Today, my entire family is giving me the cold shoulder, including my parents, for not going to my sister's wedding. No one seems to care her new husband bullied me so badly in high school that I still need medication for my anxiety 15 years after graduating. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my sister announced that she had gotten engaged. I was happy for her until I found out she's marrying the guy who relentlessly bullied me all through high school. FML
Today, my whole family turned on me because I absolutely refused to attend my son's wedding, even though he really wanted me to walk him down the aisle. He married the woman he cheated on his ex-wife with, and abandoned their kids. That's why I refused to attend. FML
Today, I received yet another letter from a relative bitching me out for not involving my parents in my wedding. The parents who showed no interest in our relationship and then yelled at my fiancé and me when we announced it to them, calling us stupid, naive, heathens, and mentally ill. FML
Today, I have no friends because I have severe anxiety and severe social anxiety. I thought I had family but as it turns out, my family is trying to get rid of me by sending me away. FML
Today, my family got mad at me for eloping and not inviting them to my wedding. Even though they admitted they wouldn't have gone anyway. FML
Today, at breakfast, my sister labelled me a "feminist." My whole family now refuses to talk to me for more than 30 seconds, and acts as though I have an incurable, highly contagious disease. FML
Today, I missed going to my boyfriend's stepsister's wedding. I would have been meeting my boyfriend's mom for the first time; now she doesn't like me. She figured I could just "tough it out". I have a chronic health condition and haven't been able to eat or get out of bed. FML
Today, it seems my mom didn’t believe me when I told her multiple times I was not going to my nasty bitch sister's wedding. Then she acted surprised and outraged when, shocker, I didn’t go, and has been leaving me texts and voicemails for over an hour. FML
Today, I told my sister I felt like her friends didn't like me, since they were ignoring my questions, opinions, etc., in the bridesmaids' chat, but were all over each other's messages. She kicked me from her bridal party, saying her friends wouldn't want me at the bridal shower and bachelorette party. FML
Today, after a day of anxiety and worry that something bad would happen, I decided to keep my two daughters home from being flower girls at my sister's wedding. Now my sister and entire family is blowing up my phone. Apparently her wedding is my important than a mother worried about her babies. FML
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Top comments
Leeono 26
Go. Show him he doesn’t have control anymore. Or just give a speech. How much you love your sister and how well you know the groom. Then list all the horrible things he did to the whole room.
Loser482 6
Sometimes you have to remove yourself from toxic situations- especially if you’re not getting support from your parents. Maybe time for a move?
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Comments (46)
Charlie Given 28
Sorry for ya OP I understand your pain and a follow-up please are you man or woman was the bulling mental or physical or both and what would your sister marry a bully?🤔
cbchawks 14
I would never miss my sisters wedding.
MikuandKaito 24
If I found out my partner was a former bully to one of my siblings (and they're still suffering 10+ years after the abuse) I would drop them like the garbage they are. Of course, your sister shouldn't /have/ to leave him if she really cares about him, but she should at least have respected your boundaries and your decision not to go. A fair price, if you ask me. Stick to your guns, OP. If you feel uncomfortable around this person, don't force yourself to play nice with this guy--even if your family is pressuring you. It seems they don't understand the severe impact bullying can have on a person. Focus on yourself, and work towards healing.
superlloyd 15
high school was 15 years ago. you are responsible for your own anxiety. grow up.
ataygarp 8
clearly nobody who comments suffers from Anxiety. i do however and know how badly anxiety can change your life. I didn't fully understand the impact anxiety can have on someone until i got it myself. i battle my anxiety every day. telling some with anxiety to man up is only going to make the anxiety worse. you have to do what's best for you. don't surround yourself with negativity it only makes the anxiety worse.
adelaine782002 17
To everyone who commented on this guy to grow up...as a veteran and someone who suffers from PTSD, and heavy anxiety....I pray to God that no one of you ever have to deal with high levels of anxiety...know what, scratch that..I wont waste my breath. I actually hope each and everyone one of does have to deal with anxiety and I hope it's ten times worse, so we can sit back and tell you to grow the hell up!
nekojoy 5
Your love for your sister ought to trump whatever negative experiences you’ve had with her SO.
Daniella Verbrugge 11
What do you say to people who've been sexually harrassed by family members? Really, just curious.
MATTY2512 15
I can conclusively say, if my children are like this gentleman than I will have failed as a parent. Your piece of mind, your strength and your hope for better can only be snatched if you let someone do that. Go to that wedding, support your sister and if this dude is still an awful bully, tell him to **** off. You know what, you might find you’re better off, that you’ve snatched your piece of mind back. I do feel for you and I sympathize. Bullying sucks. Eventually though you have to at least try to let the past be the past and get on with it. Don’t wallow, you’re better than that, you’re stronger than that. Don’t tiptoe around your bully for the rest of your life, it is a choice and it does start with you. Best of luck and you got this!
chessu 21
I get anxious sometimes, but I certainly don't suffer from anxiety, so I obviously can't properly relate. However, I'm taking this with a bit of a grain of salt. Presumably, your sister is a decent human being in which case if the dude really was a proper d*ck she wouldn't be marrying him. Likewise, again, I don't know what that bullying entailed, but again, it was properly some quite low-key stuff that people grow out of. Not saying 'little bullying is fine' or whatever, but it were different times and he was probably a different person so if it was something like him taking your lunch at 15 then maybe it's time to take your meds and deal with the uncomfortable situation. Your sister clearly loves him and it's an important day for her so unless the dude has done something do you recently or what he did was proper hardcore bullying like shoving you in a locker somewhere I, too, would cold shoulder you for not going. What are you going to do in the future? Avoid every family event? You're just harming yourself and relationships even more by doing so in the long rung. He's grown, maybe you should too.
baristalbc 18
Not to sound insensitive (I know what it’s like to be bullied in school), but man-up. Seriously. You can show him you are better than him and rise above it. Or wuss out and prove to him that he was right.