break...
#235 - On 10/21/2009 at 8:12pm by DramaConChristy
Why are people so willing to make assumptions and throw around the word "bitch?" A woman gets angry at her boyfriend over something 'small' and she's automatically a 'bitch.' In this case, we can't really know, because we don't know how angry or "melodramatic" she really got or how justified she'd be in doing so-- how many times has he forgotten that she's allergic to chocolate? How serious is her allergy? Etc. I was once really serious with a guy who said he really loved me but after three years still couldn't remember my birthday or that my ears weren't pierced (bought me earrings, twice). Yes, it's a nice gesture-- about as personalized and thoughtful as having your secretary send your wife a Christmas present that she doesn't even like. Chances are if they've been together long enough and are serious enough that he's considering proposing, she has a right to be upset that he'd go to the trouble of getting her a present that only shows he either doesn't know her all that well or wasn't thinking/paying close enough attention. And she was probably even more rightfully upset once she found out what was inside of it--Getting married is a big deal, and if he put enough planning into it to think about hiding the ring in some clever way, why wasn't he careful enough to remember that she'd never find the ring like that without it possibly killing her?!? She didn't know how big a gesture she was throwing away, and of course she threw it away--is she going to keep a kind gesture from her man that simply reminds her how little-well he knows her or remembers important details about her? Especially when it's something meant to be eaten and isn't really keep-able in the first place? And don't a lot of people throw food down a garbage disposal? I know my mom always did, so we wouldn't get ants in the trashcan. All of you looking for an anonymous forum and easy excuse to call someone a bitch or pass judgement on other people's relationships and emotions, grow the F up already and find a better outlet for your hatefulness!
#236 - On 10/21/2009 at 8:13pm by IndianaJane
Indiana Jane I love you. But we shall never be together, for I am in love with another and would feel horrible breaking two hearts--I travel with the wind. Sorry that was retarded lol.
I agree with you totally. While it is fun to call her a dramatic bitch she is also deathly alergic to it. Its like my friend always freaks out with bees and her boyfriend laughs his ass off--well until the time she was actually stung and he had forgotten her medicine stick thing (told her it was in his bag) and she had to go to the hospital. I understand, if the ring were not in there and there weren't so many bitter women (lol) without thoughtful boyfriends we might all agree this was terrible for her and she should get a new man. Involve weddings and the possibility of TRUE FUCKING LOVE and people freak out.
Anyways. Thanks.
#237 - On 10/21/2009 at 8:20pm by TenebrificTurtle
#236: Best comment. Although it's the Internet, so the people calling her a bitch probably don't care :(
I love you. This is one of the most sensible comments I've ever seen.
#242 - On 10/21/2009 at 10:13pm by iliketoreadfmls
You get the "Smart troll is smart" award for this thread.
I like logic, it tastes like candy!
#244 - On 10/22/2009 at 12:12am by GreenAlbatross
Really, if she HAD thrown it in the trash, would that have inspired a more understanding reaction, or would the same people calling her a bitch and psycho now still be doing it?
When someone hands you a piece of trash, what do you do with it? You throw it away. How was she supposed to know there was an engagement ring inside? The guy was a moron and he deserved to see his money thrown away. Next time, the dumbass should get to know his girlfriend a little better before spending tons of money on his supposedly great proposal idea.
Oh man, for some reason, I find this hilarious. He wants to propose. The thing that most girls spend days daydreaming about. And he decides to do this super romantic proposal. And yet somehow forgets that his intended bride is deathly allergic to his proposal scenario.
Hey honey! Great news! For our 10th wedding anniversary I've decided to take you scuba diving! Oh, uh, yeah, I guess I forgot that you can't swim...
BUT, throwing them in the garbage disposal, no matter how many times he's forgotten about your allergy (making this funnier, actually) is still a little over dramatic. Get angry, yell, storm out, sure. Tossing them in the garbage disposal as some grand, vindictive gesture is overly mean , especially when giving someone chocolates is usually considered a gesture with nice and good intentions.
#247 - On 10/22/2009 at 8:48am by Improbability
In all fairness: If he can't remember your allergy, he's not worth marrying. Anaphylaxis is just too sucky. No guy is worth it.
#249 - On 10/22/2009 at 10:03am by JanisEvans
In all fairness, putting an engagement ring in a food that your girlfriend is allergic to is NOT excusable. Obviously he thought about this for a while before doing it. At SOME point during the planning phase, the thought, "OH SHIT! She's ALLERGIC to chocolate!" should have come up.
He should have known better, but you also reacted very immaturely.
#255 - On 10/22/2009 at 5:24pm by bgpink
wow u kinda deserve it u should have said thank you to the chocolates but explained u were allergic again... looks like u saved him from making the biggest mistake of his life hope he broke up with ur ass
#258 - On 10/22/2009 at 7:13pm by honesty9
Hun...you sound like a bitch...
I hope your boyfriend now realizes what a huge cunt you really are....
Why would anyone vote that you deserved that!... Why would anyone put an engagement ring in something your allergic to. And Phantom13 why would you use that word? You just sound uneducated enough that I'm pretty sure she doesn't care what you think about her.
Obviously he knows shes allergic to it.
You just saved him a lot of time though. Now he doesn't have to marry a bitch.
#271 - On 10/23/2009 at 3:36pm by johnny_wait
If this was something you told him once long ago, then how was he supposed to remember? Is a man supposed to remember everything a woman has ever told him?
Your boyfriend obviously put a lot of thought and effort into this. Even if you are allergic, you should have appreciated the sentiment. It was very rude of you to be so ungrateful for all his work.
#277 - On 10/23/2009 at 10:47pm by wobster109
"Is a man supposed to remember everything a woman has ever told him?"
No, but he is sure as hell supposed to remember important stuff like, "If I eat chocolate, I could die." My girlfriend and I have only been going out for a month, and it took me one time of hearing that she can't eat chocolate without getting sick to scratch off chocolate as a potential gift for any occasion.
#291 - On 10/24/2009 at 3:29pm by WitchCirce
You were right to get pissed. Touch chocolate to get to said ring? Break out in hives? Eat chocolate out of being nice to him for putting in the effort? Get hives then die.
Tell him to put it in something you're not allergic to, like a gluten free bread roll.
I wonder what vital inter-personal lesson you missed out on as a child that makes you think this kind of behavior is acceptable.
Here's a hint: If someone gives you a gift you don't like/can't use, you smile and say thank you. It is never, ever appropriate to throw a gift back in someone's face.
I'm one of the people who clicked FYL.
This is why: HE FORGOT A POTENTIALLY LIFE-THREATENING ALLERGY. His "romantic" and "nice" gesture COULD HAVE KILLED HER.
And you're all assuming too much about her reaction. It states she got angry and threw the candy into the garbage disposal. Her getting angry could be a statement as simple as, "Dammit honey, you know I'm allergic to chocolate!" and dumping the candy out. The garbage disposal is meant for food, so its use in this situation makes perfect sense.
Even if you think it's rude to throw out a gift, I can understand her for being angry with a person who supposedly loves and cares about her giving a gift that she can't enjoy and that can, again, KILL HER. If someone got me a rabid raccoon in a box as a spontaneous gift, I wouldn't accept it with a forced smile and say "Oh, how nice," I would shoot it.
If he's stupid enough to try to pull a romantic gesture with something that could send her into anaphylactic shock and possibly kill her (not to mention make her choke or chip her tooth or the myriad other problems people have mentioned with putting engagement rings in food), he has no business proposing in the first place. Even if she did throw a complete bitch-fit, she doesn't deserve scorn and ridicule for overreacting. I tend to take my life and physical well-being pretty seriously too.
#284 - On 10/24/2009 at 3:00pm by WitchCirce
you're acting like he force-fed her the chocolate. Nothing he did put her in danger. It was her choice whether or not to eat it. Yes he forgot an allergy, but it would have been worse if he'd forgotten she was allergic to peanuts then served her a stir-fry with peanut sauce and she took a mouthful without realising what was in it. It's not like she could have accidentally eaten the gift without realising what it was. Again, nothing he did put her in danger.
The rabid raccoon could jump out at you and bite you. The chocolate couldn't jump out of its wrapper and down her throat.
Not to mention, how you do you know it would put her into anaphylactic shock? Maybe she's just lactose intolerant? Or just has a mild allergy? I have a friend who's allergic to chocolate - it gives her migraines. She's not going to die from it.
ydi for being so rude. Yeah, it was stupid for him to forget, but you didn't have to be such a bitch about it.
#288 - On 10/24/2009 at 3:15pm by briannaxbabyy
Well, maybe her boyfriend did know her allergy, and expected her to say "Hon, I'm allergic to chocolate" then he would say "open it up" where she tears up and says yes.
He probably didn't count on her being a cunt bitch.
Absolute, Total, Undefuckingniable BITCH! You dont fucking throw it out the window cos u expect him to remember. and u said it was "fancy". you might do that with a mars bar, but no way for "Fancy".
Too true, #294
#295 - On 10/26/2009 at 12:24am by TSCountry
1) True, he should have known you were allergic to chocolate
2) You still don't have to throw it out! You could have saved it to give to someone else, at least then your bf could have gotten you to open it.
Why does everyone in defense of this chick automatically assume this chocolate allergy would kill her? It could be she's just lactose intolerant, or it might give her milder symptoms. Eg, I have a friend who is allergic to chocolate, but it's not going to cause an anaphylactic reaction - it just gives her migraines. In fact, she can eat little bits if she's happy enough to put up with a headache afterwards. I wouldn't give her chocolate as a gift but she wouldn't freak out and throw it in the garbage disposal if someone forgot and gave her some. She'd probably keep it for her husband to eat.
If she had a severe enough allergy that it is likely to cause anaphylactic shock, she shouldn't have even touched it, let alone picked it up and thrown it in the garbage disposal.
okay first off you must have rage or something. flipping out? really unnecessary. granted, he should know you're allergic, but maybe he did, and it was some stupid guy thing. you know, they do really stupid stuff, trying to be cute and all. anyhow, i think you should feel totally guilty. ps.
it completely wasn't her fault. If he was going out with her long enough to do a really fancy proposal, he was going out with her long enough to remember that she's allergic to chocolate.
#304 - On 10/31/2009 at 2:27pm by whatsisface
That sounds really sweet lol I wish my fiance did that for me, but zero points for not knowing you were allergic to chocolate. Even if you kept it how were you supposed to find the ring without ending up in hospital?
#307 - On 11/08/2009 at 11:18pm by bored690
fyl for chocolate allergy and chocolate giving bf BUT dontcha think the fucking GARBAGE DISPOSAL was just a little bit overboard? way to flip out. talk to him or something.
