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By adopted - / Monday 3 March 2014 15:55 / United States - New York
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  aine500  |  16

Ya generally if they find out when they are young they grow up with it and don't have a problem with it

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How do you know? You have no idea how old the daughter is. The sister could have babysat her when she was four or five years old, which would make her about nine or ten now. "You're adopted" is something that tends to stick with you, even when you're very little.

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  loganberrybat  |  11

#13 aine500 - have you asked every adopted person in the world to verify your statement as correct? No? Shut up then.

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  thereal_BA  |  5

OK #24 and still leaving that huge fact until 9 or 10 years old can cause huge trust issues! small children are much more resilient than many people give them credit for but growing up for 10 years and not knowing? you don't know how they will react waiting that long

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  sonictardis  |  8

Everyone seems to be leaving out that fact that OP's sister was DRUNK when she told her niece.

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  flame5768  |  14

i really hope you guys have degrees...

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  Ellamare  |  22

8 and 1, it's OP's choice when to tell her daughter. You shouldn't tell her how to parent her own children. If you want to adopt a child and tell him/her they were adopted, then That's your choice, but don't tell someone when to make such an important decision on when to tell her child that she isn't even her real child.

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  zapped3  |  8

An adopted child is just as much her "real" child as any biological child would be. Of all the stupid, offensive comments here, as an adopted child, this one hurt the most.

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  tigerisabelle  |  31

Yea, thank you 57. My biological parents were drug addicts who didn't give a fuck about me and still don't. My real parents love me to death and all that my biological parents are to me is sperm and egg. They literally have no place in my heart. I hate it when people say "oh you're adopted so you're not a REAL child" it's just so untrue and hurtful. Blood isn't always defined by genetics but sometimes by actions. Blood brothers and sisters aren't genetically related (I'm talking about clans here) but are closer than actual brothers and sisters. Just like my parents love me whether I was their "real" child or not.

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  cat0720  |  9

I don't know why everyone is thumbing 13 down. I'm adopted and I've known my entire life. Not a problem. I hate it when people say that they're sorry or ask who my "real parents" are too. There, everyone's ignorant questions answered.

By  martin998877  |  12

That's really not the way you wanted her to find out.

By  baxeh  |  29

At least you told her and she knows you werent going to keep it from her. Also, she's been okay with it, for five years. I wouldn't worry too much OP!

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  MrConcise  |  34

What about getting stuck in traffic? Or people who talk through movies none of the viewers have seen before? Or disgruntled babies on airplanes? Or when the notoriously bad internet and cable go out during a miniscule winter storm and your best entertainment option is making absurd and unnecessary lists on FML?...I may have added a little too much bias to that last one.

By  hannah341  |  10

If she didn't say anything for the 5 years then surely she can't have minded a great deal. Be happy that she (I'm gathering this from no mention of distrust) still loves you.

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  chinaski7628  |  32

Maybe she was ok with it and didn't care? Maybe she considers her adopted parents her real parents and there is nothing to discuss? I'm sure if she was upset by the news she would have brought it up at some point.

By  Lil_Red777  |  21

She might not have been ready to hear it. You don't know how old the girl is, children don't always understand adoption.

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  jazzy_123  |  20

if she wasn't ready to hear it I'm sure she might have been upset (or anything other than the reaction she actually had) and probably said something to the op.

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  jazzy_123  |  20

yeah ok, suppose she wasn't ok with it, don't you think she would act different? op would have noticed. We all get mad and try not to show it, but there will always be someone to notice.

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