Today, I decided it was time to tell my daughter that she had been adopted. Not only had she known for 5 years, she found out from my drunk sister. FML
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Today, I decided to come clean with my daughter about her adoptive status within my family. Just after I told her she was adopted, I realized that I have been telling her stories about me giving birth to her. FML
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Today, I overheard my parents arguing over who had to tell me that I'm adopted. FML
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Today, my dad introduced me to my half-sister. He'd only recently found out that he had another daughter by another woman, and had only just met her. She and I have been in the same class in school for the past three years. FML
Today, I found out that my sister's kids refer to me as their 'Drunkle'. I guess I have to admit to myself that I'm an alcoholic. FML
Today, my Dad sat me down and told me that I was adopted. I was unbelievably shocked by this revelation and asked him why he'd never told me this before. His response was, "I didn't know!" FML
Today, my eldest daughter announced she was getting divorced. She never even told me she was married. FML
Today, my Dad sat me down and told me that I was adopted. I was unbelievably shocked by this revelation and asked him why he'd never told me this before. His response was, "I didn't know!" FML
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thereal_BA 5
probably would have been better to tell her sooner....leaving it until later in life can cause major distrust!
weveallbeenthere 30
if she knew for 5 years she obviously didn't care much or she would have come to you sooner.
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thereal_BA 5
probably would have been better to tell her sooner....leaving it until later in life can cause major distrust!
sunshine41196 12
plus if she hasnt said anything about knowing.. maybe she's okay with the fact. But you should have told her earlier op
aine500 16
Ya generally if they find out when they are young they grow up with it and don't have a problem with it
askullnamedbilly 33
How do you know? You have no idea how old the daughter is. The sister could have babysat her when she was four or five years old, which would make her about nine or ten now. "You're adopted" is something that tends to stick with you, even when you're very little.
loganberrybat 11
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#13 aine500 - have you asked every adopted person in the world to verify your statement as correct? No? Shut up then.
thereal_BA 5
OK #24 and still leaving that huge fact until 9 or 10 years old can cause huge trust issues! small children are much more resilient than many people give them credit for but growing up for 10 years and not knowing? you don't know how they will react waiting that long
sonictardis 8
Everyone seems to be leaving out that fact that OP's sister was DRUNK when she told her niece.
JustinMrBest91 10
27 she said generally, Even if her statement is not true.
flame5768 14
i really hope you guys have degrees...
IDontKnowWhoIAm04 24
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8 and 1, it's OP's choice when to tell her daughter. You shouldn't tell her how to parent her own children. If you want to adopt a child and tell him/her they were adopted, then That's your choice, but don't tell someone when to make such an important decision on when to tell her child that she isn't even her real child.
zapped3 8
An adopted child is just as much her "real" child as any biological child would be. Of all the stupid, offensive comments here, as an adopted child, this one hurt the most.
tigerisabelle 31
Yea, thank you 57. My biological parents were drug addicts who didn't give a **** about me and still don't. My real parents love me to death and all that my biological parents are to me is sperm and egg. They literally have no place in my heart. I hate it when people say "oh you're adopted so you're not a REAL child" it's just so untrue and hurtful. Blood isn't always defined by genetics but sometimes by actions. Blood brothers and sisters aren't genetically related (I'm talking about clans here) but are closer than actual brothers and sisters. Just like my parents love me whether I was their "real" child or not.
ebonyirony 29
I'm adopted. Personally I verify it.
ebonyirony 29
57, I hate when people ask me who my real parents are.
cat0720 9
I don't know why everyone is thumbing 13 down. I'm adopted and I've known my entire life. Not a problem. I hate it when people say that they're sorry or ask who my "real parents" are too. There, everyone's ignorant questions answered.
martin998877 12
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That's really not the way you wanted her to find out.
AFCCT 7
Hence the FML..
pooldude 24
You think?
BadApple88 29
No shit Sherlock
weveallbeenthere 30
if she knew for 5 years she obviously didn't care much or she would have come to you sooner.
mac8080 7
I'm adopted I don't mind.
joeyl2008 29
Yeah, I have to agree, if this upset her at all she would have went to the op about it.
baxeh 29
At least you told her and she knows you werent going to keep it from her. Also, she's been okay with it, for five years. I wouldn't worry too much OP!
harrypotter955 19
Nothing gets me more angrier than people who tell important things to other people when they have nothing to do with it
IconicFML 9
More angry or angrier please choose one of the above but not both.
MrConcise 34
What about getting stuck in traffic? Or people who talk through movies none of the viewers have seen before? Or disgruntled babies on airplanes? Or when the notoriously bad internet and cable go out during a miniscule winter storm and your best entertainment option is making absurd and unnecessary lists on FML?...I may have added a little too much bias to that last one.
matt0723 6
You should have told her earlier in her life.
eatmorewaffles 9
Yep, like the day before her sister did. That would have been much more convenient.
hannah341 10
If she didn't say anything for the 5 years then surely she can't have minded a great deal. Be happy that she (I'm gathering this from no mention of distrust) still loves you.
ealovan 20
so she heard from your sister 5 years ago and never thought to ask you about it?
chinaski7628 32
Maybe she was ok with it and didn't care? Maybe she considers her adopted parents her real parents and there is nothing to discuss? I'm sure if she was upset by the news she would have brought it up at some point.
ealovan 20
but I mean if you found out something huge like being adopted then I'm sure you would at least have some questions
cryssycakesx3 22
maybe she was young and didn't understand it's a big deal.
sdroze1389 31
the old saying goes "the truth comes out when you're drunk"
jazzy_123 20
well... sometimes it really is just the liquor talking.
Lil_Red777 21
She might not have been ready to hear it. You don't know how old the girl is, children don't always understand adoption.
Lil_Red777 21
You never know how someone will react to being told something as huge as that.
jazzy_123 20
if she wasn't ready to hear it I'm sure she might have been upset (or anything other than the reaction she actually had) and probably said something to the op.
Lil_Red777 21
It's not like the mother knew that. The mother had no idea and just because the girl didn't say anything doesn't mean she's okay with it.
jazzy_123 20
yeah ok, suppose she wasn't ok with it, don't you think she would act different? op would have noticed. We all get mad and try not to show it, but there will always be someone to notice.