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  Dracoboxer357  |  35

Even harder to get would be "Restraining orders just show me how much you care!" ;p Never underestimate the power of denial, it seems to be something the creepy have deeply tapped into....

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  Voij  |  16

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  R3TROxLOV3  |  32

#29, Uh no, I've had a guy ask me out, and when I firmly told him that I had no interest a because I already had a boyfriend (who I'd been dating for a year and a half at that point), what he did instead was pester me for the next 2 months by following me around amd waiting outside of my classes because he thought that if he could just talk to me, I'd see that we could be good together. I went to the school administration multiple times, and it only stopped because he was taken out of my school. One of my friends also had a similar problem with a guy. She CLEARLY told him in no uncertain terms that she would never go out with him, but instead of listening to her, he'd tell anyone who would listen that "they're secretely together but she just doesn't want anyone to know yet." He somehow got a hold of her number and texted her until she changed it, and even 2 years later he's STILL convinced that she's just kidding and that she wants to be with him even though she moved to the other side of the freaking country for college just to get away from him. Some guys just don't understand the word no. It doesn't matter how many times you say it, they just think it's a joke. What happens instead is that it turns into a nightmare for the one being pursued because you realize that the person following you around is probably not mentally stable, and you start feeling like you have to look over your shoulder constantly. It's not a pleasant experience.

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  hcollins1  |  18

I had a customer that would come in and completely creep me out, no matter where I was, by the way he would stare at me, it felt like he was looking into my soul. Even all my managers were creeped out for me and had said that he looked like a stalker, rapist and so on and it got to the point to where I was on register and he walked in or came through drive thru, I had a manager take his order for me while I hid in a corner. After awhile he luckily got the point and I haven't seen him in a long time. There are always going to be that one creepy guy.

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  negb  |  30

Man, this could have been from my workplace. I work at a coffee shop and there's this old man who comes in and flirts with all the girls and just stares at us. He's also been caught..."touching himself". Creepiest thing ever. I do suggest telling him you're not interested and maybe even getting a coworker to deal with him if he doesn't creep on them too. Heck, get your male friend to come visit you at work and act like a couple!

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  ravenevercross  |  19

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  Voij  |  16

33, I'm not sure whether you stopped reading my comment half-way through or simply ignored the last parts of it, but both of the cases you described were covered by me. Your first example, the one with the boyfriend, falls in the "excuses"-category, because you added a temporary reason to the "No". [Namely, your boyfriend. The boyfriend statement is not a "no" to these people.] Your second example falls into the "nothing helps" category, which I described aswell. Y'know, that "for some people even saying NO outright doesn't help" part that ended my previous comment. 36, I have honestly no idea how you drew that conclusion. Did you maybe not understand the post I made or something? Or are you also among the group of people who say that someone who suggests ways to reduce the chance of being raped is either advocating rape or is an aspiring rapist? Y'know, the people who don't realise that while the rapist is always at fault, women generally still have ways to reduce their chances of becoming a victim. [Although it's admittedly impossible to reduce this chance to zero.]

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  spekledworf  |  17

#45 I'm not insinuating that someone took a drink from someone else. In general if a woman was drinking when she is raped people will blame her. And is it really a woman's fault for taking a drink from someone? Maybe we should shame someone for drugging a drink in the first place?

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  R3TROxLOV3  |  32

I didn't add a temprorary reason with him. I told him no, im not interested and when he asked why I told him that I wasn't attracted to him, and that I already had a boyfriend whom I love and had been with for quite a while by that point. Even if id just gone "sorry Im already dating someone!" that doesnt excuse the fact that he stalked me for two months. It doesn't MATTER if a girl gives a guy an excuse or vice versa, the person should take that as a no and move on, and you're an idiot if you cant see that. There is no way that you can justify any type of harassment without sounding like an idiot, so please stop trying.

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  R3TROxLOV3  |  32

Also, I read your comment all the way through. But it doesn't make what you said any less idiotic. What you're basically doing is victim blaming. Do you remember the phrase "no means no?" It applies in this case too. If a girl or guy says no, take it as no and move the fuck on. I've flatout said no to guys before who wouldn't just accept no, so I either had to tell them why I dont want to date them, or flat out lie to them in order to get them to back off.

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  Voij  |  16

You seem to mistake me stating explanations for why these things happen, with me condoning these things happening. I'm not saying that there are excuses for stalking, even I know fully well that it's a wrong thing to do. What I am saying, however, is that there are ways to understand how stalking works, which is knowledge that can be used in order to prevent it from happening as much as possible. On another note, your statement of "no means no" is correct and works perfectly well in an ideal world. Sad news is: Our world is nowhere close to that. No matter how much you yell that from every house, there will still be people who simply choose to ignore it. Even if they're taught that it's wrong to do so, they'll just continue anyways. What I'm suggesting here is not to simply continue yelling it, as you seem to do, but instead to also try and protect yourself against these people with other methods. I personally know that it is impossible to eradicate harrassment, stalking, rape and the like, so instead of just saying that people who commit these crimes are bad, why not also teach others methods to reduce the chance of becoming a victim to them?

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  niallo  |  23

Try telling your boss. He might not be able to do much, but if the customer lies to get you into trouble after being rebuffed, at least you will have gotten your boot in first.

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  jw90  |  18

I doubt that would do a whole lot. Most people like that don't comprehend that someone isn't into them. They become obsessed and do irrational things. Sometimes going to far. Your best bet would be to call the police and file for a restraining order.

By  Grauncho  |  25

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  MrSassypants  |  31

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By  Dracoboxer357  |  35

Two opinions: Tell him you're looking for that special girl to complete you, Or, tell him you find him creepy and you lied to not hurt his feelings the first time. Now however, I want you to take a flying fuck at a rolling donut. If neither of those work, tell him you have half the STI's in the book. See where that takes you. ;p

By  ocramavaf  |  15

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