You gotta have some type of peace offering and neutral talk with her to see where she's going with this. Things are not being specified and mystery will only hurt more.

One interpretation is that daughter was resentful of how she was raised but using OP to get stuff. That’s a very ugly picture and if it were true it should be the end of the gravy train for daughter… OP, I think you deserve an explanation from your daughter about the issues she is upset over and what she expects of your relationship. Bear in mind that just because she wants or expects something doesn’t mean she gets it from you. It’s pointless to try to buy love or friendship regardless of who they are. Once you start down that road the demands never end and eventually you will be through with the charade.

Don't ask us -- listen to what she said in her rant.

Without further context, I don’t know which version, if any, is the truth. The following post is admittedly all speculation and not much substance, if any. But as a counterweight to the others in this thread, I will say that a lot of children of narcissists will play along while they’re working on gaining financial independence, and when they finally get it—such as, say, obtaining a furnished apartment—they’ll sever contact now that they’re no longer obligated to play along if they want to have a roof over their heads. And from observation, usually when this happens, the narcissist parent will feel completely blindsided by the sudden shift in dynamics and automatically reject the clear reasoning laid out by the child, often omitting it entirely when retelling the story later (“missing missing reasons”). What did your daughter tell you, exactly? Is there any truth to it, at least from her point of view? Did she actually enjoy your mother-daughter outings or was she just playing along and you didn’t notice because this was how you felt things should be? Some things to consider with the aid of a therapist.

she probably told you