Today, I tried to contact my birth mother, who abandoned me when I was three weeks old. After months of tracing, I finally plucked up the courage to call her. She told me to "f*ck off and die". FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, I found the phone number of my biological mother after years of searching for her, and gave her a call. I introduced myself by name and said, "I'm your daughter." There was a pause at the other end, followed by, "The one I aborted or the one I gave away?" FML
Today, I talked to my birth mother for the first time in over 26 years. Five minutes into our conversation, I remembered why I stayed away. FML
Today, I went to my parents' house after escaping my abusive relationship. My mom scoffed and said, “This is what happens when you move out, barely graduated high school, with a bum.” When I told her I was 3 months pregnant, she said, “And a child out of wedlock? You’re a lost case!” and slammed the door in my face. FML
Today, I called my mom to tell her that I'm coming over for a visit. She answered: 'Why? What do you need? Food? Money? I'm not going to help you! You're a grown woman!' And she hung up. I just found out that I'm pregnant and she was the first person I wanted to share it with. FML
Today, I ran into my aunt I hadn’t seen since I was a child. My mom told me she took off and stopped speaking to everyone. After lunch, I asked her why she left. She said our whole family ostracized her for aborting her abusive husband’s baby and divorcing him instead of "making it work." FML
Today, I summoned the courage to call my abusive mother-in-law about her non-payment of the money I stupidly lent her last year. She replied, "Why don't you go deepthroat a cactus, then we'll talk about it, cunt." and then hung up on me. FML
Today, I finally located all seven of my younger siblings, who I abandoned to foster care when I was 15, after our parents were deported back to Mexico. Each and every one of them told me to fuck off. FML
Today, my mom was screaming at me and said, "I wish I'd never adopted you." I guess I'm adopted then. FML
Today, I located my birth dad and asked him why I was put into care. Turns out my mom died, and since he hadn’t wanted me in the first place, he just gave me away and hoped to never see me again. He didn’t even invite me in, he threw a beer at me and threatened to call the cops unless I left. FML
Today, I tracked down my long-lost daughter after losing her to foster care 26 years ago when I was on drugs. I knocked on her door and introduced myself, going in for a hug. She maced me and physically kicked me back into the hall, threatening a restraining order if I ever spoke to her again, and slammed the door. FML
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DahkLohd 4
Well, consider yourself lucky that she didn't raise you.
Acousticpixie14 6
You said she abandoned you? If she abandoned you, not just gave you up, but ABANDONED you, then why did you even want to find her? I guess I can understand the morbid curiosity and wanting to meet your biological mother, but are you really surprised at her response if she ABANDONED you? That really really sucks for you, and I'm sorry, but you kinda walked right into that one.
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Comments (169)
Terezi 0
Is it just me, or have I seen this FML before?
brootalxkeni 0
well, if she abandoned you, why would you go out looking for her? you have the mother that raised you, that should be more that enough
Flounder 2
To everyone who is or will be blaming the OP, shut the **** up because you have no clue what you're talking about. It is 100% natural to want to know where you come from, and if you're denying it you're a retard because what do you think religion is? An explanation of human origins. Anyone who's ever been abandoned by a parent wants to know about that part of their family, whether for questions about genetic health, heritage, or for questions they might have about themselves ("Everyone in my family loves The Beatles but me...does my real dad hate them too?") FML is full of judgmental morons who feel completely free to preach from the safety of their computers in their tiny, narrow little worlds, when what they really need to do is remember that they shit just like the rest of us.
Angio113 10
Thank you for this! I agree completely. :)
monnanon 14
Im sorry but i disagree, my father left before i was born and i've nver had any interest in finding him and when he did try to contact me i refused to see or speak to him. Why should they get a second chance? The only thing that man ever gave me is a genetic heart defect. A few of the relatives on that side have kept in touch so i suppose that cancels out the needing to know who i am thing. I do not need him to answer those questions. I am anticipating the "you might when you are older or have children" replies but I am already 24 with a 6 month baby and still no desire to contact him.
ohcanaduh 0
finally a smart person on FML
RedPillSucks 33
@64 That's OK for you, there's nothing wrong with how you feel about this. However, other people are curious about where they came from. I have an adopted son and I fully expect that at some point he'll go looking for his birth parents. I wont fault him for this.
SisyphereanTask 2
#47: I'm adopted. I think the OP is wrong to have tried to find her. Obviously she didn't want to be found.
Jewelofagal 2
Sisy -- And, yet......for every one birth parent who doesn't want to be contacted by the child they gave up for adoption, there are ten others who ache to know their child and desperately want to be contacted. The OP wasn't going to know for certain without taking action, although he/she should have used an intermediary to make the first contact.
Flounder 2
@64 There's a difference between making the decision to find that person and simply being curious about your origins. I was saying that everyone experiences the latter, OP was just someone who sought answers (not blaming them, it's perfectly natural). If you're saying you've never even wondered about the other 50% of where you came from, I'm sorry, but you're lying.
Jewelofagal 2
#64 -- There's still a whole lot of life ahead of you during which you may form a different opinion as you go along. Afterall, you're only 24 and your child is only 6 months old. I tend to think that you're going to feel differently 10, 15, and 20 years from now...
monnanon 14
@134 I understand what you mean about the curiosity side but as I know my fathers family really well I will never know if I would have sought him out under other circumstances. I have never been one of those people who has looked at myself and wondered where my eye colour comes from, im just not all that curious. When it came it finding out medical things while I was pregnant I had to look into it but that wasn't something I started. @161 I don't think it will change but I cannot account for the whole future. There has never been the slightest twinge of need to get in touch with him.
angryangry 0
Why did you call that bitch?
TADspace 30
Well, she ABANDONED you when you where three weeks old. It's obvious she had no interest in you from the start.
Doortje 30
That could be for numerous reasons, it's not unlikely/uncommon that's she regrets her decision and would want contact now.
monkeyCanDoMYJob 7
at least now you can move on now that you finally contacted her.
crazyaces89 7
At least you can say you found her and tried to reach out to her...rather than spend the rest of your life not knowing
MLSxxox 3
Aww... thats horrible... sorry OP :(
zenti 2
There's nothing wrong with an adopted person wanting to contact his or her birth parents. Really, it's just curiosity. However, you need to consider what may happen, because in cases such as this, there won't be a happy ending.
DanielleSaysHell 0
That really sucks. Maybe she'll come to her sences one day and relise what she did.
monnanon 14
unfortunatly not everyone sees the total abandonment of a child as a bad thing. We do not know the mothers reasons either but from what she said to OP it just seems like a bad case of bitchitus.