It happens when reasonable people are involved. You don't see that much online.

This is chauvinism

While its an extremely rude thing to say, and if this wasn't out of character for him she should rethink before she marries him, ending a 9 year relationship over being called fat doesn't sound very realistic. Sounds like you're exaggerating a bit.

I would have called off the wedding right then and there. How dare he call his BRIDE TO BE fat and tell her she doesn't look good? Wtf kind of hormones got into him that he got into such a hissy fit over that in such a way.

Weddings are stressful for everyone. That's no excuse for bitchy behavior. How could calling her fat and telling her she doesn't look good be something he didn't "realize" would make her feel bad? You would have to be a moron to not realize that that would make any woman feel bad about herself. He realized it, he was just being a dick. I say she has a serious talk with him and if anything, call off the wedding. No one deserves to marry an inconsiderate jerk.

I understand that he might have been stressed out and irritated, but even under stress there are some things that are still obviously offensive, and some things that are not so obvious. I think this one was obvious. They need a talk.

Just because you've known someone for a long time and have been with them for years doesn't mean that they're the right person for you or that your have to out up with their cruelty. You show the person that you love honor and respect no matter what. Period.

Dump him NOW

Not too late to change your mind. That shit will just get worse

There is NO excuse for that. No matter how much stress he may have been under. I hope you called him out on that one, if not more. Hopefully your friend wasn't too fragile. What a prick!