Today, I discovered that most of my family is homophobic while discussing Orange Is The New Black. I've only come out to my sister. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my brother came out to our parents. They weren't super happy with it, but they said that it was ok since they still had a straight son. I don't know how to tell them that I'm gay too. FML
Today, my sister gently asked me if I was gay. Turns out I've been without a boyfriend for so long that the whole family believes I secretly have a girlfriend. FML
Today, my sister came out as lesbian and my parents kicked her out of the house. I was also kicked out for supporting her. FML
Today, a brief survey of everyone I know revealed that everyone, including my parents, sibling, and best friends, thinks I'm gay. I had to do the first reverse coming out in history. FML
Today, I came out to my therapist as gay. Claiming that my parents "can't be that homophobic", my therapist outed me to them. They kicked me out of the house. FML
Today, I came out to my parents and siblings as gay. They were very accepting and asked me why I waited until I was 25 to do so. I didn't have the heart to tell them it was their own homophobic remarks that kept me closeted since I realized it at 14, and that a previous coming-out to a parent was dismissed as 'a phase'. FML
Today, I came out to my parents as lesbian. Surprisingly, they were OK with it… just as long as I still marry a dude, give them grandbabies, and keep the whole lesbian thing a deep, dark, shameful secret that we never talk about again. FML
Today, my step-sister told me that she was getting married to her girlfriend next summer. At a big family brunch, I made a toast to their marriage. I didn't know that my step-mom didn't know they were dating in the first place, or that she was severely homophobic. FML
Today, I found out that my mother has been telling everybody that I’m a lesbian, because both of her best friends have at least one gay child each, and she was feeling left out. This explains why people have been treating me differently the last few weeks. FML
Today, my boyfriend told me that he is homophobic. This wouldn't be such a big deal, if my mother wasn't a lesbian. He doesn't know this yet, and I'm afraid to tell him. FML
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Top comments
ianr817 10
Good luck with the rest of your family !!
KitchenPig 16
I can't believe people are still judgmental of sexuality, 2015
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ianr817 10
Good luck with the rest of your family !!
tantanpanda 26
Also make sure you tell them after you leave for college or something. If they're as homophobic as you think, there's a high change they'll kick you out.
wratty11 17
It's probably best not to tell your parents whilst you're at college if they're so homophobic that they'd kick you out of the house. You might find that the large amount of funding you need from them for university suddenly dries up very quickly.
LunaRebirth 7
@32 - If going to college and they're helping with payments, there's also a chance they'll deny to help out any longer. This makes me so sad
JustinJK 21
Happened to one of my close friends. Their parents cut them off completely and they had to take out loans for their last 3 semesters. And had nowhere to go during the summer/other breaks. His parents haven't talked to him since and his sister and brother are always giving him money. it sucks
HarshD9619 34
Don't worry OP, they love you, I'm sure they'll accept you for who you are
RebeccaRFT 18
Tell that to all the teens who get kicked out of their home
False_Stupidity 42
If they are truly homophobic then no they will not accept OP the way they are and there will likely be trouble.
Zebediabolical 45
If they're truly homophobic I'm very surprised this is the first OP's heard of it.
aloha_oe 24
My girlfriend is in the same position as OP and there's no way she can come out to her family without getting kicked out. Very catholic people. Sometimes families don't accept their own children the way they are. It's sad but true.
Feklfekl2222 32
23- I'm sure OP would know if her immediate family were homophobic but my guess is this is about extended family, uncles and aunts and such..
jack67_fml 14
Why was this disliked
xsydneyx123 28
#23 I see what you mean about OP not knowing their family was homophobic. But it's not like it's causal conversation. "Mom, could you pass the Mashed Potatoes, please? Oh I really don't like homosexuals."
Selphis 20
Good luck! hopefully they'll come around :)
vikky538 29
When OP Comes out.
DoWT 11
Pronounce your love for ruby rose. They'll understand.
bdsmslave 18
No, Vause. Period.
englacobain 14
No, Poussey.
Doberman101 29
Someone who understands me!!!! Poussey!!!!!! ????????????
Zebediabolical 45
Everyone knows Ruby Rose's character is just to compete with Wentworth's Frankie.
JKPwnage 27
What the **** are any of you talking about
Marshallino 24
Let it off your chest, don't worry about it!
TheBossBryson 11
What the hell would people down this comment? Are they homophobic too?
ZedSinha 8
Because coming out to severely homophobic family members isn't something you can just "not worry" about. It's probably not the best idea, for OP's own safety
Marshallino 24
And by not telling them he would have to deal with it all his life and keep it on the down low while living in fear of someone knowing. If I was him I wouldn't worry and just do it, I'm trying to encourage him to live a fearless comfortable life. If that's bad, my apologies.
Paintonmyarms214 21
What's bad about it is that by doing so they could easily be kicked out, disowned, removed from any standing wills, and more. Family is not always forgiving. This could easily be a choice between coming out or keeping good relations with their own family.
UtadaMisori 4
If the family can't accept them for who they are they don't deserve to be in OP's life. All of these comments that are thumbs down make me sick. You're no better than OP's family. Instead of telling them to be themself you're advising them to keep their true self locked up. (Not you #5)
DoomedGemini 38
Excuse me, but as a girl with a girlfriend who isn't sure if she can tell her parents I can assure you that it's better to WAIT. I wouldn't say forever, but until you are self sufficient so they can't do something like kick you out. It's sad, but op's health is more important.
meggyzzz 15
You're family will except you and all is gonna be fine. If they like that show then in a way, they like lesbian **** so they're just hypocritical in that sense
MzZombicidal 36
I hope you stretched before you attempted to make that reach.
SubparAtBest 23
You are both failing here.
MidnaLink 35
First, it's ACCEPT! Second, do you even know how far homophobia can reach? Third, really, you're just assuming they like ****, much less Lesbian ****.
Zebediabolical 45
She's right. They'll except her. As in... "Everyone can live here EXCEPT you!"
Dick_diamond 22
And it's "your family"!!!
drunkturtle 14
I wouldn't worry OP, your family should be accepting and they should love you regardless your sexuality
Lola26042002 12
They should be but they might not. I know a few homosexualists that aren't accepted at home. It's really sad that people don't accept the people they love. If you love someone, then you should love them no matter what.
SubparAtBest 23
Is homosexualist like an actual term?(legitimate question here)
Lola26042002 12
IDK, engilsh isn't my native language.
KitchenPig 16
I can't believe people are still judgmental of sexuality, 2015
Tthug 34
Societal change takes many generations. There are still racists & sexists, so it is not like sexual orientation is going to be any different.
MrConcise 35
God, it's a new era, FFS it's 2012 and Obama is president!!11!
pilows 7
Some people do have different view points or ethics.
Zebediabolical 45
Some people drank the koolaid that says homosexuality is an abomination. As long as that gets passed on to their kids, there will be homophobes.
tdawg91 17
As pessimistic as this sounds, it will ALWAYS be around, just the other day, a woman verbally abused a 3 year old aboriginal girl for playing dress ups because "Queen Elsa is white!" And the world decided racism was bad long before we decided homophobia was bad
kuro21 20
Why? It's their opinion. If they want to be homophobic who are we to say they shouldn't. It's like someone saying they love pizza to their family who doesn't love pizza and hate it with a passion. I can understand how OP would feel, but we shouldn't try and change people just so we can live comfortable. OPs parents are a different story.
Skoff_fml 27
I hope for your sake that your family becomes more accepting. All the best Op. :(
chuka81 27
Get ready to be thrown out of the house.
lolhailsatan 23
that's bit insensitive m8, dont ya think
xsydneyx123 28
You're very insensitive and they was an extremely rude thing to say. Don't listen to them OP. I'm sorry that your family is not very accepting of homosexuals. But my uncle was extremely homophobic until I told him of my sexual orientation. He told me he loves me and accepted me and he is now more accepting of the LGBT community because of me. Moral of the story, maybe they will be more accepting of a family member. Best of luck to you, OP. (: