Today, my son decided to come out of the closet by wearing a shirt that said "Mom, I'm gay" to the family reunion. FML
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On 07/25/2009 at 5:14pm - kids - by Mom (woman) - United States (Kentucky)
Be damn proud you raised a son willing to come out in front of everyone. While it's written on his chest.
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Why the hell should she be proud of that? Seriously, I have nothing against homosexuals but that's really not the way to come out... The stupid kid just didn't have the balls to come out in a face-to-face conversation with his parents, so he just made a scene out of it.
I'd be pretty embarrassed if I knew someone who did this...
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@29 yep. might as well also be proud if he started discussing his favourite masturbation technique over dessert. if hes really cool hes done a scale model with paper mache. or one of those volcano type models only replacing the volcano with an automated hand and cock. now thats something to be proud of. then you can all take turns splashing it on grandmas face and be merry. oh or maybe you could just have a son who has tact and isnt a complete douche. but who wants that? self importance and lack of common sense, THATS what we need more of.
#56 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:10am by organisedchaos
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I agree w/ #38.. not sure why the comment is being moderated.. There is a sensible way to tell family, esp. your mom, news that you know will be hard for her to take, and it sure as hell isn't by wearing a t-shirt for everyone to see the same time as mom. OPs son might as well have written the msg in the sky or announced it on tv at a sports event.
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29, Isn't that almost like wearing a "Mom I'm sexually active" T-shirt. The point is that Sexual orientation is not something to be discussed at a family reunion depending on your family of course. I don't see why comming out of the closet is such a big deal that it HAD to be announced to the entire family right then and there.
why should you care if he wears that shirt or not? would you freak out if someone else wore a shirt that said "mom, i'm straight"? he comes out to you, and you post it on a fucking fml post. way to be a supportive mom.
#98- And good for him if he did! The comments are being moderated because the suggestion that a son's coming out is embarrassing or bad smacks of homophobia. People propose in big sports stadiums. Why not come out? It's an important milestone and nothing to be ashamed of.
#101- why do people think this means the son is announcing that he's having sex? It's no such thing. Come on, when you had your first crush in middle school, you didn't have sex with them, but you sure knew you liked them! Knowing you are gay does not mean you are sexually active. That is such a stupid suggestion. All it means is that you know who you like.
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It would matter if he wore a shirt saying he was straight because sexual orientation isn't something that should be announced at a family reunion. That's kinda like wearing a "Mom, I'm sexually active" shirt everyone doesn't need to know what his sexual preferences are. If he were truly addressing his mother then he should have just told his mother.
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#106 First of all I am openly bisexual so there is nothing homophobic about me. Having gone through the stressful process of coming out I understand what that is like, but I sure as hell have more respect for my mother and close family members to announce to the world prior to announcing to them news that will be hard for them to swallow.
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I'm not assuming he is having sex. I'm just stating that SEXual oreintation relates to sex, which shouldn't be disscused at a family reunion especially if younger members of the family were there. Who he likes and doesn't like though, is his business.
At the same time, isn't announcing an engagement kind of like announcing, "Hey, I've been having sex with this person, and I'm going to keep doing it too!" And yet no one thinks it's inappropriate to announce an engagement, for some reason...
There is nothing wrong with telling your family you're gay. It's not inappropriate for them to know who you are.
not always 119...remember there's those couples that (gag) save themselves for marriage. more like announcing "hey, you're all gonna come to a party and afterwards i'm gonna get laid like there's no tomorrow!"
OP, YDI for thinking that your son coming out ruins your life somehow.
No one is saying it is inappropriate to tell your family you are gay but there is a way to go about it.. Whether it should be this way or not, this is a sensitive issue that people have to get used to.
lexibro, I see where you're coming from. With our culture as it is, you're probably right, coming out is a sensitive subject. I just get upset about the idea of people being embarrassed by the idea of having a gay son, or the idea that it's not something a family can just embrace...it's something they have to "get used to." It indicates to me that our society has a long way to go in terms of acceptance of homosexuality.
And there are people here (not you) who are trying to argue that talking about sexual orientation is like showing porn to children. Young children know when their older relatives are pregnant or getting married. Why not tell them an older relative is gay? You can just tell them that it means they fall in love with people of the same gender rather than people of the opposite gender. Pretty straightforward; no porn required.
Yeah.. I have to agree with the opinion that a family reunion isn't the place for something like that. And I'm not homophobic - my brother is gay and I love him and I am very proud of him - but I agree that it would have been a lot more respectful to his mom (and close family) to have this discussion with them first. But I don't care for the t-shirt idea anyway, whether they had known ahead of time or not. I'm pretty sure I'd have the same reaction if the shirt said, "Mom, I'm straight" just because it's unnecessary either way, in my opinion. But I guess, no matter what my preference is, I don't want that to be my defining characteristic; people should be able to see much deeper than sexual preferences. I'd rather be seen as a person instead of homo/heterosexual.
#125 - On 07/26/2009 at 10:26am by CrimsonImpact
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@119, not at all. everyone already knows engaged people are fucking, its not a surprise, it is a surprise when you find out someone likes to either take or give it in the ass. one is solidifying a relationship that - in most cases - all parties approve of, and showing committment, the other is simply stating a sexual preference, nothing about a relationship or planning to spend the rest of your life with someone, just letting people know you like the cock. noticing a difference there at all?
#151 - On 07/26/2009 at 11:55am by organisedchaos
Has it occured to anyone yet that the son isn't gay and is just doing this for a reaction.
If I have to make conversation, I would write something about someone else. Ex "Mom, dad's gay."
#154 - On 07/26/2009 at 12:06pm by Wombats111
OP's son is the best troll that has ever lived. He's so good, in fact, that he has even gotten to people in this comments section. Eff OP's life for having to live with someone that's basically an IRL version of a 4Chan user. I don't care if the kid was gay or not, he was trying to piss people off. Successful troll is successful.
I say the family reunion is the perfect place to do something like this.
1) You save a lot of time, since everyone finds out at once.
2) You find out what relatives are still worth talking to, and which ones you never need to bother with again.
3) Anyone who has a problem with it or feels it is "inappropriate" (at an event where most people will be hammering back beer like it's water and not paying attention to much anyway) will likely be in the "not worth it" camp.
Plus, it's just fucking hilarious.
#179 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:09pm by midwestjerk
I agree. Doing something like that had to have taken a lot of courage.
You should try talking to him instead of whining on this site.
PROPOSING and coming out are no way alike. One is professing your love and asking someone to spend their life with you. The other is telling every one your sexual preference. HUGE difference. None of my gay friends came out at a football game or Disney World, that's just odd.
#181 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:10pm by 110879
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FYL for having a gay son.
YDI for letting him see all the ugly ladies and turning him off (im not insuliting u but thats how ppl would turn gay where has he been)
please dont attack me with OMG homophobe theres like 45% gay ppl its pissing me off
@206: Lmao what the fuck? Not only is there absolutely no evidence to support that people are "turned" gay, but there have been decades of research to prove the opposite.
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how is gayness in somebodys blood?
It all comes down to (for males) wether you like getting f*cked in the ass, or reproducing like nature intended. thats only logical
This just in, the shirt the kid was wearing is actually a T-shirt that is mass-produced and sold in Spencers (joke products store). It's a black T-shirt with rainbow letters saying "Mom, I'm gay." This further proves that the kid was trolling.
He could have been trolling and serious at the same time. If he knows that his family is going to hate him no matter what, maybe he figured it was best to go all out.
@213: Scientists have found that gay males have a longer index finger than ring finger, and that the frontal lobe of their brain is larger than heterosexual males. So unless you can prove to me that having an attraction to other men can change your entire genome, then it looks like we're sticking with the "born gay" theory.
I just think it's funny that so many people have opinions on this. I didn't read any past the first four..after that..no one will care. If you really care that much to respond to someone after reading all of these posts..you should find a better hobby :P
#251 - On 07/26/2009 at 4:24pm by DizzyDemon0
Yeah, but this isn't a FML OR a YDI. I don't see how.
Seriously OP, people are gay. Get over it.
#285 - On 07/26/2009 at 7:29pm by Shadow_Phantom
This is not an FML. If anything it's HIS FML! You can't even except your own son. He obviously wanted to tell everyone. It's kinda sad that he was too scared to tell you in person and had to buy a shirt to do so.
i totally agree #103. that kid has some balls, coming out to his entire family all AT ONCE. and the fact that he did it in a creative way, shows that hes really considerate.... and why would the mom post an FML on that? is she a homophobe or something? what a crappy mom, she cant even support her own son........ ='(
#294 - On 07/26/2009 at 10:39pm by f_myusername
It is a big deal, and very inportant at that. Coming out to your family is one of the hardest things you can go through. It may have been handled a whole lot better on his end but it's still not that big of a deal, especially no fml moment. You should just be happy he was willing to even be honest and himself
that just makes you a dick. where's your sense of epicness? this kid is awesome!
#334 - On 07/27/2009 at 9:18pm by BRIDESHEAD
Coming out of the closet is so fucking hard.. Good on him for doing it this way, it makes it a whole lot easier than having to say "I'm gay" 1000 times to family members.. I think he's very brave for doing this.. I'm still not brave enough to tell anyone in my family I'm gay so GOOD ON HIM.
btw this is not a FML, bitch have some respect for your son and be a better mother, support him like your suppose to.
Yeah I've got to say it's pretty disappointing you're posting this as an FML.
What's it even got to do with you (regarding it as an 'FML')? Unless - are you ashamed your son turned out to be gay?
I agree it's pretty shit he couldn't have had a conversation with you. But maybe the fact you're posting this as an FML shows he knows you well enough to know that that conversation probably wasn't worth it.
You're a disgrace for a mother.
Actually, it's more like wearing a shirt that says "I have brown hair, Dad" or "Grandma, I'm left-handed"
He never said anything wrong or disgusting. He just let everyone know, simultaneously, how he feels about men. He was born that way.
What if he wore a shirt that said "Mom, I'm straight"? No one would give a shit.
#368 - On 08/05/2009 at 12:02am by Nectarine
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Someone didn't raise their son right, and this is not in reference to him being gay, so don't come at me with your 'omg homophobe!!!' comments.
#2 - On 07/26/2009 at 5:57am by DuhthatsObvious
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If my son ever came out and told me he was gay, I'd take him out back and smack the queer out of him.
#147 - On 07/26/2009 at 11:40am by Phillay632
and THAT's what's wrong with the world today. Nice way to be open-minded.
What if you had a daughter who was gay? Same course of action?
#156 - On 07/26/2009 at 12:11pm by classic036
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Exactly, for dudes it's fear the dick love the pussy
#239 - On 07/26/2009 at 3:32pm by Rouge_Plague
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Anyone who voted YDI is a jackass. It's not like the OP is a close minded asshole and is ashamed her son is gay. Her son is a moron for not picking a better way to come out.
Not necessarily, they could be going ydi for simply something like not checking her son's clothing b4 they left or ydi for letting him wear it there
#241 - On 07/26/2009 at 3:34pm by Rouge_Plague
I think it'd be kind of hard to pick a better way to come out. This way, you can figure out which family members to keep talking to.
So not an FML, just accept your son for who he is, and kudos to him for being brave enough to come out to the entire family!
Well said, #4! This is not a FML. I mean, maybe if your extended family is wicked homophobic, FHisLife, but I really don't see the problem unless you're embarrassed of his homosexuality (which means you're homophobic). I clicked YDI for being close minded.
#65 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:22am by silvermoonstar3
This would only be FML to the OP if he doesn't like gays. Which, in that case, YDI.
#51 - On 07/26/2009 at 7:52am by Duckasaurus
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The problem is that their son, instead of doing the responsible, polite thing of just telling his parents in private, has just told everyone. This is no different than him wearing a shirt saying something like, "Mom, I am straight!". I mean it's something you take care of at home, not out in public.
#148 - On 07/26/2009 at 11:44am by Horsegal
#148 - I'm bi, and my parents are going to be the last people to know. If I ever tell them, I'm going to have several friends present at the time, because my friends have already accepted me, and I expect my parents would start off with disbelief, and then not want anything to do with me. So tell me, how can you make the generalization that it's always best to tell your parents privately?
I love your son. How old is he ;D? I just told my mum I had a boyfriend. I might do that to come out to the rest of the family, for those my mother hasn't told.
#9 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:07am by TherapyWouldHelp
Well, he figured 'what is the fastest way for everybody to know..?' and he succeeded pretty good I guess.
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It's kind like a slap in the face.. like.. "Fuck you, Mom. I'm too much of a coward to talk to you about this privately, so I'll come out in front of a crowd. This way we'll all be embarrassed."
Or maybe more like "Hey, I'll just come out to my whole family at once"
Of course since he is gay he must be a spiteful little bitch, right? /sarcasm
It's a much more effective way, doing it in front of everyone who matters. That way you don't have to go through the pain it is to tell everyone one at a time.
lol, how is it "hey i'll come out to the whole family at once", when the t-shirt just says "mom".
Srsly, he wasted good money on a t-shirt.
Why should anyone be embarrassed? That's the mentality I take issue with here. If the news were "Mom, I got into Yale!" or other "good news," would people be saying this was an "embarrassing" way of telling people?
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yale = i fuck men? ummm no. epic fail.
#66 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:23am by organisedchaos
The only reason you would do something like that is because you want to make sure your mom can't react to the news bc she doesn't want to cause a scene. It has nothing to do with coming out to everyone at the same time bc like someone pointed out the shirt said, "mom, im gay."
If people didn't think it were such a sensitive issue, it could have been a humorous way of telling people.
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letitbe- Actually, yes, I would have reacted the same way. Why? I don't care what it is- don't come out with the news like that. It is embarassing to the parents that their child makes such a scene!
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I don't get why people are getting so hung up on the shirt saying "Mom, I'm gay"? Where the fuck have you seen a shirt that says, "dear family at this reunion, i'm gay"?
#266 - On 07/26/2009 at 4:51pm by apastry
I think he should have posted an fml. my mom is a bitch who is embarrassed of me because of who i am. fml
Its sad that you dont know your kid enough not to know he was gay
#13 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:08am by katiefershady
I agree with the second part but at least she didn't bet on her child's sexuality as other parents have on this site.
If you have a problem with him telling people that he is gay u dont deserve to have a son.
You wouldnt have had a problem if the shirt said that he was straight.
#14 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:08am by newguy90
and your FMLing because your son gathered enough courage to finally tell you? So what if he wanted to kill all the
birds with one stone. YDI.
#15 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:10am by miiztaylor
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Well, I mean if they're homosexual, then they don't care about morals, so incest won't be a problem for them for the most part.
So? Do you accept that your son is gay? He opened up, maybe not in the way anyone would expect, but still..
#19 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:17am by Khalavaster
Well can you really blame him? I mean after all if he told you he was gay it would make an akward conversation. So it would just be easier to wear a t-shirt like he did. And besides your family would find out sooner or later.
#20 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:18am by lolallthetimes
At least he is honest. May you now allow him to live in peace!
#21 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:20am by melikeulongtime
OP: are you a homophobe or just embarrassed that your son couldn't tell you in person? Because I hope it's the second, if there's one thing worse than terrorists, it's homophobes. Kudos to your son.
It's a pretty good way to tell "fuck you guys" to your family, not to say you're gay. Some people might think this, so think about it for a moment before launching the homophobephobe rocket in here.
My thoughts exactly. There's a way to announce things, and that's certainly not a respectful way of doing it.
So if the son got into his dream college and told everyone by wearing their t-shirt to the reunion, that would be disrespectful?
The only reason people see the coming out scenario as disrespectful is because of the assumption that coming out to your family is like delivering bad news, which it shouldn't be.
A truly supportive family would have celebrated with him.
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You would celebrate a 'I got into Yale' shirt, because doing so is an achievement. Being straight or homosexual isn't an achievement. And announcing one's sexuality at a big family function isn't really appropriate. Having a conversation with the family members you'd like to tell, however, is.
#94 - On 07/26/2009 at 9:35am by auroraaustralis
It's not that it's bad news but it is definitely hard news for a mother to take. All the dreams she had of her son getting married and giving her grandchildren are gone.. and even if she accepts him she has to worry about all the ridicule he is going to receive from people that don't love him as much as she does. A parent not wanting their child to be homosexual or having trouble accepting it is not always for selfish reasons.
Well...all her son has to do is move to Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, Vermont, Maine or New Hampshire and adopt a child, and there you go. Marriage and grandchildren. If it's hard for her to take, it's because she has problems with gay people. End of story.
#113 - I hate to say this, but no, it doesn't mean that she has a problem with it. Three of my best friends are either gay or bisexual, and I've never cared except that talking to them about relationships is a bit different than talking to a straight person (not because it's weird, but because women and men are different, whether you're gay or not). Yet if my son were gay, I would much, much prefer him to tell me and his immediate family first before going out and writing it on a shirt for everyone to see. Hell, I'd be annoyed at him if he went out with a 'I got in to Yale' shirt too, because bragging about something like that is damned rude, and is very much like saying 'I'm better than you!'
The fact is you don't announce stuff like that through a T-shirt to those who matter to you. Period. You tell them face to face. Imagine wearing an 'I have cancer' T-Shirt to a party like that. Or an 'I'm engaged' T-shirt. Sure, being engaged is all well and good, but tell people out loud, don't make them read your chest to figure it out. Congrats to him for being gay and all, but have a bit more tact about it.
The point is parents usually have dreamed up this perfect life for their children full of everything they had, and everything they missed out on. A lot of times they can't see homosexuality fitting in with that perfect lifestyle, and it has nothing to do with them being homophobic.
My bestfriend's parents were devastated when she got into FIT and decided to pursue photography. Is there anything embarrassing about getting accepted into a top art school? Hell no, but her parents wanted her to take the traditional college route and that didn't fit into their fairy tale ending for her.
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First of all, "getting into Yale" and "I'm gay!" are apples and oranges. One is a choice, and an accomplishment from years of hard work, one is a sexual orientation. They're just not the same. (I also think the "I have cancer." shirt is inappropriate, since that's a negative thing... and being gay should not be a negative.)
But #113: No. You're wrong. It's always an adjustment when you have to change your expectations. That does not indicate homophobia, it's NORMAL. Parents assume their child will be the same as them... when they are not, there is some type of grieving process. If they have a disability, if they are gay, if WHATEVER. Their expectations have to change. (This doesn't mean they can't ALSO be intolerant of whatever the child is, but it doesn't have to mean that.)
Any change is a loss. If the son is gay... yes, you have a new gay son, but the parents will grieve the straight son they thought they had. This is natural and for you to deny parents that or to label them homophobic for doing so is ignorant and offensive.
Sorry... I'm a little passionate about this right now. Just had a conversation about me being gay with my dad.
#171 - On 07/26/2009 at 12:54pm by go_rangers
Lexibro- But who made the rule that a perfect lifestyle can't include being gay? Heck, if she wanted to, a lesbian could still get herself a little house with a picket fence and be a stay-at-home mom like in the fifties. The only difference would be that she'd have a wife, not a husband, to support her. Whether or not you want to call it homophobic, you still have to call it closed-minded if parents think that a good life requires being heterosexual.
And Apollo45- When you get into an Ivy League school, usually your family is proud of you and wants you to send them t-shirts of their own as Christmas presents. Sorry you have something against people who actually studied in high school. People who go to good colleges don't do it to make you feel bad about yourself; they do it because they have been working hard and aren't afraid to keep working hard. If you had worked that hard, you could have gone to a good school too. Seriously, get over it.
Anyway, as I said before, with an open-minded family, coming out through a t-shirt would have been really funny. It's the family's fault that they can't appreciate the kid's sense of humor. Yeah, maybe he should have mentioned it to his mom first, but I get the sense that the OP's son didn't tell her for a reason.
letitbe- I am not disagreeing with you. I am just looking at it from the eyes of a parent. If I chose to spend the rest of my life with my g/f I would like to think I have a chance at being completely happy and living the perfect life, but it is not always easy for people who live a different life to see that. The "perfect life" is subjective and people will never agree on what that is. I just don't think we should make a villain out of parents who only want what they consider to be the best for their kid.
Yeah. It's not that I don't understand how even well-meaning parents could be upset or confused by a child's being homo- or bisexual. I just strongly believe that we should all work towards a society where parents can accept and embrace a child's coming out without a second thought. And there are certain heteronormative myths that will need to be destroyed in order to accomplish that.
I would really love to see the day when a gay couple and their adopted children can be seen by all as a family. I have a few close friends who are gay or bi who are really loving, wonderful people who are good with children and will be excellent parents. It makes me cry whenever another state passes a law against same-sex couples adopting, because they don't realize that they are depriving needy children of some of the best parents there are.
Don't get me wrong about the cancer thing - I wasn't saying that it was like being gay, I meant that it's just one of those things you don't wear a T-shirt announcing it to everyone about, you actually tell them. Important things you should actually tell people, through your mouth, not your shirt.
Letitbe, I was accepted to Harvard (didn't want to go there, law school isn't my thing). I have no problems with people being accepted or going there. But it gets on my nerves when they walk around with a 'better than thou' attitude about it. It's for that very reason that I wouldn't want someone announcing that they go to Yale through a T-Shirt. Having a few shirts that say you go there after the fact is all well and good, but announcing it to everyone like that is rude. Imagine a kid walking around with his chest sticking out just so people can read that he is going to go to an Ivy League school. Of course, that has nothing to do with the OP's son being gay, it's just a clarification to my last reply.
Now, there's also a very large difference between wearing a T-shirt and making an announcement at the table, ya know? If he had stood up and said he had something to announce, well, props to him there because that takes a ton of actual courage, where as throwing on a T-shirt... not so much. All in all, it was a bad way to go about doing it. And the OP doesn't sound like she was upset with him being gay, she sounded like she was upset with him announcing it in the way he did.
Apollo- I can definitely see how wearing random Ivy League gear in public to draw attention would be obnoxious. However, when I got accepted to my dream school, I called several of my family members to let them know--not to rub how awesome I was in their faces, but because I knew they'd want to share in my happiness and excitement. I think that would be the reason to wear a Yale/Harvard/Whatever shirt to the family picnic, and I see nothing wrong with that.
#12, How is it embarrassing? You should become more comfortable with your sexuality. And mom, you should except your son the way he is. Bitch.
#24 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:23am by katied4224
Your son is awesome.
PS - Be less supportive of your own child.
#25 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:24am by survivalism
Cut her a break, she didn't say she was a homophobe or that she didnt accept her son's sexuality. But honestly that's probably pretty shocking for a mom. Especially in front of the whole family. Kudos to him though, that's pretty bold.
At least your son didn't try to sugar coat it and was straightforward and its your family not some company picnic.
I don't think she is saying "FML" because her son is gay, I think it's just because of the way he decided to tell them all.
#30 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:27am by KingNick1100
And why shouldn't he tell them all? Like people said with the other good news on T-shirts, if it had said "Mom, I got into Yale" or something else she considered positive, people (homophobes included) would think that's awesome. If you can stand there and say "I don't mind that he's gay but I don't want anyone else to know", you're still homophobic. Those kinds of people are sometimes worse that normal homophobes because they feel that they are good, open minded people while being awful. People don't hide being straight in public and their families, and shouldn't have to hide being gay.
#70 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:30am by silvermoonstar3
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homophobes worse then terrorists..... u fucken queer
#31 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:30am by thegunners
oh well, i suppose the kid didn't want to have 20 seperate lectures all at once. perhaps he is concerned about the potential for disbelieving gossip if left to the grapevine.
i don't think its either a fml, or ydi. you have to know why he did it. if he did it because you would have lied about it if asked "is john gay" by another family member.
#35 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:32am by fucentarmal
Omg, that is the best way to come out ever ^^
And I fail to see the fml...
#44 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:58am by ZombieYoshi
At Least He Did It To Your Face. My Brother Sent My Mom An E-Mail While She Was At Work!
#45 - On 07/26/2009 at 7:02am by MeganPomietlo
Not Every Word Needs To Be Capitalized.
Besides, maybe he sent an email because he didn't think she would accept him and it was easier to do it like that.
#71 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:32am by silvermoonstar3
oh my god, i'm pretty sure i love your son.
best way of coming out ever.
#47 - On 07/26/2009 at 7:03am by roflstephh
How is this a fml? You should be proud of your son. He was brave enough to come out to his whole family, which could have been very hard for him. And to those people who said stuff about him wearing a shirt making it embarrassing, just think how hard it would be to come out to everyone. Wearing it on a t-shirt seems like the easiest way to come out to everyone without having to explain anything. I hope your son reads this and sees how unsupportive you are.
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The first time your child has sex isnt embarrassing, you child wearing a shirt that says "I got laid" to a family gathering is.
this is the same situation, the kid needs to grow up and should have come out in a more acceptable way
Bad example. See, in America (where this happened), there are social rules that say you don't talk about sex with your family, and that it's not polite to let everyone know about it. In homophobic parts of America, I guess your statement works, since they don't think it's right to talk about it (or to BE gay). He didn't wear a shirt that said "Mom, I sleep with men". He just let her (and the family) know who he really is and that he falls in love with men. Letting people know you are gay should not be something considered rude or taboo.
#75 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:37am by silvermoonstar3
You think sexual orientation is all about the physical action of sex don't you? Sad.
#89 - On 07/26/2009 at 9:21am by Miso_Soupu
hope its not fml ur son is gay , but the way he did come out .... just wow but accept him for who he is OP , it may take time but work with him
#52 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:02am by StudBoiAyeEm
This is not an FYL. Depending on how you responded, it might be an Fyour son'sL.
Coming out shouldn't have to feel like delivering bad news. Anyone who thinks that it should needs to rethink their values. The son wanted his family to know he was gay, and he found a humorous way of telling them. Yeah, maybe he could have told his nuclear family first, but I don't blame him for not doing that because it doesn't sound like he has a very open-minded mom.
Good for him for coming out, seriously.
The fact that you are/were embarrassed by this means you would have preferred people not to know, which means you have some kind of problem with it, or maybe even some homophobia going on; I don't know to what degree, but it was obviously enough that he knew he couldn't come out to you comfortably, assured of your acceptance, and with total faith that you would be cool with it - also, if he felt he couldn't come out to you any other way, then really, that's more telling of you than it is him. Furthermore, if it really was so hard to come out to *you*, then I don't blame him for doing it at the family reunion, and getting the whole lot over with right then and there in one shot.
I have no doubt that this was his way of not only coming out, but his way of slightly punishing you for the fact that you are obviously not okay with it. It's an obvious act of defiance, in that he would know you would try to keep it hidden if he came out to you alone, which I am sure would spark fury in any gentleman of that persuasion. However, if you are SO uncomfortable with it that this is a true FML for you and not just a funny one, then you totally deserve it.
#54 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:10am by judgeymcjudge
I agree wholeheartedly. In an accepting family, the t-shirt would have been considered funny, not rude or embarrassing. I think it's really sad that this mom is so blind as to who her son is...and that he never felt he could let her in on this part of himself.
Wow.. fyl?
go fuck yourself, if you think your son being gay is so bad then you don't deserve to have a fucking kid
#59 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:16am by darkshadow
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Nobody WANTS their son to be gay. Being a little bit disappointed doesn't make you a homophobe. Also, the only reason the kid came out at the reunion is because he wants a public place so that his parents won't make a big scene. Especially in front of people they know. If not, and the son just wanted to be dramatic, this confirms all the stereotypes I have of gay people.
Being surprised doesn't make you a homophobe. Being disappointed does. And, if his parents were going to make a big scene, that's not an expression of "a little" disappointment.
I would like my first born to be gay/bisexual/lesbian. It means that he or she would have once less thing to be close minded to. I would have absolutely NO problem if all the kids I ever have are all gay. What's the big deal? They'll have boyfriends or girlfriends. Why should a parent care which?
#78 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:42am by silvermoonstar3
A woman's antibodies do not attack a FETUS. That's stupid and impossible - everything in the woman's body goes toward nurturing and PROTECTING the fetus. Second, I doubt a woman possesses antibodies against male SPERM (as you were trying to say I suspect), because an antibody is specific to one molecule and one substance and one substance only. The problem is that the vagina is highly acidic, and there are general macrophages which attack the sperm as foreign substances. A fetus is not a foreign object, it's half of the maternal DNA packaged in protective cells that is implanted in the uterine lining.
Second, there is no way, that is true, because the DNA inside a sperm cell are well-protected inside a protein capsid - if not, the cell would be lysed and the DNA would leak out into the extracellular fluid and the sperm would never fertilize the egg. The only adaptive mechanisms a sperm can have is a stronger flagellum (the tail that propels it), and better metabolism of sugar for energy. Feminine DNA has no impact.
Third, what's to say that, if what you said was actually true, that feminine characteristics as an adaptive mechanism equate to homosexuality?
Also, what do you mean that the fetuses (feti?) would be adapting???? they are DIFFERENT beings that aren't direct descendants. they can't evolve...that's not the way it works...
I would like to add a little clarification here. The woman's body WILL reject the fetus if it weren't for the placenta and the mother's blood never entering the fetus. The fetus is a parasite.
Y'all just sound like a bunch of fucking idiots who tried to look shit up on the internet and failed. STFU and go learn something.
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@108: Yes, a female's body does attack a fetus. Not only that, but the vagina is acidic and is responsible for killing most of the sperm. Thanks to proving to everyone you never took 10th grade science.
Maybe if you had a closer relationship with your son then he could have had the courage to sit down and tell you face to face. For all we know this is just his personality to telll you something really important in an entertaining way. A lot of guys are comfortable discusiing there feelings so this t-shirt idea could have seemed brilliant to him. I'm sure he would love to know that you are fml ing his clever idea and that he is glad that you are supporting the fact that your gay. I agree wearing the shirt to a family reunion is a tad inappropriate, but it saves you from having to hide it from the rest of the family because your to embaressed of it. I fail to see the FML. You should support your son not be embaressed of him.
#69 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:29am by colormefancy
I dunno. I think it would have been more respectful to the mother to sit down with her privately and tell her. Whether or not you consider it a negative thing, it will still take time for a parent to digest. I think I would like either of my kids to tell me privately.
THEN wear the T-shirt to the reunion.
#73 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:37am by yandiepandy
See, I have a good number of gay, lesbian, and bisexual friends. I live in MA, where there's a smaller (but totally there!) percent of homophobic people. Some of their parents were just like, "Oh, okay" and moved on with their lives. If you're not all all homophobic, you wouldn't need time to digest. A lot of parents learn to be less homophobic after they learn their kid is gay. That's why they need time.
#80 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:45am by silvermoonstar3
Okay, but whether or not you're an 'oh okay' parent or you might need to get used to it.. I still think that as the parent she deserved a little more respect that her son showed her.
#84 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:48am by yandiepandy
I hope by FML you mean "FML for raising a son that can't probably address me with such important news." or maybe you didn't raise him as such, I'm not gonna make assumptions.
I think this would be embarrassing for the mom, and NOT because he's gay. I would consider it just as much of an FYL if a daughter wore a shirt that said "Mom, I'm pregnant." The fact that the shirt said "MOM I'm gay" is basically announcing to the whole family, "Hey, my mom didn't know this very important thing about me and I'm afraid of her reaction so I'm telling her in front of everyone." It disrespects her. Maybe the motives were totally innocent-- the kill-the-gossip thing as mentioned in earlier comments-- but maybe he just wasn't giving Mom the benefit of the doubt that she would accept him and not go apeshit. I can see a coming out as being an emotional thing, even if she was 110% supportive, because the son was sharing something so important with her. I know I'd want privacy in that situation, and not have to worry about Aunt Bertha watching me and judging my reaction. (And don't we all have an Aunt Bertha?!)
But then again, if OP is a homophobe, then YDI for not making your kid comfortable enough to tell you anything important.
#77 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:42am by TheIrishJaneDoe
If the daughter is married, I think that's an awesome way to tell people! So your kid didn't play favorites and tell you first. Big deal!
#83 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:47am by silvermoonstar3
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...wow. that's a GREAT way to come out. if you're a pussy that is. just tie him to a chair and make him watch your husband's porn collection. it'll work.
#85 - On 07/26/2009 at 8:52am by epicFAIL_Sometim
It's people like YOU that disgust ME. It's called a sense of humor. Have you heard of it? And did you really call porn "disgusting smut"? YOU are not normal.
#95 - On 07/26/2009 at 9:40am by epicFAIL_Sometim
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Learn to take a joke already! And there's nothing wrong with porn. Are you some sort of religious fag?
#112 - On 07/26/2009 at 10:01am by epicFAIL_Sometim
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Okay then? Due to the fact that I'm beyond lazy and practically have ADD I have lost all interest in this argument and no longer wish to continue it. So I guess you can chalk this one up as a win! Be sure to do your victory jack-off tonight! And I find it quiet funny. Yay I is homophobe! You are so judgemental. Unless a person bows down and starts worshipping gays, they're homophobes.
Yes, I used "fag". Oh noes! It's the end of mankind as we know it! I better start nailing up my doors and windows lest the faggots hear about this and come after me throwing skittles!
#135 - On 07/26/2009 at 10:52am by epicFAIL_Sometim
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Ow! You got me! Ow, Mommy! Where are you!
Humans evolved through a course of time to be better equipped to survive. All the changes we went through were for the better of our race. Now explain to me how homosexuality betters mankind. Or better yet, explain their existence! How often do you see gay animals? Gays are freaks of nature, this is the only explanation. If you can answer my questions without spouting the usual bullshit, then feel free!
#230 - On 07/26/2009 at 3:07pm by epicFAIL_Sometim
Hmm, simple answer to how homosexuals help our species is that is that it helps cut down on the overpopulation that is causing worldwide (there's some everywhere) poverty and hunger. The only difference between a homosexual partnership and a heterosexual one is that heterosexuals can easily reproduce. That's IT.
#261 - On 07/26/2009 at 4:45pm by Lonely_Lez
the first time i read this i literally thought he walked out of a closet wearing a shirt that said mom i'm gay at their family reunion. it could have been a metaphor and a double entendre!
#87 - On 07/26/2009 at 9:10am by broken_symlink
this is so not an FML. let the kid wear what he wants to wear, and don't be ashamed of his sexuality or his approach to announcing this kind of stuff. what matters is that he's your son, and you should be supporting him instead of being embarrassed by him. plus, everyone there is your family too, so its just as important for them to know--why not share it publicly like that?
#91 - On 07/26/2009 at 9:30am by i_love_your_sox
I'm guessing she is saying FML because her son's gay, seeing as she's from Kentucky which is full of rednecks, in which case, definitely YDI.
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#104 - On 07/26/2009 at 9:54am by definitionof
I said YDI, not because anything particularly bad happened, but because you thought of this as an FML. It's great that your kid is comfortable enough with himself to wear a shirt that announces his sexuality, but it's sad that he didn't feel like he could tell you one on one. Probably he thought you would react badly or be angry or disappointed, so he thought he might as well get it all over with at once, knowing there would be less of a chance for a scene.
Today, I came out to my entire family. My mom posted it on FML. FML
#115 - On 07/26/2009 at 10:04am by fortywhacks
Sweetheart, I'm so sorry. Hearing something shocking (about something that, in the past, has been taboo) is difficult to say the least. Maybe if you had told them privately, after they had time to accept it, they would have come out with you. I think it's unfair to just expect people to be ok with it right away. Change takes time, and you should have afforded your parents that time.
If my child did that I would feel bad that they didn't think I loved them enough to hear what is truly in their heart. No, I probably wouldn't be thrilled, but you know what, you deal with it and move on. But you ALWAYS love your children. You didn't give your parents the time to deal with it, so maybe writing about is how your mom is dealing with it. It isn't something I would want for my son, but that's me projecting. But it wouldn't change how I felt about him. I have many gay friends. I love them no differently than my straight friends.
What I'm saying is give them time, and I'm sending you a hug.
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#229 - On 07/26/2009 at 3:03pm by flinkpamingo
Congrats! Be happy that he's feels comfortable enough to say it out loud to you.... and everyone else as well.
If the son had wanted his parents to be caring and supportive, then he should have considered their feelings, and discussed his sexuality privately and respectfully. The son decided to share some big, emotional information publicly, without any consideration of his parents' thoughts and feelings. The mom did the EXACT SAME THING by posting an FML about her son's actions. Nothing more, nothing less.
As a few rational people have said before, it's almost impossible for the mother not to feel some surprise or disappointment when her son reveals that his sexuality is different than the family had assumed. This does not mean that she is a flaming, unsupportive homophobe who believes that homosexuals shall burn in the fires of hell. It sickens me how all the "anti-homophobes" are a lot less tolerant than most "homophobes". The mother did not say that her life is screwed because her son is gay. While she may be a little disappointed, the FML is clearly in the way that he came out of the closet.
It's truly sad how irrational a group of people can be when a touchy issue like homosexuality is brought up on the internet. Please read the FML, consider the OP's point of view, and think before posting hateful things that have nothing to do with the spirit of the FML.
#326 - On 07/27/2009 at 1:25pm by Holybatman
Be glad, your son is proud of who he is and has the guts to tell everyone. Plus, it's way easier just to tell everyone at once.
I don't see the FML. That is definitely a creative way to come out though.
#130 - On 07/26/2009 at 10:37am by TheSmirkster
You clearly didn't make him comfortable enough for him to tell you this alone, so he decided this was a better way to do it. YDI, and F your son's life.
Just because we believe that homosexuals and heterosexuals should be treated equally (which I strongly do) doesn't mean society will also. This obviously came as a shock to the mom and she obviously wouldn't have been ready for her whole extended family to know. They may be uber-Christians or trying to cut their family out of a will or something. Family reunion =\= happy, loving, accepting family.
OP, just love your son and be happy the way he is. He is still the same person you saw before he came out. Maybe have a talk about tact, but he was just trying to express himself. :)
GUYS! READ THE FML! She's not saying "fml" because her son is gay, but because of the WAY he chose to come out! But everyone's just so quick to jump on the "OMGG!! HOMOPHOBE!!11!" "UR A BAD PARENTT!!!11!!" bandwagon!
#139 - On 07/26/2009 at 11:04am by xxXChiiXxx
There's nothing wrong with the way he chose to come out.
#175 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:01pm by midwestjerk
Maybe your son thought you would judge him and be mean about it, if he told you privately, but you wouldn't act like that in front of the whole family, so he did it that way... safety in numbers sort of thing. Or maybe he's just a jerk who wanted to make a big scene for the shock value of it. Whatever his reason for choosing that particular way of telling you, you should still be supportive of his orientation, no matter what it is.
#141 - On 07/26/2009 at 11:24am by intotheblue
I hate it when people complain that their children were comfortable enough as mature young (or grown) adults to come out to their parents. Some parents force their children to "confess" and then try to "cure" them, making their lives a miserable hell. I really hope that you will not treat your son differently because of this.
so? you got a problem with gay people you (something)ist?
#150 - On 07/26/2009 at 11:52am by Nightfallz
I think it's strange that he specifically addressed the shirt to his mom (unless she's really judgmental regarding sexuality, then more power to him), but I don't see a problem with wearing a shirt that says "I'm gay" to a family reunion. It may have been more intimate and given the immediate family more chance to celebrate if he told them first, but if they wouldn't have been supportive then I'm all for the t-shirt.
#152 - On 07/26/2009 at 11:57am by 12frisbees
this OP is a fucking douche ! she says FML for her son coming out to his whole family , wth is wrong with that lady ?!
Yeah, FYL because you're the one who's going to face a shitload of homophobia.
Please.
#163 - On 07/26/2009 at 12:35pm by waterynuggets
This is not an FML, so your son is gay.. and you dont need to explain a thing to your whole family. Get off your high horse, there are much worse things your son could be besides gay.
#164 - On 07/26/2009 at 12:35pm by 1goodthing
i got nothing against the gays, i support lesbians :). But if my kids turned out to b gay i'd b dissapointed.
#165 - On 07/26/2009 at 12:35pm by wrestling49
Ballsy and creative to come out like that. That's just fucking awesome.
This is not an FML. Your son being gay isn't a bad thing, and if any of your relatives take a negative view of him being gay, they're not worth associating with anyway.
#172 - On 07/26/2009 at 12:59pm by midwestjerk
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FYL indeed for having a gay son. It makes it even worse that now your whole family knows too. They might think it's your fault as a parent now that he's a queer what a douche thing to do by your son.
#173 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:00pm by kingofstuff
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But also YDI for not beating his ass right there.
#176 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:06pm by kingofstuff
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Go fuck yourself.
#185 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:17pm by kingofstuff
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i'd support a gay holocaust
#187 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:26pm by wrestling49
Let me guess - you also would support the mass execution of minorities (Blacks, Hispanics, and so on) as well.
#188 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:29pm by midwestjerk
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#187 FTW. and no #188 why would you even think of that that's just wrong.
#189 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:32pm by kingofstuff
kingofstuff- You should know that in 1996, a study was done at the University of Georgia that revealed that men who are homophobic are much more likely to become aroused by sexually explicit videos of homosexual males than men who are not homophobic. You can read it here: http://www.psychologytoday.com/files/u47/Henry_et_al.pdf
Is there something you'd like to tell us about how you REALLY feel?
No man all the chemicals in my head are good and I'd much rather not piss God off.
#196 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:42pm by kingofstuff
Oh, no.
Are you one of those pathetic little people who think that homosexuality is a sin?
#197 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:45pm by midwestjerk
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It is a sin.
#200 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:57pm by kingofstuff
You're probably a fan of Fred Phelps, aren't you?
I'm so tired of you small minded fundies and your "homosexuality is a sin" bullshit. I can understand some of your ignorance since you're only 18 and have yet to experience the real world, but you need to take the blinders off and stop focusing in on a couple of passages in a poorly translated book of parables.
#203 - On 07/26/2009 at 2:04pm by midwestjerk
Yeah, hey! Thanks for reminding me again why I'm not Christian. No benevolent being who loved his children would cause them to be born in a way he considered sinful.
It's too bad the bigoted kids haven't come back. I was looking forward to seeing what bullshit they tried to spew next.
They're 18 and 15, though, so one can't really expect very much from them other than flat-out ignorance.
#274 - On 07/26/2009 at 5:44pm by midwestjerk
did any of you people think that maybe the mom is a bitch and deserved it?maybe the kid tried to tell a couple times and she wouldn't accept it, so he retaliated.i love how everyone on here blames the child.evidence that you are all parents that are afraid that it's your fault if anything "wrong" (nothing wrong with being gay) happens with your child.be proud of your child no matter what their sexuality is.otherwise you shouldn't be a parent.
#177 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:07pm by mylamesauce
haha, that's actually pretty funny.
and there's nothing wrong with being gay, so shut up OP. this isn't a fml at all.
#194 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:37pm by lunaroseemh
You know what,not Fyl.Instead try f*** your parental skills! Maybe if you would talk to your son more he might've felt better to come out face to face.Yes,faimly reunion is a bad place to wear that shirt but at least he came out in the first place.
#195 - On 07/26/2009 at 1:41pm by xfrankenstienx
hey that's just funny plus he's secure enough with his sexuality to reveal it to the entire family. that is unless veryone already knew besides you
Well thats original of him. Now there's no beating around the bush wondering if he is gay or not.
#204 - On 07/26/2009 at 2:09pm by Horton
I love how people think that the son is intentionally trying to embarass his mother by coming out at a family reunion. If he wanted to embarass his mom he'd wear a shirt that had a picture of him making out with another dude, or with a knob in his mouth.
And #55 he was obviously intending to come out to his whole family, since maybe, oh I dunno, he wore the shirt at a family reuinion? Fucking idiot.
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WTF?? Celebrate?? It's the same as getting into Yale?? You have got to be kidding me!! If my kids had ever pulled some fucked-up shit like that- I would have wrapped that shirt around their neck and pulled-hard! What a little attention seeking bitch! And- No, finding out your kid is gay is Not a proud moment. Maybe it could be accepted after you get used to the idea, but I'm pretty damn sure no parent looks at their little newborn baby and thinks, " Awww, I hope the baby grows up to be gay..." And No- Im not a homophobe- just a realist.
OP- Sorry your son did that to you.
#209 - On 07/26/2009 at 2:18pm by girlygirl666
If I had a gay child I wouldn't mind it at all :/ He/she could talk to me openly about it and I'd make sure they let no one ever put them down
#223 - On 07/26/2009 at 2:56pm by SeventhFonons
I actually know several people who are hoping that they have gay children.
#268 - On 07/26/2009 at 4:57pm by Lonely_Lez
after reading through all the commets they're exactly what i expected. Some people are vehemently opposed to the fact that the kid came out at the reunion, and some are excited that the kid had balls. i think in my opinion it was a combination of both fear and balls. he was afraid that if he did it in a closed area that his parents would disown him, and he figured he may as well get it over with the whole family. I don't think this is necessarily a FML for the fact that he's gay, i believe it's a FML that he chose to do it like that, while it is funny, if he's legit there would have been a better way of going about it. i mean what if his grandmother dropped dead from the shock???? that would have sucked... I hope you learn to love your son for what he is, while he needs to learn a little sensitivity on his part.
#216 - On 07/26/2009 at 2:36pm by EXc0municated
To everyone who's going, "I'm not a homophobe! Really, I promise! I have perfectly legitimate reasons for hating this kid!"-- There's a line from Hamlet that comes to mind...Act 3, Scene 2, spoken by Gertrude.
I'm guessing they mean this line:
"The lady protests too much, methinks. "
#232 - On 07/26/2009 at 3:17pm by midwestjerk
Good for your son. He has serious guts. It takes a lot to show your family who you really are and you should be proud of him.
#219 - On 07/26/2009 at 2:45pm by ihateslife
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If that was to me- I don't hate the kid. I just think what he did was wrong. I really don't get all of these "be proud" comments, though. WTF is there to be proud of?? It's in No Way a fucking accomplishment to be gay.
#231 - On 07/26/2009 at 3:08pm by girlygirl666
You obviously have absolutely no idea how hard it can be to be gay in this world. That he was in the closet at all indicates that he had a reason to hide and be afraid of people finding out. That he was able to come out of the closet indicates courage and self-acceptance - it is these that the OP should be proud of. Instead, by posting here, all she's done is prove he had perfectly valid reasons to be in the closet in the first place.
#292 - On 07/26/2009 at 9:32pm by judgeymcjudge
You totally deserve it... it sounds like he's gotten the idea likely that you'll have issues with it or his other parental figure and this way you deal with it front on without avoiding it or whatever and feels a bit more protected perhaps as the likelihood is someone will think he's alright still in the family.
Even if the above's not true he's very brave doing it this way plus you don't have to go around telling everyone or answering questions he could deal with it all at once... I'm bi and haven't come out to a lot of my family due mostly to my grandparents being homophobic... I rather wish we'd family reunions and that i'd done that. Even if I'd gotten disowned by the grandparents their finding out would've been easier with others around and even if my aunt and uncle thought little of me if they found out they'd keep my greats from doing anything too harsh most likely. It also I think would've helped my parents to not slip to denial as easily as they tend to.
I thought "no FML here" but then I remembered.... once upon a time, at a family reunion of sorts, my ... I guess she was my fourth cousin or something... came along with her partner. Everybody gave her the death glare, and started talking behind her back. I was one pretty much the only one willing to go near her (I'm not kidding; my aunt actually went AROUND THE HOUSE just to get something from her car, rather than pass her).
I suppose for the OP, maybe their family is like that? Maybe they didn't want their son to be subjected to that? [shrugs] But he'd have to go around them sometime, either way.
Maybe, too, the OP's family will get the impression he's doing a "gay pride" thing and will think his mother is a homophobe?
And of course, if he's trolling, this can be considered more an FML since he is NOT gay but everyone thinks he is...
Personally I'd find it hilarious.
#236 - On 07/26/2009 at 3:26pm by DameGreyWulf
I hate how people say ydi to this. its not her fault!! jeeezee
#237 - On 07/26/2009 at 3:29pm by viadomus815
Alright I'll start this off by saying I'm a lesbian myself, so I understand in a sense why this boy did what he did. I also understand why the mother is embarrassed.
I'm not taking sides in this. Accepting yourself as a homosexual is hard enough already. I know this first hand. It took me a year to be okay with myself, before that I was suicidal. I just wanted the world to sort of know that I was gay when I came out. It would be easier for everyone. No awkward glances when they would ask me if I had a boyfriend, when we all knew guys weren't my preference.
However, parents know what their kids are my mom knew but never wanted to face it. Parents know they either choose to deal with it or pretend it isn't true and hope that it will go away. If a parent out there actually really in their heart that their child is gay, then maybe someone needs to pay more attention, or their kids are pretending to be gay because they think it's "cool", which is kind of why I can't stand 98% of bisexuals. MOST not ALL are full of bull shit.
I don't think it was right to wear a shirt like that especially to a family reunion. It makes things uncomfortable. I remember I came out to my mom's family in Mexico when I was drunk and I feel terrible about it because I didn't handle the situation accordingly. There is no reason to be ashamed of who you are.
Being gay isn't a disappointment and it isn't a disease. If you aren't gay then homosexuality doesn't affect you. It isn't contagious. How about we rally against stupid drunk straight girls who make out with other girls for attention? We need to protect people from these morons, because to be honest they clearly have no self-esteem and we don't want that spreading around.
Oh wait we can't do that because perverts everywhere will be upset! Because homosexuality behavior is okay between two girls, as long as it isn't 2 guys. How hypocritical can people be? Just worry about yourself. Stop judging and let people live who they are.
for the OP, I'm sorry that your son felt it was appropriate to come out to your family that way. However, I do hope that your son can come to you for support and if not then at least to know that you are tolerant of his lifestyle.
#240 - On 07/26/2009 at 3:33pm by xkonstantine125x
I left out a word in there, but thank you. Just being honest.
#348 - On 07/28/2009 at 10:17pm by xkonstantine125x
I know, I hate girls who go to bars and make out with each other so guys will think they're hot. These guys are probably also going to log on to FML and type "fags suck" later that day.
After all, lesbian girls are just girls who like making out with girls and really want to have sex with guys, while gay males are sinners who made a very bad choice in life and are going to hell, right?
#363 - On 08/01/2009 at 6:29pm by Nectarine
i've seen that shirt before
http://www.hottopic.com/hottopic/Clearance/Tops/Mom-Im-Gay-TShirt-223019.jsp
good chance it was a joke shirt, hence it was a joke
#242 - On 07/26/2009 at 3:38pm by InvernessBoy123
I say good for your son! He may have chosen a way that way annoying to you, but maybe he felt like it was best to let everyone know at once and thought that a slightly humorous way of doing it would break the ice.
Try your best not to be ashamed of him, and let him know that you still love him. You can even tell him that you wish he would have been more sensitive. In the end what's done is done and it is not an FML. Maybe in a few years this will even be a funny memory for you two.
#243 - On 07/26/2009 at 3:38pm by weirdgirl_sf
Your son took a lot of balls to do something like this, and at a family reunion, even. You should be proud of him for his decision. If your family doesn't agree, that's their problem, not yours. They need to learn to be more open-minded.
If you don't agree, then there's still time for you to understand his lifestyle, rather than outright reject him. He's your son. Him being gay doesn't change that fact.
For all you people poo-pooing the OP, the FML is not in the fact that her son is gay, but in the tactless way that he announced it. He didn't think it was appropriate to tell his own mother before everyone else? That seems extremely inconsiderate and disrespectful, but maybe that's just me.
And I personally think any shirt that makes a comment about the wearer's sexual preferences is inappropriate for any situation and would be mortified if a child of mine came to a family gathering wearing one - gay or straight. Those things are just tacky.
good for him :D :D
i give him credit to do something like that.
you have a very brave son. (:
#249 - On 07/26/2009 at 3:58pm by woahhx
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I'm sorry to hear your son is a fag, now would be a good time to disown him
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lmfao hahahahhahahha
#262 - On 07/26/2009 at 4:45pm by wrestling49
I'm sorry to hear that you are such a bigoted asshole. Actually I'm more sorry for the human race, because we need to put up with you and listen to you try to force your barbaric, old-fashioned, moronic, fear-based opinions on us. Homophobic assholes like you disgust me
#265 - On 07/26/2009 at 4:51pm by qetzacoatl122112
YAY for real life trolls!
and if he was being serious......BEST WAY TO COME OUT EVER! How much fun is it to tell the whole world you're gay AND piss off everyone in your family at the same time?!?
#253 - On 07/26/2009 at 4:25pm by ma_belle_fleur
So, your son came out. Where's the FML in this story? Nothing wrong with him being gay. Go ahead and disown him, put him out of your life. You'll be the one missing out later, you'll see.
your son has so much courage to do that.
i know it's a difficult thing to do,
and you should be proud of him.
this isn't an fml! I would love to have come out to my family the way he did! should be proud.
#257 - On 07/26/2009 at 4:40pm by lilfuzz409
As a point, people where "I'm Straight" shirts all the time. Men wearing shirts that say things like "Female Body Inspector" sure aren't declaring their interest in other men.
#260 - On 07/26/2009 at 4:41pm by gildedmuse
i think it's pretty fucked up that you would consider your son's honesty as something that "fucks your life"
#264 - On 07/26/2009 at 4:50pm by georgiefruit
Then how come there aren't any gay dogs, Lez? Last time I checked there's an overpopulation of dogs. You're argument is invalid.
Okay, Saint Jimmy. I concede that gays serve no purpose in life. They're just here to take up space and generate the hate that is homophobia.
#275 - On 07/26/2009 at 5:46pm by epicFAIL_Sometim
Also, my friend has a couple of gay dogs. They hump each other and just so you know, they even brought a female dog so they could have a litter because they're dog crazy, and neither of the male dogs even came near her. Luckily the owners got OVER their homophobia and the female dog got adopted by they're reletives so everyone's happy. :D
#279 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:01pm by Fluffmylife
Homosexual behavior is well documented in animals. Try reading a book/newspaper/academic journal sometime.
#281 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:15pm by Miso_Soupu
there are gay dogs, not that it matters. maybe you should spend less time comparing real life human beings to dogs and more time trying to show some love to people who are different from you.
differences in traits and personality are a part of the human existence. I'm sure there are plenty of things you prefer yourself which have nothing to do with evolutionary improvement.
if you think the only purpose of existence is to procreate in the best way possible, you may have some deeper seeded issues that you should work on with someone who loves you. I'm sure there's someone who does, even if you don't like the same ice cream flavor as them, or whatever else it is you use to judge people to your standards.
love between two people is a purpose in and of itself, and if you are too blind to see that, I feel nothing but pity for you.
No, you're the one here to generate and perpetuate the hate that is homophobia.
#311 - On 07/27/2009 at 3:04am by CheshireAna
You all need to lighten up a little bit, and just admit that this is fucking hilarious
#280 - On 07/26/2009 at 6:12pm by OIF_my_life
Time to deliver the punchline: Succesful troll is succesful!
#286 - On 07/26/2009 at 7:33pm by epicFAIL_Sometim
If he felt he had to do it that way, it means he knows if he told you honestly you would have lectured him and disapproved, which is sort of what you're doing by posting an FML about it. FHL for having to hide himself from you for this long.
#293 - On 07/26/2009 at 10:24pm by beaandbunny05
okay. im going to start out by saying i am actually a bisexual teenage boy myself. I just came out about a month ago. Ijust said 'mom im gay'. She's says 'okay' and turns the television back up like nothing happened. That is what a persons reaction should be (and it was) in a perfect equal world.
But we aren't to the point where we all can disclose our orientation without it being awkward. Yet we can talk about how guys are cute, and which girls have nice boobs. Why isnt the 'i heart boobs' t-shirt all over fml?
As for why he did it with a shirt I actually might have an idea as to why. I think he both wanted to get it over with, and see who truly loved him.
Onto the argument that it is like talking about sex. Well if your married thats not related to sex (by normal conversation standards), if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend its not related (both of these show your orientation and are acceptable in conversations), so why not be able to wear a shirt that relates to it. It is all essentially the same. He was just disclosing who he would fall in love with.
As for the mom, I do get the sense that you are a homophobe, and that needs to stop right now. If you are homophobic because of religion, remember we all get judged in the end, and therefore there is no reason to judge now. And if you say 'well i dont want him to go to hell' god is a forgiving being and you are supposed to 'love thy neighbor' so you should also love your family.
Peace out people.
hey.. i need some help with coming out to my parents how should i do that
#297 - On 07/26/2009 at 11:30pm by Riflepro909
I completly agree! Be proud of your son, he's got guts.
#301 - On 07/27/2009 at 12:40am by RachelRaiinbowzz
my brother had this problem when he came out and in the end he thought it was best just to come out and say it without trying to make it too flowery or like your appoligizing for something what he ended up saying was "mom, dad, im gay and i know you may not agree but its not something i chose its how i was born and I hope you are ok with it because i love you both and i dont want this to hurt you but if not then im sorry but its not something that will change."
#304 - On 07/27/2009 at 12:49am by honesty9
ok so this was ment for the person above u but this websight is being stupid so o well sorry
#305 - On 07/27/2009 at 12:54am by honesty9
so this really isn't the place to give you that type of advice but if you really need help, email me and I'll be very supportive. beaandbunny05@yahoo.com
#306 - On 07/27/2009 at 1:00am by beaandbunny05
Wow. You're a COMPLETE bitch for thinking this is an FML and not supporting your son.
#302 - On 07/27/2009 at 12:44am by sickinlove13
I'm glad your son came out and decided to be himself in front of the family, but he could have told you privately or in a not-so-blatant manner. I agree with the commenter who said it's sort of like wearing a t-shirt that says, "Mom, I'm sexually active." We don't need to know what his sexual preference is, but he could tell you in a conversation if it came up or if he really wanted to tell you anyway. But to announce it in such a fashion in front of the whole family is... a little odd and unnecessary.
However, I'm glad he did come out in any case, and this should NOT be a 'FML.' How is YOUR life fucked, OP? Think about your son for once in your life! Stop being so selfish. Consider what he's going to go through now that he's out! He's going to have a lot of people giving him a hard time to his face and behind his back, and he shouldn't have to worry about his own parents' reactions!!
ahahahaa!!! thats the best thing ever =D. i would love to have a son that does that, if i have kids. u homophobic beast. spread the rainbowy love!!
haha so? thats awesome. I love homosexuals! congrats on having one as a son =D
#309 - On 07/27/2009 at 2:10am by FMLfangirl89
how DARE you be embarrassed at your son's orientation? >
#313 - On 07/27/2009 at 3:33am by WalkingHazard
I agree with so many of the positive comments out there.
Good for your son for having the confidence to be himself... he is clearly a stronger person than you are and has found people to inspire him outside of his family.
You can choose not to be a bigot and support the child you brought in to this world. Otherwise you can be lonely and miss out on the wonderful life your son is clearly creating for himself.
Shame on you for being so closed-minded. Your son deserves better. He loves you enough to come to events and to the reunion and clearly he was hoping for acceptance and love, not for his mother to post hatred on a website.
#315 - On 07/27/2009 at 3:42am by 21andfuckingup
Although I don't think the shirt was exactly a great way to come out, I think you should still be ashamed that you consider this a FML. If you're embarrassed that your son is proclaiming his orientation to the world, imagine how embarrassed he would be that you're proclaiming your "shame" of having an outwardly-gay son?
#316 - On 07/27/2009 at 3:52am by cellist1
I think it's actually quite brave, it sure will have taken some guts...
And this way he only has to out himself once instead of informing and re-informing over and over again to more distant family members (which I remember was a pain when I came out: O Hai aunt Karen, I haven't seen ya in over a year, so it might still be new to ya that I'm gay - *shocked face*)
Out of all the occasions where families are brought together, this one might actually have been the best choice (imagine if it were at a wedding, funeral or baptism)
I'm aware it was a bit of a shock for you it happened "this way", but this isn't a FML at all, so build a bridge, get over it and move along
#317 - On 07/27/2009 at 4:11am by Ganymedes1985
wow people who respond to these things are hella ignorant. as a gay male myself I dont think that was an appropriate way to come out. however I came out to my mother on mothers day this year hahaha
you are a horrible mother how dare you put something like this on a website! think before you act! do you hate your son that much? is your personal appearance more important than him? they are HIS family too! all he wanted was your love and support.. no wonder he chose to come out like that.. you are so closed minded you dont deserve to walk the earth!
good for him :)
he's obvi got the guts to come out.
are some of u saying it's easier to come out to ur whole fam?
I don't think so.
what he did was brave, but I can see why this is an fml.
you shouldn't be ashamed tho,
let him be himself :)
YDI for being ashamed of him. Why would it matter if t happened in front of your family? I bet some of your relatives aren't assholes and would be supportive. This kid is amazing. It takes a lot to be able to tell your family something like this. I know, because I had to help one of my friends through it. It's a big deal. This kid is fuckin' brilliant.
#325 - On 07/27/2009 at 12:56pm by the_corn_baller
Your son has alot of courage, and for that you should be proud of him. Best way to weed out parts of the family not worth calling your own blood IMO. If anyone has a problem, shame on them, they have serious issues for not accepting someone of their own blood for something as silly as homosexuality. People who hate for such a reason are children who haven't moved on from the playground IMO, they might as well be picking on someone for having curly hair or glasses, they just need to GROW UP. I guess as a person who has many open friends and family members, I truly don't understand such hate, just a concept I see as incredibly archaic and just plain silly.
#327 - On 07/27/2009 at 1:40pm by primogen18
I know, I didn't even really come out >< Yahoo Answers basically outed me with an email to my parents saying that I had answered the question "Is being gay wrong?" and they just guessed from there...
#329 - On 07/27/2009 at 3:48pm by qetzacoatl122112
I think this one is probably a lie. If not, then you're a cruddy parent for saying "FML" over something like this instead of being supportive.
i agree with #103. and how is your life fucked? You should be proud of him that he was finally comfortable enough to come out.
#330 - On 07/27/2009 at 5:31pm by five_at_heart
1. Your son ROCKS. If he weren't gay, I'd ask for his number so I could marry him.
2. YDI, completely, for making him feel like he couldn't come to you to discuss it privately.
3. Is he like 100% sure he's gay? Or just like experimenting..?
#331 - On 07/27/2009 at 8:07pm by blacklite69
I wish I could have done that. I used a sticky note. If I didn't already have a boyfriend, I'd ask for his number... Speaking of which, I'd better go call him.
that took some balls - and you come running to some website to whine about it?
last i checked this was still fmylife not imacunt
hopefully the OP was more worried that the son had "come out of the closet" more tactfully rather than the fact that her son is gay (just saying that's another way to interpret it)
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fags suck
#337 - On 07/27/2009 at 10:52pm by that_guy01
#337 yes some of us do, and we are damn good at it! Thank you captain obvious!
#345 - On 07/28/2009 at 1:08pm by primogen18
Yes, your son did come out at a family reunion. But at least he finally had the courage to speak up and tell you about his true sexuality. If you disown him for it then you are the worst mother ever. It's understandable to be shocked or even scared at first, but you have to accept it. He's your SON! You're supposed to love him no matter what! Think of how your child would feel if he knew that you hated him after he thought that he could trust you enough to tell you that. Be a good mother. Accept him.
#340 - On 07/28/2009 at 1:37am by ScreamQueen23
I really hope you're a good enough parent that this FML is NOT because he came out but because his method may have embarrassed you.
#343 - On 07/28/2009 at 2:32am by love15
Sorry, WHY is this an FML? You should be proud that you have such a brave son because coming out of the closet is really hard. I hope you accept him and if you don't you can go to hell.
#344 - On 07/28/2009 at 11:55am by AudreyKHepburn
MY, how I love people who are too outlandishly politically correct for their own good!
#347 - On 07/28/2009 at 9:38pm by Chantalasaurus
Thats amazing atleast he tried to lighten the mood by trying to have a sense of humor about the situation and thats like the best way to come out ever! Atleast he's creative!
#350 - On 07/29/2009 at 1:21am by sftballdarlin_18
Dear OP-
Harsh because he took initiative in front of the *whole* family? No go.
This was incredibly confident of your child. If he truly did this, you have a gem of a man for a son. I say man presumptuously, as whatever his age- a thing like *that* makes him a 'man' in the conventional sense on levels most of us won't ever come into contact with, let alone become or love. I have a crush on him already, and I'm male and hetero.
Should think we need more with courage of that magnitude.
Sorry, no FYL or YDI here. I don't see any concrete problem. The only disparage I saw was on the perceived embarrassment. And that *is* a problem. He's your child. I'm hard-pressed to say -FHL- if you honestly feel what he did means -your- life is effed.
None of that "worry regarding him" bs. Trust in his ability to handle himself, and less about what you *think* it's going to mean for him. If we're to be of a more sound reason and integrity as a species, let alone with our own families and the love that ties our bonds... we need to start acting it. The details are doubt and fear. I'd take lesson from what he did... because he didn't let doubt or fear stop him.
Your son sounds like someone I'd want to buy a beer and try to convince to "go straight" so he could be *my* boyfriend. How's that for problems?
#351 - On 07/29/2009 at 1:32am by justanotherhuman
extra note:
f*ck the sentiment that a thing will be hard for a family member to accept. Be it heroin addiction, being gay, or having a foot fetish that you can't help but reference every available pun that comes your way- even at family gatherings.
This being soft when it comes to people hearing a truth from another person's viewpoint has to stop. We coddle children to protect them from the cruelties of the world. Adults coddle their insecurities with ignorance and fear to defend their sense of identity, and it's wrong. If 'caring' is literally consideration for other people's sensibilities to the extent that parents and children can't or don't accept each other... all is lost. This is a world that doesn't *allow* for some... perceived ideal of a proper time and place. To wax poetic, literally... all we have is now. Humans can only find moments when we're comfortable/confident enough to tell the truth. Never let thinking that you're going to hurt someone stand in the way of telling them that truth, *especially* if you love them. So go tell your son your truth.
#352 - On 07/29/2009 at 1:47am by justanotherhuman
Way to be supportive. Glad to see you find your son gay being and FML.
#353 - On 07/29/2009 at 3:01am by spillproof
I'd wear a shirt that says "My son is a faggot" to the next family gathering.
#355 - On 07/29/2009 at 2:48pm by Zero187
It would make more sense for you to wear one that says "I'm a bigoted asshole with no self-respect so I need to be a fuckwad to anyone who isn't like me."
#360 - On 07/31/2009 at 2:38am by qetzacoatl122112
All the stupid philosophical posts on here are absolutely pants-on-head retarded. This is an ANECEDOTE site, not Dr. Phil.
FYL. Sucks that he didn't have the balls to come talk to you first, but he is gay, so, ya know...
#356 - On 07/30/2009 at 7:24am by blitzer_tidus
I'd be proud.
This is a horrible FML.
You should have respect for him that he is honest, and if you and your family don't accept him, you all are hypocrites, and assholes.
#361 - On 07/31/2009 at 6:18am by Peacelover99
Hahaahahaha i absolutely love this,its so creative. it's great that he's proud and its his family they will all find out eventually why not tell them then and there.
#365 - On 08/03/2009 at 4:42am by xomisstatiana
AWESOME. That kid's got some guts.
OP:
Get the HELL over it. Stop being so god damned ashamed of your son (which you obviously are to have posted this as an FML). He is who he is, and you're not going to change that. If you have a problem with it, you can just go to hell, you bitch. There is NOTHING wrong with being gay. Whether you think this is an FML because your son is gay or because he came out in front of your whole family, it doesn't matter. Do you hate people of different races, too? Do you hate men, simply because they're not women? Because they're DIFFERENT? Too fucking bad. Your son is different, okay? Stop being such a fucking homophobe and learn to accept it!!
#366 - On 08/04/2009 at 12:35pm by elliekinslurvsya
Why are you posting this on FML? I mean, I'm gay and my family doesn't have a problem with it. I'd be proud if it were my kid. You seriously need to get over it! You should support him, because believe me he's going to get hell from everyone else because of it! If you actually loved your son it wouldn't matter whether or not he was gay! Welcome to the 21st century!
#367 - On 08/04/2009 at 3:05pm by skittlefreak101
I have to say that I'm a little saddened to see that you weren't ok enough with your son's choice to come out to your whole family that you felt the need to post it here. I am further saddened though by the moderators who agreed with you on the matter. All this goes to say is that you are ashamed of who your son is.
how is this an fml ? at least he TOLD you instead of you finding out some other way. hes your son, you should be supportive no matter which gender he likes.
Hey, no problem with him coming out at all. Maybe what you should do now is talk to your son about the relationship you have with him; it sounds like it could be more open. My mom has always told me I can tell her anything and that she'll love me no matter what. It really helped me come out without having to buy a t-shirt...and know that she'll love me regardless of my orientation. In fact she asked me if I was gay...
Coming out shouldn't be hard. It is.
You can claim he was rude, but that's societies fault for saying something you can't change should be all that defines a person.
Arguing that homosexuality/heterosexuality should NOT define a person is fine--but the truth is, that it *does*. People kick kids out of families for it--how many people kick kids out of families for liking soccer? Or being sexually active? It happens, but not *nearly as much*.
Homosexuality is a huge defining point, and if my family was gonna dislike me for it, I'd troll them, too. If they *weren't* going to, then it's not trolling. Though, personally, I'd have brought a partner and been like, "have you met my boyfriend, Trevor?" THEN it would REALLY not be rude. o_o But I bet you people would still be fucking throwing a fit about it.
Get over it.
Agreed with everyone who says its not an fml [because it isnt] . Its better this way so he doesnt have to explain to family why he doesnt have a girlfriend. I personally like the shirt and ive seen it [and if you want to buy one hottopic.com]I wanted to buy one but the dont have a "mom, im bi" shirt D,:
#376 - On 08/20/2009 at 12:31pm by sasquatchh
iknow how he feels. im turning sixteen and yet have told my mom im bi. if they if they had a shirt that said that i would buy ittt.... im sorry u had to find out tht way thoughh.
why should yu be effin yur life? you should be proud of yur son! theres nothin to be embarrassed about you fuckn cunt! suport him!
#380 - On 09/10/2009 at 5:16am by joggerjoel
Maybe not the best time to come out in your opinion, but I think it is. This way he tells the whole family at the same time! Also, what the hell do you think you are doing writing this as an FML? You should be proud of raising a son who is so brave. And if people at the family reunion judge that means that the rest of your family sucks. To your son, I wish you luck and congratulations on having the courage to do what many people can't. Partly because they are worried about getting negative reactions like yours. Stop judging, and be a good parent which I am sure you must have been before if you raised a son like that.
#381 - On 09/16/2009 at 1:47am by Wicked_6
wow, THAT'S an FML??? wow lady your a bitch. respect your sons decisions
#382 - On 10/10/2009 at 9:43pm by Babkockdood
I don't think she's upset that he's gay or wanted to come out, but i think she would have rather had him approach her privately to tell her rather than dressing down for an important event. I never "came out" to my family, as being bisexual. But everyone knows.I simply don't hide it, and I think that's the best way to do it. Apparently her son agrees, but didn't execute it in the most sensitive way.
#387 - On 02/06/2010 at 1:40pm by HellfireRogue
some people here obviously don't understand how hard it is to come out to family.
#388 - On 02/24/2010 at 10:35pm by artssfreak
