I believe that this point, his family are just using that as an excuse to hate on you. Do not put up with it... especially if it's affecting your daughter. Your husband should be putting a stop to it as well.

"Something" can range from double-dipping your chip to pushing Grandpa down the stairs. Without knowing what it is, it's hard to say anything other than: Sounds like a shitty situation!

I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, but the fact that you seem to be unwilling to even hint at what you did is kind of suspicious. Edit: Another commenter (LaLaLaila777) guessed that you may have had a baby as a teenager. They’re right—that’s NO reason to hate someone. I’m truly sorry if that (or something similar) is the reason that your in-laws hate you. To heck with them.

I'm assuming that you got pregnant at 18 and now have a 10 year old child, and that they consider you having a baby at 18 a reason to hate you. id have an open conversation about their behavior. you need to set strict boundaries on what is acceptable or unacceptable behavior, and clearly state it To them and your partner. for example, no talking negatively about me to my child or in my childs presence. if this boundary is crossed we will not be visiting (or having you visit) any longer because I'm feeling disrespected by that behavior. I'm sorry you're going through that, i was a young mom as well, enjoy your life and let those who wish to hate To go hate on themselves

Maybe they don’t have to see your husband’s family.