Today, it's been almost 3 years since my wife has wanted sex, and I get turned down every time I ask. Even when I insist on a romantic date night, we just sit with no idea what to say to each other. How did we drift so far apart? The only thing keeping us together is the mortgage and the cat. FML
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Today, I realised my wife has been slowly phasing out most elements of our previously active and inventive sex life. These days, it's missionary once a month or she tells me to whack one off by myself in the bathroom. When did we get so boring? FML
Today, it's been 3 years since my wife told me we should take a break from sex. We haven't touched each other since. FML
Today, I had to have the awkward conversation with my wife of 20-plus years that the reason I’ve lost interest in sex is because our sex life has been mind numbingly boring for at least 15 of those years, always the same positions, never wanting to try anything new, just so boring. FML
Today, I have been married for nearly 16 years. I've not had sex in over three years. My wife spends all hours chatting and gaming online with friends, and when she finally crashes into bed, she just goes to sleep. FML
Today, according to my wife, our life together is perfect. The only problem is that I no longer turn her on, haven’t for a while, so she wants my permission to have meaningless one-night stands with strangers on Tinder while carrying on with our perfect, sexless married life together. FML
Today, my wife flat out refuses to have sex with me, ever. Most days it's "What have you done to earn sex?" then when I point out all I do (pay bills, work hard, take care of her, the kids and the house) it's, "Oh, so that means I owe you sex?" I even got that excuse on my birthday. FML
Today, my wife has initiated sex less than five times in the 18 years we've been married. If I don't mention it, then she doesn't have to bother. FML
Today, my wife lost interest in sex a long time ago. I’ve tried to reignite her interest lately, which culminated in an argument where she gave me permission to go out and shag other women. We might as well divorce at this point if she’s going to say things like that. FML
Today, it's the 11th time in a row my wife has promised sex, then backed out. Some were good valid reasons I’ll admit, but this time we got as far as naked dry-humping when she suddenly decided she was too upset about our cat dying 8 years ago, so instead she played on her phone until she fell asleep. FML
Today, I came home and asked my wife if she wanted to get eaten out. She just glared at me. Last week, she said all I had to do to make her want sex was asking if she wanted to get eaten out. It's been months since we had sex. FML
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Brightside86 31
Realestate market is hot. Selling now you could walk away with more $ than probably ever before. Sounds like you should speak with a marriage counselor and at least decide a course of action.
cacheson 42
There are a lot of things you can try to help reconnect. Couples therapy is one way to go, but there are many versions of conversation starters for couples, in the form of books, decks of cards, etc. if you’re not sure what to do together try a book called “couple’s bucket list”. If you think none of that will help and you have no idea where to start there are apps to help couples reconnect as well such as an app called “lasting”. And just remember, even though our society has many stigmas about divorce, it’s also a completely acceptable option if there’s nothing left.
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RichardPencil 32
Go get some elsewhere. She probably is. The worst-case scenario is you get caught and get a divorce, which is what you two obviously need. The best outcome is she'll be less irritated by your incessant requests for sex if you don't need to make them.
Brightside86 31
Realestate market is hot. Selling now you could walk away with more $ than probably ever before. Sounds like you should speak with a marriage counselor and at least decide a course of action.
RichardPencil 32
Right, but then you'll have to buy or rent a place at the peak of the bubble, too. A side piece is just much more economical and fun.
cacheson 42
There are a lot of things you can try to help reconnect. Couples therapy is one way to go, but there are many versions of conversation starters for couples, in the form of books, decks of cards, etc. if you’re not sure what to do together try a book called “couple’s bucket list”. If you think none of that will help and you have no idea where to start there are apps to help couples reconnect as well such as an app called “lasting”. And just remember, even though our society has many stigmas about divorce, it’s also a completely acceptable option if there’s nothing left.
wawa_sxm 15
hold the cat hostage for sex.....or if she would get hurt worst then take a hit and start divorce procedures
ic2drops 10
Wow, 3 years too long. honestly if u want my 2 cents I'd say leave at this point. Nobody's happy it seems like and if y'all stay together I think there's a good chance of someone cheating