Miscellaneous and Sexism: Toxic masculinity

Toxic masculinity

By Anonymous - 13/01/2021 09:01 - Canada - Edmonton

Today, it was one of those rare occasions I wore shorts. The first thing my male cousin said was, "Why so sexy?” Misogyny is why I don’t wear shorts. FML

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By Marymary - 27/08/2019 20:00

Today, my cousins and I were walking past bars, choosing one go to. I recently got my hair cut short and thought it was cute. A little boy walking beside us looked at me and said, "Are you a boy?" His mother shushed him and said, "No dear, she's just flat-chested." FML

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You deserved it 274

By xolaurennnn - 22/05/2015 15:55 - United States

Today, it was hot out, so I wore shorts. My dad took one look at me and said, "Your thighs are so pale, it's like staring into the sun". FML

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By Chubs - 29/03/2009 12:32 - Norway

Today, I was playing with my kid cousin outside. It was warm, so I was wearing my new bikini, and felt pretty good about myself. She suddenly turns to me and asks, "How come your tits are so small when you have such a big belly?" FML

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I like big butts and I cannot lie

By ThiccBoi - 02/05/2022 16:00 - United States - Staten Island

Today, I was yet again cat-called while out jogging, with many men calling me "sexy lady" and even commenting on my "birthing hips", all because I chose to wear compression pants. I'm not even a woman, I'm just a guy with a really big butt. FML

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You deserved it 253

Internalized misogyny

By eyeroll - 08/05/2022 07:00 - United States

Today, I had a fight with my husband after I went off on his aunt. We were at her house for a BBQ, she saw me in my casual shorts and tank top, and said to him, “You let her walk out the house like that? She’s a walking rape invitation!” He says she can say whatever she wants since she’s old. FML

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You deserved it 177

By Anonymous - 18/05/2012 19:19 - United States - Paterson

Today, I went to the water park with my boyfriend. A swimsuit was required to go on the rides. My bikini straps somehow got torn off and I had nothing else with me. My boyfriend said, "Hell, just wear my spare shorts. You could pass as a guy with your chest". FML

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Take the compliment

By Anonymous - 12/08/2020 17:01

Today, I was working in the yard and took off my shirt. My neighbor yelled, "Nice tits!" I'm a dude. FML

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You deserved it 437

Weird family

By Anonymous - 31/08/2022 04:00

Today, my cousin tried to hit on me. I told him that was inappropriate and pushed him off me. He was offended when I went to tell my folks. All they said was, “That’s fine. You should’ve let him.” Um, what? FML

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You deserved it 102

By Stella Grubner - 16/03/2010 06:42

Today, I chose a cute tank top and some shorts to wear. Later, I was shopping at Target with my dad when he pointed to a girl in the same isle and said to me, "Don't ever dress like that. It looks cute on her, but you couldn't pull it off." She was wearing shorts and a tank top. FML

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By mbesameh - 11/06/2011 06:27 - United States

Today, I found out that my dad makes me wear dresses and skirts not because I look pretty in them, but because he was sick and tired of people asking him if I was a boy or a girl. FML

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xxlk4xx 6

Wednesday 13 January 2021 17:48

your cousin is gross! wear what ever tf you want and tell him/her to stop being gross

Ambrily 27

Wednesday 13 January 2021 19:50

I don't get it: did people tap YDI because OP let's other people talk her out of wearing stuff she likes or why?

Comments

xxlk4xx 6

Wednesday 13 January 2021 17:48

your cousin is gross! wear what ever tf you want and tell him/her to stop being gross

Ambrily 27

Wednesday 13 January 2021 19:50

I don't get it: did people tap YDI because OP let's other people talk her out of wearing stuff she likes or why?

Miss_Whipped 43

Friday 15 January 2021 19:05

Probably.

RichardPencil 30

Wednesday 13 January 2021 20:16

I'm guessing his tone of voice made it misogynistic. Had he said it in a joking manner, I don't get what was so bad.

Mariah Malcolm 6

Wednesday 13 January 2021 20:28

because no one has any right to comment on some one else's appearance unless asked? and as family thats creepy as ****. 🤮

RichardPencil 30

Wednesday 13 January 2021 21:05

Are you ******* kidding? Are you in a family? Families comment all the time about each other's appearance from hair style, fashion choices, weight loss/gain, etc. This particular situation of a male relative lewdly commenting about a female one may be creepy, but in general, family comments that way 👏all 👏the👏 time!

core01 30

Thursday 14 January 2021 4:42

Only my pedo uncle... but not since he went to jail.

bobsanction 18

Thursday 14 January 2021 8:56

Misogyny is the least of your problems on this one bud.

Pretheesh Presannan 2

Thursday 14 January 2021 17:50

Maybe the context is in an external situation; going out. It is toxic fear, not masculinity. He is probably scared of some embarrassment he might have to face when you are going out with him in shorts. :) (?)

ny_ny 12

Thursday 14 January 2021 23:31

1. If you're cousin said this in a joking manner then there is nothing wrong here and he wasn't being misogynistic. 2. Misogony can't make you not wear shorts unless you are afraid of being sexually assaulted or harassed and if you are then you should consult someone of authority. 3. I still don't understand how someone else being misogynistic can make you not wear shorts. What they think has nothing to do with you. 4. Get over it and wear whatever you want.