Today, while opening up to a few friends about how I was sexually abused as a child, one of them blurted "Pics or it didn't happen." How did the others react? With outrage? No, just with awkward chuckling. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, a guy made fun of sexual assault victims, and laughed when he heard they’re getting money and support. He also said I look like his next victim. I hit him, unapologetically. My friends told me to apologise, and that he’s really a great guy. No longer my friends. Talk shit, get hit. FML
Today, I told my friends I was kissed by a girl. They said "Yeah, probably by your mom." The sad thing is, they were right. FML
Today, I laughed at a joke in a group chat. No one else reacted. After five minutes, I realized I’d replied to a message from last week. I had to also pretend I hadn't noticed and sat in silence. FML
Today, I was in a support group talking about how my sister and I were raised in a cult. Never one to be outdone, the loud mouth of the group piped up and scoffed, “Oh please! If it didn’t make the news and no one died, then it wasn’t a cult!” Sorry I wasn’t murdered. It was still abusive as fuck. FML
Today, I decided to open up to my friends about losing my dad last year. To my horror, all they could do was laugh at and mock me, all because I said that he "unalived" himself. FML
Today, I was peppered with questions about my swollen eye and if I'd gotten into a fight. I couldn't bring myself to admit that I'd been brutally beaten into submission by a doorknob. FML
Today, at a mind-numbingly boring support session, everyone was talking about their hardships. One guy was talking about losing his leg in a car accident. I was half-asleep and asked without thinking, "Did you ever find it?" I almost shat my pants at the roomful of death glares that followed. FML
Today, after weeks of therapy for severe depression, my therapist thought it would be helpful to confess my deepest problems to my friends, to prove that it was alright to trust people. I did. They laughed. Hard. FML
Today, I was telling my friends a story. I added a few "embellishments" to make it more intense. One my friends piped up with, "I was with you, half of what you just said wasn't true". It's now all over Facebook and I'm known as "The Bullshitter". FML
Today, someone was making jokes and everyone started laughing, so I laughed. He then proceeded to look me dead in the eye and go, "What are you laughing at?" I started stuttering and mumbled back quietly, "I don't know, what are you laughing at?" He goes, "I'm not laughing" and then they all stared at me weird. FML
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RumpPlug 4
**** those friends, leave them.
Guy1009 15
Time for new friends.
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FarmerGirl420 11
immature friends. you don't need them
Magnoxidans 19
Sometimes people don't know how to react to such serious news, so they poke fun of situations. Sorry to hear OP
GamerG0DDESS 29
I agree with this. I was a victim of sexual abuse. And from what I've learned, people won't take the news well at all. I've been called harsh things, shunned for being a "liar," most would be silent and then not talk to me, others will poke fun at the situation. I found that poking fun at what happened to me made people feel more comfortable and less likely to just throw what I said away. Instead they asked questions, and tried to comfort me. Hearing something as horrible as sexual abuse causes people to lock up, and no one likes feeling like that, so they look for ways of escape. By poking fun at the situation, you allow them the space they need while also not pushing them away. What your friends did was harsh but it is a normal reaction. Give them time. I know I was extremely hurt at first, too. I never expected people to be so cruel, but I soon learned that it's not necessarily their fault for not knowing how to handle such information.
GhostFox 34
I really hope they were just "awkwardly chuckling" because they couldn't believe that person said that. I also don't think that there are many people who would have held it against you if you'd punched them in the face. There's also something inherently disturbing about someone asking an abuse victim for pictures, especially when the asked is an adult asking a sexual abuse victim for pictures of of them when they were a child being abused. That sounds like more than a bad attempt at humor, to me. That said, if these people don't believe you when you tell them something so important, you should really consider limiting or even eliminating your contact with them. You don't deserve the lack of concern or callousness they directed toward you, especially not when it's about a matter that you already didn't deserve. Good luck, do the best you can, and I hope that your path to healing goes smoothly.
tygerarmy 35
100% agree with everything you said. Depending on all of their age they might not know how to handle being told that. People were always awkward when they found out that my parents had died when I was a kid, people still are now. OP hopefully they do care and just don't know what to do. And I'm sorry for whatever you went through.
phantomxbg 17
That's horrible, your call on this one
dharmaint 15
What. The. ****.
smallandroid 26
Definitely would have got up and walked away from those "friends" forever.
NostalgiaFreak9 43
Those "friends" sound like dicks.
lilycups 11
I'm sorry but if you wanted something more close perhaps you should have told them one by one as it's more personal than a group. Also contrary to popular belief people laugh out of nervousness so they quite frankly might not have known how else to deal with it.
freddygasman 18
there's a difference between a nervous laugh and a dumb ass comment. Anyone that makes that kind of comment or says you deserve it should spend a week in prison with their wrists shackled to their ankles
saffy66 34
Inappropriate responses don't mean they aren't horrified at what happened to you. People will blurt out things to cover heir own awkwardness, embarrassment or inability to find something suitable to say. Or it can be that they don't want to believe it because it means something too awful to contemplate has happened to someone they care about. Don't take it too much to heart.
Axel5238 29
It's still incredibly insensitive respond that way regardless of intent. How it was perceived is what matters. That old phrase "the road to hell is paved with good intentions".
zaidthunder1 27
That makes sense.
LadyAthena 20
As a someone who was abused as a child, a lot Of people cannot handle the information. And that sometimes leads to "inappropriate" reactions and awkward moments as the OP has described. It doesn't mean his friends are horrible people just that they are uncomfortable. When I speak of my a use I hAve to also take into consideration who I'm speaking to. Not everyone can handle that type of information and so not everyone needs to be told
iam2fat4u 15
Lmaoooo