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By inlovewithstupid - / Sunday 4 September 2011 16:40 / United States
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By  divadro102  |  16

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  margie2194  |  12

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  seanders  |  10

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  shannonreneee  |  11

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  my_usagi  |  0

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  margie2194  |  12

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  a_nutritionist  |  10

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But really if his girlfriend should be okay with him being around naked women, then obviously he should be okay with her being naked around men. I mean, it's not like they're doing anything 'wrong' in both scenarios, right?

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  StoryOfTheYear  |  13

153- You're disregarding the atmosphere Why the heck are you going to a strip club to chill with some of your friends when a pool or sports bar would be just as suffice? People get the wrong idea no matter what you say you did in a strip club, and it is best just to play it safe.

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  fallapart  |  5

142- you have such an interesting mind thinking if he comes home to you, that's all it matters. When you have a boyfriend going to a strip bar, telling you how wonderful it was you tell me how you feel. I mean, he's coming back home to you right? No biggie.

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  DjeePee  |  24

'But really if his girlfriend should be okay with him being around naked women, then obviously he should be okay with her being naked around men. ' Nope. If his girlfriend should be okay with him being around naked women, then obviously he should be okay with her being around naked men. And in my experiences, men don't like it if their girlfriend sees other cocks. OP, FYL. As you can read in this FML, there are plenty of people who don't have a problem with their partner going to a stripclub, but if you're not one if them, then your partner should respect that. I think you should reconsider this relationship because it's obvious for me that he does whatever he wants, without thinking of your feelings.

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  StoryOfTheYear  |  13

190- How does your response answer what I said at all? I'll repeat it. Why go to a strip club when you could have a far better atmosphere chilling at a pool or a sports bar.

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  amayasoma  |  19

This really depends on the type of woman you are and the type of man he is. If he is a very untrustworthy guy and has a history of cheating and treating the woman wrong, than yeah, I can see this as a problem. However, if he has never done the female wrong and he's friends suddenly decide they want to go, why not let him? I know if my boyfriend told me he wanted to go with like his friend he hadn't seen in forever, I wouldn't care. I trust him to not do anything but stare. I know he wouldn't even dare get a lap dance from another woman. If the woman is that uncomfortable with it, she can either tell him to take her with him or he not go at all. You'll have those few men, who go there to just socialize and then you have those few who are pigs. This is when you have to know your man.

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  margie2194  |  12

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  a_nutritionist  |  10

@193 because not everyone is happy to live a life of monotony and like to vary things up sometimes. besides, if my friends are going, why should i not go just because someone is paranoid about what im gonna do there? for instance if it were a bachelors party why should i decline simply because my partner doesnt trust me? i dont believe in unconditional trust, but this is just stupid. its a strip club, not a brothel.

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  a_nutritionist  |  10

@192 your experiences count for nothing. my ex has seen a male stripper before and my care factor then was nil. therefore, you cant assume he would give a damn about what she sees either, making the entire point moot.

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  StoryOfTheYear  |  13

224- Ok, I see your opinion and view. I just see it as an unnecessary place to go in the first place. Yes, I'm 17 and have never even seen the outside of one, but its not like I don't know what people do inside of them. It's just not somewhere I'd trust myself going.

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  arianylas  |  3

#25: Going to strip clubs while in a relationship without the consent or presence of your significant other is extremely insensitive, selfish, disrespectful, and demeaning. 1) Insensitive - If your girlfriend/boyfriend isn't okay with it, but you go anyway, you're basically telling them you don't care about their feelings. And if you really don't, why are you dating them in the first place? 2) Selfish - Along the same lines as being insensitive, going when the other isn't okay with it is just being selfish. Is it really so important to go, or are you just needlessly self-indulging at the other person's expense? 3) Disrespectful - Not respecting the wishes and personal boundaries of your girlfriend/boyfriend says that you don't consider them important. Which is more important to you: Seeing naked strangers or showing your significant other that they mean more to you than that? 4) Demeaning - Everything else aside, if you're dating someone, why do you even have the want to see other people, especially naked? Is your girlfriend/boyfriend not good enough? Taking that kind of enjoyment from others, which is supposed to be intimate between two people, demeans the one that isn't okay with it. It says "you're not enough to please me and I need to go look at other breasts." Really? How can you NOT see how this is offensive and hurtful to some people? Don't get me wrong, if you both consent to it, there isn't a problem, but OP clearly wasn't okay with this. If you can't "give up" seeing random strangers' breasts, then maybe you don't have any business seriously dating in the first place.

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  nicko_oz  |  4

#80 I have a partner of whom i have been with for nearly 5 years we own a house together and i let him go to the strippers sometimes i even go with him. Don't be such a bloody prude OP its a stripper guys are not allowed to touch them the bouncers will kick them out if you are so threatened by it go along just so you can see that he will always go home for you at the end. A few strippers i have met here and actually talked to are studying at uni and getting degrees they aren't all sluts girls so stop being threatened by them.

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  TheOptimist  |  0

Dear margie2194, Please stop talking. "…In the end he is still coming back to her". Example time! We are dating. We go out to eat. After we go in back alley, and I kick the shit out of you. I make you walk home, while I hook up with a Latino, a Black girl, and white girl. 3 hours later I arrive home, plastered with sweat and exhausted cause three women had there brains fucked from them. We lay in bed while snuggling and watching a romantic comedy. Sense a problem with your smarts? I do. Now sit down

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  erikaa916  |  0

#256, I agree 100% with your comment. I don't agree with my bf going to strip clubs. why pay to see a random stranger that he can't touch strip, when he can get it free from me? I'm against it, and I've made that very clear. if he decides to go anyway, it would show me that he has no regards for my feelings at all.

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  a_nutritionist  |  10

@290 yeah, who wouldnt want to eat the same meal every single day for the rest of their lives. who would want to spice up their sex life by trying new things. variety is definitely not the spice of life, repetition and familiarity is what life is about. its interesting that on this issue its the guy who doesnt care about the girlfriends feelings, when clearly he has feelings on the issue that are being not only ignored but suppressed.

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  Vomonte  |  1

I agree. I don't like when my husband goes to a strip club. Yes, I am insecure about how I look. I also cant help but think of the potential diseases he may pick up. (Germaphobe? Maybe) The worst thing is my fear that he will be thinking of some chick that he saw at the club while having sex with me. My solution is if he wants to go, fine, but I wont be happy, and he isn't getting sex for a week.

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  mkcherry  |  13

The difference is anonymity, OPs boyfriend cannot contact the stripper afterwards and start something up and the fact that clubs have rules concerning touching the dancers. There are no bouncers and Sarah's apartment to stop OPs boyfriend from going to far. Strippers are professionals they aren't there to steal your damn boyfriend, they are there for the money. Its the same difference between OP getting a bikini wax from a male salonist and getting a bikini wax from her friend Bob, salonist is a professional who let things get to far, Bob is a personal friend. HUGE difference between watching naked people and getting naked for people so that analogy doesnt even make sense. Most guys arent going to freak out over their significant other watching porn but they dont want her to participate.

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#340 Finally a comment with some sense that isnt 10 feet deep drenched under insecurities. I dont know what happened to most of you or what movies you've been watching to believe that strippers are all slutbag boyfriend stealers and/or boyfriends that go are automatically unfaithful insensitive guys who think their gf isnt good enough to satisfy them. Its a professional establishment for entertainment. Not a free for all orgy. If you bf falls in love with a stripper just because she is half naked then guess what. You couldnt have went to a beach either. A pool party is out of the question. Shit a broadway show might even be pushing it. If love for the gf wasnt enough to keep him from wanting to cheat then you were doomed anyway. Temptation will be everywhere in some form or another so dont blame a strip club when the problem is something entirely different.

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  coolbeans26  |  12

Wow I am truly baffled by the amount of insecure people on this site. It's a bar who cares? Granted, if she is uncomfortable with him going there he should take that into consideration but it's a freakin bar. If a man tells a woman he doesn't want her going to certain places with her friends he is considered controlling but if a woman does it to a man she is "aware of her expectations"? Bullshit. Grow up

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It's cool you assume that op and her bf are basically horny high-schoolers who only do oral...there's always the serious possibility that op simply doesn't want her boyfriend hawking at naked women instead of her? Bu you know, whatever you fantasy you want to insert yourself into

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  WCARlover  |  34

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  some_shit  |  0

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  22cute  |  17

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  sxe_beast  |  11

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  a_nutritionist  |  10

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  sxe_beast  |  11

I don't think strippers are disgusting and IDK how they're disrespecting their bodies? They're no different than underwear models (man or woman), actors/actresses who take their clothes off in movies, bodybuilding, etc. I think that this overly prude mentality is what's sickening. Human beings as a whole are beautiful creatures and our bodies should be free... not covered up. One of my close friend's mother was a stripper. She supported her two kids, went through college, and became an anesthesiologist. She remarried a teacher and together they started a business. My friend and her sister attend the school I go to (a nice private school). She probably wouldn't have had the same opportunities had she worked as a cleaning lady or baby sitter. She's a very nice, intelligent, and confident woman who had a bad upbringing. And lastly you CANNOT compare stripping to theft or mooching off the government. IDK how a stripper is stealing anything? They also make a lot of money and give a lot more back to the government than a dish washer and any of the other "more self respecting" low paying jobs you listed. Strippers make A LOT of money and if you've got what it takes to be one...then why not?

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  leadman1989  |  15

Usually the people so judgmental and "sickened" by "immorality" are the ones doing the sickest shit. This is ABSOLUTELY SOME RELIGIOUS BUSHIT! And frankly the church is far more of a disgusting cesspool than any strip club with their false hope and taking people's money to line their pockets and nothing to show for it.

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  BasketCase2492  |  10

i agree that if you dont trust the guy, you shouldnt be with him, but some people are just uncomfortable with it. its not their fault. hell, if my bf wants to go so bad, i'll go too, but i'm not comfortable with him going with his friends. that doesnt mean i dont want him to have fun. just not with half naked women.

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  Blissfull_Sin  |  7

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  Troy_K  |  7

149 - Both comments I've seen from you in this FML have been directed at something in either of the people's profiles. First off, that's pretty creepy and extremely unintelligent of you to do. Second, you're a stoner Canadian skater. Therefore, any opinion you could ever have has no meaning. You know what I'm talking aboot?

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I do agree with your comment, but you must realize that not everyone feels the same. Some woman just don't like the thought of their man going to watch woman shake their ass. If OP happens to be one of those woman, and her boyfriend insists on going and won't hear her out or compromise to help her feel more comfortable, then they should probably talk about their relationship seriously, because this in-agreement could cause future issues for them.

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  BoCo_fml  |  9

I agree totally. I know that my man isn't going to leave me for some stripper, so I don't fret about it. Plus he is rearing to go when he gets home. The moral of my story is, there are benefits for the girl too...great sex!

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  erikaa916  |  0

#241, so you have no problem knowing that the only reason your man wants to have sex is because he got horny off of watching strangers get naked? most likely he's picturing the stripper he just watched while he's having sex with you. if he has to go to a strip club in order for you two to have great sex then you're obviously not doing your job in getting him aroused.

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I agree with the core of the statement: that men should be allowed to go to strip clubs with their friends. But, I don't think that men in relationships should have physical contact with the strippers, and I also don't think the assumption should be made that he's "hard working", or even working at all. Nowhere does it say that.

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By  Idontbelievethis  |  1

Fine line there. If he's just shaking loose with the boys and still loves and respects you, that's one thing. If he's escaping into it and away from you, thats another. Either way, be with him or don't, you ain't married to the man, you can't tell him what to do. YOU do what you want, let him decide whether or not he wants to live up to your standards. We dont have nagging rights, hon, we have leaving rights.

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