Well, ****, I love my ex and all, but I'm not gonna show up to her house and shit out of the blue. Let the dude stay in jail and think about his stupidity.

I would demand the bail money back and if he refused I would take him to small claims court.

yep, that is how the government earn their money.

Stop enabling your brother to violate his restraining orders. The ex did this to be safe. Leave your brother in jail and stop getting him out. You're endangering this ex. They don't give out restraining orders unless there is an issue with safety for the person requesting it.

Your brother needs psychiatric assistance OP, this is a proper obsession. All these "jail will teach him a lesson" is way too simplistic at this stage. It is likely to exacerbate his fixation. Make sure he gets the care of a psychiatrist or at least a psychologist, healing from the fixation is the safest solution for both the ex gf and for your brother.

OP sorry your brother tossed your help away. what a f*ckhead. An just so y'all know it is really hard to get a restraining order. i have one agents my ex, now that took him kicking my ass everday in the 4 yr relationship and 1time after during a child exchange, then telling both of are familys that he will kill me if he had too....i didn't do shit but put my self between him and our medically ill son.

Oh, your brother's totally legit, OP. I assume your FML is for the realization of how much of a dumbass your brother is, and not just because he got carted off immediately after you bailed him out.

I hope you didn't bet the rent on his bail. You're NOT getting that back.

Leave him there this time. Your brother needs to learn the hard way.

Well, ****