Today, I met my son for the first time since I had to put him up for adoption over two decades ago. I wanted to make amends and get to know him. Instead, all I got to know was how well he can throw a punch. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I met my biological father for the first time. He seemed to be slightly intoxicated from the outset, and less than half an hour later, he had tried to intimidate me into "loaning" him several hundred euros for reasons he wouldn't tell me. So long, "dad". FML
Today, I saw my son. I didn't know I had a son. FML
Today, my son broke up with his girlfriend. When I asked why, he said, "Because I found out she's adopted. Ugh. I just can't with that, y'know?" Never before have I ever felt the desire to disown one of my kids. It's not a pleasant feeling. FML
Today, after I spent years, and thousands of dollars, searching for my birth father, he changed his mind about adopting me. FML
Today, I located my birth dad and asked him why I was put into care. Turns out my mom died, and since he hadn’t wanted me in the first place, he just gave me away and hoped to never see me again. He didn’t even invite me in, he threw a beer at me and threatened to call the cops unless I left. FML
Today, my son tried to fight my husband, his step-dad, who knocked him to the floor with one good punch. I was ready to throw my husband out, but an hour later they were having a heart-to-heart, and now they get along better than they ever have. HUH?!! FML
Today, after an ex let me know I have a 19 year old-son. I was beyond excited so I spent the weekend with them and I can tell you now, the boy is a complete prick, and I prefer to continue to claim I’m childless rather than admit I fathered that arrogant, rude, selfish, entitled little shit. FML
Today, I met my biological parents for the first time. Their justification for giving me up for adoption was that I wasn't conceived at the ideal time for them. Apparently, the ideal time was six months after the adoption, when they conceived the first of my two brothers. FML
Today, I lashed out at the father of my son for not doing anything for the baby. He replied, “I never did shit for you to begin with, didn’t you watch the preview? You knew what you were getting yourself into.” FML
Today, my mom told me that she had great news: we were going to meet my biological parents. I didn't know I was adopted. FML
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lovertolover 4
Talk about a soap opera in the making.
docscientist 10
You're right, he should've left him in a dumpster.
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Comments (383)
swampbaby985 30
I guess the meeting wasn't mutual....
dtemple1110 6
Listen, buddy. You didn't raise him. He has someone else that he knows as mom or dad. There are 7 adopted children in my family, and some if the kids parents try to contact them, and it pisses us off. And we gave the right to be. So ease off. You have no right.
monagro 22
He's not your son anymore.
audiophileMom 11
YES!!!!!!!! You are my hero.
music_woman1 11
You probably do have your reasons for putting him up for adoption but he sees it as abandonment.. Can't blame him or you for that. It's just life. Unfair.
jerry2011 4
He must have gone through a very difficult time. YDI OP.
jhh0991 5
U deserved it!
wildthang428 10
Although I feel for you OP, this is kind of a ydi situation. Despite past circumstances, you have to look at this from your son's point of view. Leave it completely up to him, whether or not he wants you to be a part of his life. I am adopted and I dont see anybody else as my family other than the ones I grew up with. I don't care to ever see my biological parents because I don't see them as my parents. Your son might be feeling the same way. It sucks and I'm sorry it had to be physical, but the choices made in the past always have an affect on the future. :-/
lezbitronic 7
Depends on what the reason why you put him up for adoption was. It's also your fault. 2 decades really?? Wtf shows how much you care I'm almost 20 myself and I still haven't met my real parents.
luckshotpro 12
Valid reasons for adoption or not, 20 years is a long time to never even attempt making contact with him.
Solid_Hippo 4
At least you tried more than what others probably do.