Today, I finally told my best friend whom I've secretly been in love with for two years that I was in love with her but at the last second chickened out and said I was joking. She replied with "Don't scare me like that. I thought i was going to have to find a new best friend for a second" FML
I agree, your life sucks (48134) - you totally deserved it (4230)
On 03/06/2009 at 11:17pm - love - by crap (woman) - United States (North Carolina)
For anyone who's about to post saying "I'm sorry, dude" or "That's rough, man", the OP is a female. :P
#84 - On 10/23/2009 at 5:02am by strandedartist
Sounds like my life man. I actually told my current closest female friend like 2 weeks ago. It hasn't gone well.
#3 - On 03/07/2009 at 6:25am by ddavis3506
Go find another girl... you can't expect her to change her mind...
#5 - On 03/07/2009 at 6:46am by Rollercoaster
You should have learnt . . .
Friendzones are no-gos!
Still; FYL. Better luck next time.
#6 - On 03/07/2009 at 6:48am by Mattyknows
wat if she said that
because she liked u too?
like she would have to find a new best friend because u guys will be lovers...
Seen as you clearly said, i'm joking, are you sure she wasn't joking around as well. You know a witty sarcastic response? Surely adding i'm joking opens up the door for jokes like that to be returned.
that sucks
i had a similar issue with my best guy friend...we don't talk anymore :l and i've known him since pre-K
:(
FYL and FML
#9 - On 03/07/2009 at 7:38am by christinaaa
Yep did that same thing last week to my closest friend we have known each other for 6.5 years.. now we are not friends from last week..
That really, really sucks. But I'd be half-tempted to say, "Well, I just realized that I am the one who needs to get a new best friend. Thanks for the heads-up." what an insensitive jerk!
#12 - On 03/07/2009 at 8:51am by everythingtold
I am so lucky i dont fall in love with my friends, i fell in love with a stranger and he became my best friend. Thats the way to do it. People say you should marry your best friend, well if it works that way awesome but if your partner can become ur best friend its just as good.
#13 - On 03/07/2009 at 8:52am by countrygal926
thats so horrible :/
and i was on the verge of doing the same thing.
#14 - On 03/07/2009 at 8:52am by jardinteylor
hence the reason why i'm terrified to tell this guy i like him...if we call each other babe sometimes and he's drawn a heart on my hand does that mean anything? he's never had a gf so maybe he's just shy...
i feel bad for anyone this has happened to though :/
it could be because she wanted to avoid an awkward situation so she came up with that!
maybe she didnt really mean it :)
#17 - On 03/07/2009 at 9:22am by sugarkitty
Man that sucks but play it out dude if you like her that much don't show it and get out of friendzone before you get into bro zone then you pretty much screwed but still sucks had that happen to me.
#18 - On 03/07/2009 at 9:27am by RealSketchy
well she could have meant that if you asked her she would have said yes and then she would have to look for a new best friend? lol
This is the reason i am a firm believer that people should not date their best friends, because every time for some reason the one being liked feels so uncomfortable they have to end the friendship, which makes no sense. Dude, don't worry things will work out maybe not with her, but you'll find someone.
Whoever moderated this clearly gave you a pity pass. Shape up your story telling skills, please. That aside, that's an occupational hazard of being friends with someone from the sex you're attracted to.
awwwwww :(
i do understand where she's coming from, but that doesn't make it suck any lesss. i'm sorry.
#24 - On 03/07/2009 at 11:23am by interventions
Ehm, sounds to me like she meant it in a 'good' way, like having to find a new best friend because she gained a boyfriend :P
Fuck all the zones.
She wants someone that will treat her like shit. That's why she needs a human tissue to use up.
Super-Fuck that!
She would have to go find a new tissue.
That's why dudes try to get head and get out as fast as possible.
#30 - On 03/07/2009 at 11:55am by Dr_Evil_Genius
#26: It doesn't sound that way at all... but I wish I had your blinding optimism. I lost that around the time I found out Santa didn't exist.
she meant it, get out of their. BE STRAIGHT FORWARD! 15 too, you need to tell them straight because otherwise your just living with the maybes and thats not going to get you anywhere.
say you love her, she doesn't like you back then its good, you don't have to waist your time on her ass anymore.
the same exact thing happened to me. i told my best friend i was in love with him and then i chickened out at the last minute and he seemed relieved. later i found out from one of his friends that he actually really liked me and now were dating.
dont give up yet!
#36 - On 03/07/2009 at 1:53pm by DanceRox9008
My best friend told me the same thing in March 2007. Nearly two years later, we're still friends, but I still have the feeling she still likes me.
#37 - On 03/07/2009 at 2:20pm by FuzzMonkey09
Did you consider that maybe you made HER feel like crap by saying, "I love you. OH, HAHA, I'M JOKING!" So then she felt the need to assure you that SHE'D never be interested either? Seems like a likely scenario. You probably hurt her feelings.
#38 has a good point. it's certainly possible. i'd probably do the same just to cover up feeling hurt, even if i liked you too.
I can relate to that. My best friend basically vomited when I told her, and then was like "Don't ever say that again!'
#41 - On 03/07/2009 at 4:11pm by altoidsyndrome
I love the fact that most of you assume that the person who wrote this is male...
which is not necessarily true.
damn now i was gonna ask my friend out to...but now im haveing those thoughts again...but yea at least you still got your friend
Maybe she meant that she'd have to find a new best friend because you two would then be in a different kind of relationship?
...
Eh, stay hopeful. ;)
i wonder if she meant that she would stop talking to you or take it to the next level
THE WORLD MAY NEVER KNOW.
Telling your best friend you love them after so long will end in fail 95% of the time. Should have had the balls to say something when you started befriending her instead of acting like a white knight. Sorry brah its the truth.
Assuming youre a guy and she's a girl.
Dont count yourself out yet, what did you expect her to say. that she had feelings for you just after you told you you really dont?
personally i think she just said that because she didn't know what else to say. you cracked a "joke" by saying just kidding so she cracked one back. what did you expect her to say to that? "just kidding"? come on dude..it's a neutral one. it could be taken either way...
don't give up!!
#53 - On 03/08/2009 at 4:25am by ohboyscott
Speaking from experience, its good and bad this happened.
Bad cause dating your best friend is awesome. Its happened to me.
Good cause it's not guaranteed to last forever. And if it doesnt, you may not have a best friend anymore. That's also happened to me too.
dude that sukcs same thing happend to me like2 years ago. i wasnt joking and i havent recoverd. your lucky
#55 - On 03/08/2009 at 2:33pm by CountDown681
Ouch...I know how that feels from the OTHER end. Thank GOD you took it so well. When he told me he was in love with me, and told him I liked him as a friend, his other friends told me he threatened to kill himself.
#57 - On 03/08/2009 at 3:47pm by Skellington
Fucking friend-zone, i feel for you man (although i conquered it). It's fucking beyond me why women have to be like that, it's ridiculous and they need to be shot for throwing the man to the side like that. #38 has a point though.
oh man, im in the same boat but with two different girls who ive had strong feelings for, for the past 2 years. i dont know how much more i can take
#63 - On 03/10/2009 at 5:06pm by bmxkelowna
ouch! sorry dude.
when u're friends with someone for awhile, u're considered to be in their "friend zone".
sadly enough, nice guys always get stuck in the "friend zone"
don't waste ur time, find another girl. plenty of fish in the sea.
maybee she really liked yoou, ya know? and she got her hopes up but when you said just kidding she came back with a retort at you that reflected how she felt ! you could have really hurt her . just saying.
ive been there man, she told me she liked me after a year but three years later i'm still in the friends zone
What #66 said could be true....maybe she was trying to make herself better from getting her hopes dashed.
And also, friend-zones are very possible :D They're the best zones in my opinion
dude, ik how you feel. My best friend is this really attractive girl who i have been in love with for nearly two years. we went out for a month back in october and she broke up wit me cuz she said she didnt like me like that...shes still my best friend but deep down i havnt gotten over it and i still love her...loves tough
she could've also meant that she would've lost a best friend because she wanted to date you..girls are shy, too
#71 - On 03/15/2009 at 10:49pm by DarcysLetter
ouchhhhhh.... kinda both a good and bad thing that it worked out like that
move on, its not worth it
As has been noted, you may have hurt her feelings by saying you were kidding, plus it's very tricky getting a "friend-zone" girl to go out with you. There's no solution to either problem at this point.
The first would be solved by either being a man and saying what you feel (no backing out), or not saying anything at all. This is where you screwed up badly. Once you say it, you have to stick with it and accept whatever comes of it, or you end up with a bad situation like you've landed yourself in now. Now you're even more afraid she's not into you like that, and if she IS, she's probably hurt that you "joked" about it.
The second is solved by asking out a girl you're interested in before you're in that comfortable friend-zone. This is only possible assuming you've not been friends since you were very young. I can't say whether you screwed this up without knowing your exact situation.
This assumes you're a guy. If you're a girl, just reverse the genders. I think the second problem is slightly less of an issue with guys, speaking as a guy, but it's still an important consideration.
You shouldn't have chickened out. You know what you did? You jerked her around. She's almost certainly heard or pulled that shit before from the really cool guy who she really liked-- "Oh, I like you-- psyche!" It's kindergarten bullshit, and if you respect her and genuinely like her, you should be straight with her. Otherwise, you're just a jerk playing with her emotions and yanking the rug out from under her feet.
I married my best friend 11 years ago. Still married. It is possible to find love and friendship in the same place if you're not a jerk.
#77 - On 03/30/2009 at 8:53pm by screwloose
I've been through something similar with one of my best friends for over 3 years, and it really sucks to get rejected. =(
In may case, she ended up with the guy who used to be my best friend, (which was until he got with her knowing full well that I was devastated by her rejection, AND that she had a boyfriend) and I no longer speak to him, and my friendship with her is hanging by a thread.
The real kicker? The whole reason they had a chance to get together was because I'd invited him along to a social gathering (which she was at) for emotional support. Days later she dumped her boyfriend and went out with him. FML indeed...
(But at least I gave him a nice punch in the face to remember me by)
