131
FML - The follow-up

Today, my mother yelled at me, telling me I'm irresponsible and lecturing me on how I need to "plan ahead like an adult." All because I asked to borrow a tampon. FML

ducksgurl Say more :
For all of you wondering about the "borrowing" part, no I was not planning on actually giving it back. But asking to borrow something seems much more polite than demanding someone to give you something. On another note, I think this was just my mother's breaking point. We do have a very strained relationship and had actually been arguing all morning. I just thought it was funny that this was the thing she chose to snap on me for. Much love, thanks guys!
By ducksgurl / Tuesday 12 May 2015 16:17 / Canada
Add a comment
You must be logged in to be able to post comments!
Create my account Sign in
Top comments
By  cutycat136  |  28

Next month, hide all of her products a few hours or days before and see if she asks the same of you. If she does, repeat the same thing she said to you, she'll get it, and won't say anything like that again. Good luck op.

By  mazbry  |  9

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Comments
By  cutycat136  |  28

Next month, hide all of her products a few hours or days before and see if she asks the same of you. If she does, repeat the same thing she said to you, she'll get it, and won't say anything like that again. Good luck op.

Reply
  Cads1  |  24

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Reply
  doemetoch  |  28

Don't want to be a dick about this, but especially if you have irregular periods it seems important to me to make sure you have tampons (or pads or a mooncup or whatever) with you at all time. That being said, yelling about someone asking a tampon is quite ridiculous.

By  mazbry  |  9

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Reply

Contrary to popular belief, menstruation does not make women irrational. It just lowers our threshold of how much annoyance we'll take before speaking up about it because we're tired and in pain. When men are tired and in pain they also get a bit grumpy, but no one calls them "irrational" because double standards. Men just love to declare any expression of female discontentment "irrational." Some women (3-8%) do suffer from Premenstrual dysphoric disorder that causes mood swings, but the mood swings happen before menstruation, not during. In short, if the OP's mother is acting irrational, it's probably her own individual thing and has nothing to do with universal female experiences. Don't use menstruation as an excuse to gaslight people.

Reply
  praesidiem  |  16

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Reply
  JustinJK  |  21

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Reply
  Atalia  |  17

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Reply
  LunaRebirth  |  7

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Reply
  Brandi_Faith  |  31

21, fact or not, the period symptoms are causing the woman to have a shorter fuse, be irritable, grumpy (etc.) so it's normal to blame the situation (the period) as the cause of the grumpiness. The fact is, a lot of women get grumpy and more irritable during their period (whatever the cause may be). And if every male had a cold every month which caused them to be irritable and grumpy, then we would say "wow he must have his cold" if he snaps or acts extra grumpy. We'd probably even say "someone needs a tissue." It's not a double standard, it just so happens that men don't have a monthly cold (or some other type of period equivalent) that makes them extra irritable, grumpy and short fused. Let's not make this into a double standard or sexist thing when it's not.

Reply
  bonermonkey  |  31

Ok, so what about when that's the standard explanation for any woman being upset, regardless of whether or not she is on her period? It invalidates her feelings by making out like they're less real/important for reasons that most the time aren't even true.

Reply
  empav  |  9

The same way you would do when you borrow money, you repay it or in this case replace it. Because if I am correct when you "borrow" money you aren't returning the exact same bill you took in the first place.

Reply
  siggy_mcsigx  |  16

I think it's a thing people do to come across as more polite. "Can I have a thing of yours" can come across as too direct. The proper polite way to say it is "Could I please have a thing of yours" but "Borrow" makes the taking seem less permanent. Besides, if one is used to hearing "borrow" said for every request, as it is super common, eventually it becomes a habit regardless of how long one is keeping the thing.

By  ptellini  |  7

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

By  a1_z9  |  10

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Loading data…