Today, my wife flat out refuses to have sex with me, ever. Most days it's "What have you done to earn sex?" then when I point out all I do (pay bills, work hard, take care of her, the kids and the house) it's, "Oh, so that means I owe you sex?" I even got that excuse on my birthday. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my wife can't be bothered to do anything that isn't work, talk about her work, and sit on the sofa. Then she complains that I don't show any affection, when she can be bothered to even talk to me. FML
Today, my wife and mother of my kids said she doesn't want sex. Or a divorce. FML
Today, my wife asked for a divorce. Apparently, me being forced to work on her birthday and our anniversary 3 years in a row is the absolute limit she’s willing to put up with. FML
Today, my wife called me at work to yell at me because the house is a mess. She hasn't helped me clean in over two years, and when I ask for help, there's always a new excuse, headache, tired from work, stress, etc. FML
Today, my wife shouted at me for never doing anything for her, which is a brave claim to make while her unemployed ass sits in the house I pay for, enjoying the Netflix I pay for, and the car I pay for so she can drive to Starbucks and use my money to buy £8 coffees for six friends at once. FML
Today, I'm sick of my wife’s attitude. Apparently, when she has the kids by herself it’s "parenting", but when I have the kids it’s “babysitting” or “helping out” or my new favourite “the least you can do, you lazy asshole.” When added up, I parent the kids by myself more hours than she does. FML
Today, for our anniversary, I asked what my wife wanted and she said not to bother spending money, so I didn’t, and she called me a tight git. Then for her birthday I bought her a gift anyway and she had a go at me for ignoring her wishes and wasting money. I literally cannot win. FML
Today, my wife blamed me for the washing machine breaking. When I told her it wasn’t me because I haven’t used it this week, she immediately changed direction and started blaming me for not doing enough around the house, which is utter bullshit. I know I do my share, I think she just wanted to fight. FML
Today, as usual, 90% of my interactions with my wife consist of her angrily ranting and complaining about things I can't control, like the weather, traffic, her son's dad, her insurance, etc. She never initiates any sort of affection and doesn't care about my needs, then wonders why I'm so depressed. FML
Today, my wife is giving me the silent treatment and has locked herself in the bedroom, all because I politely asked her to put the dishcloth away when she was done with it. FML
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Top comments
stickyface 17
Her framing has turned your marriage into a toxic transactional relationship vs a lifelong partnership. Don't engage with her on her terms, and don't let her gaslight into being defensive or having to prove your worthiness. I hate to say it, but your marriage is likely over for all practical purposes but might be saved with counseling if you can get her to commit to it. I doubt it.
bigredmonkeybutt 30
She’s changed the rules in the middle of the game without even discussing things with you. Time to reconsider the relationship.
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Comments (6)
copalolita 16
FYI being married is not consent for sex. She doesn’t owe you an explanation. No means no. Respect her boundaries and learn to use your hand or buy a blowup doll.
garamo 4
in Islam a marriage is a package of rights and duties, ans sex is both right and duty to both parties, it is considered a big sin to refuse having sex with your partner, my wife understands that very well, I also understand when she is not into it. just giving you a perspective from a different common sense culture. This may get downvoted hard but idc,
stickyface 17
Her framing has turned your marriage into a toxic transactional relationship vs a lifelong partnership. Don't engage with her on her terms, and don't let her gaslight into being defensive or having to prove your worthiness. I hate to say it, but your marriage is likely over for all practical purposes but might be saved with counseling if you can get her to commit to it. I doubt it.
bigredmonkeybutt 30
She’s changed the rules in the middle of the game without even discussing things with you. Time to reconsider the relationship.
SAgirl 23
You guys need to have a serious heart to heart or go see a counselor and see if the marriage still worth saving? There is clearly underlying issues here.
Morten Bork 6
she doesn't owe sex, buy she is supposed to want it, with the man she professes to love and care for. if lust isn't there, it is reasonable to question if feelings are there. if she says they are, but she doesn't feel lust, then it is reasonable to discuss an open relationship. it is not reasonable to expect another person to deny themselves, because you can't figure yourself out.