Yeah. Most guys think for some reason that they're obligated to earn money because they're the men. I hope that OP doesn't take it personally. He's probably just upset and feels pretty bad about himself:( Hope you guys find a solution!:)

Trust me, I don't feel obligated.

14: When you grow up in a society which dictates that you have to be the sole provider of your family otherwise you're a failure, you take it pretty harshly. It's hard to break free of societal norms.

Yea, I was about to say that MOST men feel the need to provide for their family, as it is as it is implied by social protocol. Op's boyfriend probably feels like less of a man now that he can't provide for his family and might be ridiculed by peers, especially if OP has a job while he doesn't.

I should hope that most people feel obligated to earn money, rather than leaching off those who do.

Not when your partner feels low and like they're hitting rock bottom, during the time they need you the most.

mm i dont think so. my fiance lost his job in january and has been searching non stop with no leads. im the only one working while he does house work etc. he gets down alot and crabby and let it roll off me bc i know its tough for him bc hes used to working. i could not imagine leaving someone for something out of their control.

13: I'm pretty sure that OP's boyfriend feels this way because he wants to provide at least a place to live for OP, not wanting to let her down. I don't think he meant anything negative towards OP. That's how I see it, anyway.

I know, I posted another comment (#8) in the forum saying the same thing

@3-if you leave someone you love just because times are tough thats low of you

That's my bad, I read it wrong. I thought it was the OP who lost her job and the boyfriend was not being supportive.... Sorry everyone

I would think that's a given

Maybe he meant he'd rather be dead than be without her? No?

I'm sure he meant he'd rather be dead then homeless.

Dead and then homeless, hmm?

It's a guys need to be a provider. Telling him that you'll be with him in a card board box would make him feel like he is not doing his job as the provider because he has his girl living in a box. I know it's hypothetical but he just lost his job so that comment wouldn't make him feel better. If she wanted to comfort him, she needs to show him support and reassurance that he'll get another job.

That response is almost as bad as his response. They don't need to drag each other down.