Coming out

By Anonymous - 22/06/2023 22:00

Spicy
Today, I found out that my boyfriend has been cheating on me with men, and gets turned on by the sound of men moaning and having sex. I've been his girlfriend for 7 years. I've just been his cover up this whole time. FML
I agree, your life sucks 1 408
You deserved it 165

Same thing different taste

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OP, you should realize that some people are bisexual. You weren’t necessarily just boyfriend’s cover. You should have figured out in all this time how he actually felt about you… OP I understand that you feel betrayed and I am not so sure you’d feel any better if you found out he had been seeing other women instead of other men. When the relationship is supposed to be exclusive and you discover your partner was having sex with other people you have obviously been betrayed. … To clarify - OP, as I see it the main problem isn’t boyfriend’s sexual orientation. It is his multiple infidelities and assuming it was supposed to be a monogamous relationship that’s the breaking point. There sometimes comes a time when you have to figure out if what you have is working or not and if it’s not and it’s not fixable, you cut your losses and move on. I am sorry.

I think Chazzter is saying infidelity = infidelity, no matter if it's hetero or ****.

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OP, you should realize that some people are bisexual. You weren’t necessarily just boyfriend’s cover. You should have figured out in all this time how he actually felt about you… OP I understand that you feel betrayed and I am not so sure you’d feel any better if you found out he had been seeing other women instead of other men. When the relationship is supposed to be exclusive and you discover your partner was having sex with other people you have obviously been betrayed. … To clarify - OP, as I see it the main problem isn’t boyfriend’s sexual orientation. It is his multiple infidelities and assuming it was supposed to be a monogamous relationship that’s the breaking point. There sometimes comes a time when you have to figure out if what you have is working or not and if it’s not and it’s not fixable, you cut your losses and move on. I am sorry.

I think Chazzter is saying infidelity = infidelity, no matter if it's hetero or ****.

I know what he's saying. He starts off with a "AcTuaLLy, you don't know his sexuality!", then he goed into victim blaming territory, because she should have magically known he wasn't into her and then he finishes off with "his sexuality shouldn't matter". I think this commenter should be up to the vote, because I think he's a HUGE asshole.

He clearly likes you enough to have a relationship with you, so while he's sexually aroused by men, he also loves you. Just sit down and have a chat with him. Relationships and sexuality are weird, and if you both like each other enough to start something up, you can probably figure out where to go from here.

The time for a sit down conversation would have been BEFORE the cheating.

tiptoppc 19

I’m married to my wife, but honestly, sometimes, I’d really love to suck a dick. I don’t, but people aren’t 100% straight and are a bit fluid even after monogamous marriages. It can change over time too.