Timinator is becoming a little overly sexist

no... he's not being sexist at all. He's pointing out a double standard for a woman versus a man. He's stating that she's a woman, so is expected to meet the arbitrary definition of "being married," but he is not.

Sheila, as a straight white individual you absolutely CAN have pride... but you have to be able to explain why it is a source of pride. Gay pride, racial identity pride, gender identity pride... all of these are reactions of disenfranchised groups that clap back at a privileged majority that tries to shame & hide them, or worse tries to deny them rights, freedoms, and in some cases, life. They loudly and proudly exist as who they are, regardless of the close-minded opinions of the majority that tells them they don't belong. Perhaps focus on your pride... as a resident of your city? Pride in your place within a community or social organization? Pride in Irish, Italian, or other heritage & the culture that comes with that heritage? As for being accepted as yourself, again, outside of a pride festival, or social organization dedicated to a particular marginalized demographic, where someone is trying to deflect attention from the marginalized group that is celebrating and onto themselves, I've never seen a white straight person not be accepted for who they are as a white straight person. Other factors of who you are might have had an impact (such as facial tattoos, clothing choice, hygiene, political opinions, and so forth).

It isn't racist, it's called a stereotype. And they exist, and they also exist for a reason. It can also happen outside Asian (Asia and East Asia) families too obviously. It's racism when you make them to be unequal to everyone else or degraded at people; and you haven't done it at all.