Today, I found out the hard way that my boyfriend occasionally wets the bed. He's 25 and we're moving in together next month. FML
I agree, your life sucks (14306) - you totally deserved it (1648)
On 02/08/2010 at 12:41am - love - by mmvv - United States
oh well, he probably was having a dream he was taking an awesome piss and pissed on you, it happens
#68 - On 02/08/2010 at 5:13pm by drilher244
It would be a different story if he had been honest with her and let her know before it actually happened. Definately an FML.
just wait until you learn a few more things "the hard way"--Oz style.
#25 - On 02/08/2010 at 7:47am by JustStopSucking
FYL but even more FHL. Be supportive and go see a doctor together. I bet there's something that can help him.
I imagine this is only a problem for you if you were planning on sleeping in the same bed as him. I recommend separate single beds, which you can push together for sex. Oh, and no-brainer: make him do his own laundry.
#5 - On 02/08/2010 at 6:33am by dbcheeseburger
'Only a problem for you IF...' !!! They're moving in together! A) Aboubt 90% plus of couples living together plan to be sharing a bed... B) I'd hate to be your gf if that's your attitude towards someone elses problems.
#11 - On 02/08/2010 at 7:00am by letmeinplease
Oh god, as a girl who needs her space in bed and is dating a flailer/snorer combo, I'd love to have separate beds pushed together. Just because someone needs their space in bed doesn't mean they love you any less. It means they need sleep.
12 all i read at a glance what"oh god", "as a girl","in bed", "i'd love", "pushed together". That was sexy for a second. just saying.
my boyfriend is a flailer and snorer too
..among other things lol....
not only would I love a seperate bed
..right now I'd love a seperate ROOM!
it absolutely has nothing to do with my love for him...
but it would definitely allow me to get some sleep.
What is this? 1952? Separate single beds that can be pushed together...honestly!
#49 - On 02/08/2010 at 10:25am by missme2
to the two girls complaining about flailing boyfriends. get a big bed, my ex's bed was
huge because he was 6'7" and it was the only one he could fit on. that way you you will probably drift to opposite sides during the night.
#57 - On 02/08/2010 at 12:27pm by KarasuFyre
Fair enough. Just saying most people do plan to, and he was suggesting as more a thing people might pick. I have my share of flaily snorey bed woes myself.
#63 - On 02/08/2010 at 3:25pm by letmeinplease
ha ha ha ha ha that is weird! maybe he has wet dreams! extremely wet dreams ha ha ha
#8 - On 02/08/2010 at 6:46am by Whoop_whoop
Buy a diaper and some baby wipes, problem solved.
On a serious note, be supportive and offer him as much help as possible, I'm sure you could get through this together, if not then you shouldn't be planning on living under the same roof.
#9 - On 02/08/2010 at 6:46am by Ashle1gh
ooooo that is messed up but it isnt like he can help it
#13 - On 02/08/2010 at 7:03am by Luvin_life_17
Well this is weird. Last time a female wrote about still wetting the bed and people went apeshit and told her how disgusting and horrible and immature she was. Now it's a male wetting the bed and it's OK and people are nicer.
It's because most of the guys on this website who are regular commenters are insecure virgins who are bitter towards women since they get rejected repeatedly in real life. Being a badass on the internet is for people who are tormented and looked down on in real life.
#21 - On 02/08/2010 at 7:39am by Malinkrot
Quite the, uh, analysis you've got there, #21. I was just going to suggest that if the FMLs happened to go through at different times of day, they were probably commented on by entirely different people. But what do I know?
#23 - On 02/08/2010 at 7:42am by dbcheeseburger
It's not outside the realm of possibility for both of you to be correct.
Perhaps, due to the time of day at which this FML was posted, a specific group of readers commented. In fact, the lurking group of lonely, bitter male readers may have never even read this FML...but they may have read other ones.
#43 - On 02/08/2010 at 10:03am by redhead12
That double-standard happens all the time. Same happens for FMLs in which someone is insulted because of their weight. The guys get more support and FYL while if the OP is a woman the comments are filled with "FAT WHORE LOSE WEIGHT".
F His L, as he's moving in with a girl who would say that HER life is messed up because HE has some medical issues. Way to be supportive. Also, if you're that appaled by it it's a pretty good sign that you aren't supposed to be moving in together anyway.
I'm not appalled, it's just a bit of a problem for me since I have OCD with one of my 'things' being liquid contamination.
Even without OCD, how many people honestly enjoy waking up, covered in someone else's pee?
We are still together and we've talked about it but he's too embarassed to see anyone about it, so we're trying out natural methods of prevention.
If that doesn't start working, you really should encourage him to see someone. Sure, it's a little embarassing but the doctor isn't going to laugh at him.
Now that makes the FML a bit more reasonable, at least in my opinion.
While waking up in someone else's pee isn't exactly the greatest way to greet the morning, I'm sure, it's a condition that the person you love suffers from. In that sense, no, not enjoyable, but more painful to him in embarrassment than it is to you. That of course, was before I knew about the OCD, which makes it a tad more complicated..
Anyway, I'm sorry about your situation, and while I do understand that he doesn't want to see anyone it's probably the most rational option. If whatever you're trying right now doesn't work out right, I'd motivate him to go because in the end solving it will outweigh the embarrassment of talking about it. (Although honestly, how much embarrassment is there going to be in talking about a medical issue to a professional? They come across things like this all the time.)
On the other hand, it's easy for me to talk from here behind my laptop, not being in any kind of a similar situation.. So, all I can say is, good luck and I hope you manage to solve the situation, however you end up doing it.
Naturally, and in the end none of the internet's business, I guess. Just felt like I had to set something straight after coming off a little strongly in my first comment. ;)
First of all. I voted Fuck your god damn life, girl. That's pretty bad.
Second, I'm going to agree with a good majority of these people. You shouldn't be sitting here and posting this on the internet. You do -NOT- go to the internet for these kinds of problems. Especially since they're "really" not your problems! They're his. Oh, sure, it's going to inconvenience you and make you feel gross and feel 'bad' for him. Except, where is he in this position?
Today, I looked on this site and found out that my OCD girlfriend posted about my private problems that I have no control of and am -very- self-conscious about. FML.
Really? Sorry if this comes off harsh, but you deserve the trolling if you're going to post something like this. :(
FML is anonymous. It's just a bit of fun. I do know it is a serious situation, but how is this any worse than posting the other private matters that constantly appear on here?
I understand what you mean and where you're coming from though.
Thats nasty but see if there is anything that can be done to help fix it. I wouldn't be sleeping in a bed with him again.
#17 - On 02/08/2010 at 7:23am by dragonwarrior
He may be diabetic you may wanna take him to the hospital.
#19 - On 02/08/2010 at 7:29am by starkillerm
Just he supportive of him. Go to the doctors and see if there's anything he can reccomend to help it.
OP there's some FmL way back of the same issue but a reverse gender of a girl who going to move in with her boy friend and still bed wet. I think those two are made for each other....O.o
how is it everyone is ok with bed wetting? why hasn't he done somthing about it yet? I put up with a pisser for 10 years, it's discusting! its going to make your room smell bad, yuck the thought of makes me feel I'll, don't moove in with him, just don't do it!
I cannot even believe what you have just said, Wanda...what you said about this fml and the way you treat it, probably defines why you will never get close to a relationship. Learn to accept the problems of others. That's like all your friends writing an fml about you and a problem in your pathetic isolated life.
People like you sicken me. And PLEASE learn to spell.
#95 - On 02/10/2010 at 3:47am by ohmahgawdd
Poor guy.
If you love him, go to the doctor's. These things can be taken care of.
#29 - On 02/08/2010 at 8:08am by worldpeace
If you really love him it shouldn't matter. How is this a FYL? Because you'll have to wash the sheets a little more often?
Honestly, you wouldn't want to wake up in someone's pee either. I would say it's F BOTH of their lives: his for having an embarrassing medical condition and hers for having to deal with the side affects. I'm sure they're still together and it is just an issue they need to overcome, but it isn't just about sheets either. I'm sure they have to extensively clean the mattress as well (mattresses absorb EVERYTHING). Unless they have a plastic covering for that. Even so, not how I want to spend my morning.
Just because the OP loves her boyfriend doesn't mean she should have to wake up every morning soaked in his urine. Yes, the condition shouldn't deter her love from him, but, if he loves her, he should love her enough to seek medical advice on how to stop it so she doesn't have to wake up like that every morning.
Just a question here: Why would SHE have to wash the sheets?
Also, for the sake of the mattresses, how about one of those protective sheets?
Well if you love him then, you'll find a way to work it out.
Go see a doctor, get advice.. do whatever to help your boyfriend. :)
You're in a bad position,
You're in a bad relationship.
Urine trouble.
If you found out "the hard way," the fluid he wet the bed with wasn't pee. Have a nice day.
They sell pills for bladder control.
Or just tell him to not drink any liquid two hours before sleeping.
I've been with him just under 2 years and as I said in my original post it's only occasional. I stay over at his only 1 or 2 nights a week, if that.
It's just too much background information to add into an FML.
I am a terrible wetter. When it comes to night time wetting, I wet like an infant. My girlfriend was really supportive and actually the relationship grew that much more personal when she first put me in diapers.
My advice, go buy Prevail Adult diapers (or something similar, but NOT DEPENDS!!!), a plastic sheet to cover the mattress, some baby wipes and some A+D diaper rash cream (the one with Zinc Oxide). Shouldn't be more than twenty dollars. When you get home, sit him down and talk to him about it.
Make sure you've diapered him before bed and that the mattress cover is on. Trust me, if you diaper him, rather than he do it himself, you get WAY less leaks. Waking up in wet diapers is WAY better than more laundry and a reactive/embarrassed boyfriend.
I think the thing that got me past all the embarrassment is the fact that my g/f said she didn't care, and that she loved me no matter what... and she thought the diaper made my ass look sexy. :P
Best of luck and feel free to ask me questions... I've got a LOT of experience in this area.
-Cam
My boyfriend is a diabetic, genetic not from being a fat ass. They wet the bed sometimes, never in the three years I've known him has he though. You need to be supportive, there is probably an underlying medical condition. Def not fyl, fhl, and if you're gonna turn the pity party on yourself then you need to do him a favor and break it off. He deserves someone who isn't going to make something so personal and embarrassing about themselves.
#40 - On 02/08/2010 at 9:38am by murderofcrows
honestly, it happens to more people then you think, its pretty common and usually you grow out of it. feel free to see a doctor but deff be supportive
#47 - On 02/08/2010 at 10:15am by jtorres815
Get a Gortex mattress pad, make him responsible for his own laundry, and help him find the appropriate doctor to see. There are a lot of reasons for bed wetting, could be his is physical.
#48 - On 02/08/2010 at 10:18am by Joceannora
95% of the time, bedwetting is incurable. Doctors will give you scripts like DDAVP or something and it will give you side effects, like it did for me. I would get really whiney in the morning... it sucked.
get over it, dont be a bitch...
it must be extremely embarrassing for him. He obviously cant help it.
#52 - On 02/08/2010 at 11:37am by admitmylife
Derp. Haha. It wouldn't be a problem if you weren't moving in together. It's not like you couldn't date or move in with somebody else either. YDI. Not that it could be your FML more than it is his anyway, but hon, you're not even close.
#53 - On 02/08/2010 at 11:37am by blastvortex
on the bed sharing subject my aunt and uncle have been very happily married for 27 years and they haven't slept in the same bed for 20 years and even have totally seperate bedrooms purely because other wise neither of them would get a good nights sleep as she talks in hers and he snores---loudly!!
#54 - On 02/08/2010 at 11:41am by maidmagenta
my ex boyfriend had (well still does) a neurological disorder from an illness he had when he was six. it caused him to wet the be occasionally. I delt with it cause I knew he couldn't help it. you should too, maybe it's not his fault.
#56 - On 02/08/2010 at 12:03pm by hannahemerald
Bedwetting adults are getting increasingly common on FML.
#58 - On 02/08/2010 at 12:50pm by DJ_Chutfield
I guess you'll have to add some Depends to your grocery list
#64 - On 02/08/2010 at 3:27pm by CharlotteRx
hey I have that problem ok and don't you think it's enough for him to go through with it I know it's he'll for me to go through it so back off or he will have a low self esteem and go suicidal like me
you might want to consider something. my boyfriend is 23 and he wets the bed unless i remind him to use the bathroom before he goes to sleep. the reason he does wet the bed is because of prostate problems that are hereditary. he needs to go to the doctor and let them make sure what the actual reason is.
instead of whining why don't you try to support him
i'm sure his life is much more f/cked up than yours
#69 - On 02/08/2010 at 5:55pm by broke_otaku
today i found out my girlfriend with whom im moving in with complains about me on Fmylife.com about a problem that i have no control over... FML
I honestly had to break up with my ex for that reason. Since he did it twice a week, and occasionally got on me. And he never washed the blanket afterwards, he made me did do them.
#76 - On 02/08/2010 at 7:23pm by littleleenie
If you're going to move in with him then be a mature person and deal with it. Otherwise, FHL for wanting to move in with a shallow girl like you.
#83 - On 02/08/2010 at 10:21pm by SarahAnne_2009
What you need to do is to be supportive. Its a medical condition that he can't help. And usually talking about it with one another brings the couple closer. Yeah it can be pretty disgusting at sometimes but come on. Do whatever it takes like seeing a doctor, or perhaps, like what cam said, diaper him but try to make at as least humiliating as possible(not sure how to do that. just saying) and hopefully you can get through this together.
#84 - On 02/08/2010 at 11:21pm by cracktheskye
my boyfriend does that too ... ita no big deal, if it only happens occassionaly. If you don't support him, you dont deserve him.
Before you leave a comment look at the previous posts. The OP already stated that she is supporting him and has also added some background information. Everyone needs to stop jumping to conclusions and being so quick to judge.
I have the same problem!!! I woke up one night AFTER we moved in and I was all wet and warmed up and not in a good way!!!! My bed was stained like crazy.
put vapor rub inside his belly button.... trust me it works....my older brother was doing the same thing!
My favorite kind of post.
For all we know, it could be true love- but the OP could be the type to discover, despite this true love, that his pissing in his sleep is *exactly* where to draw the line. I love it! Okay, true love might be a stretch.
Enough love to justify *moving in* together however, says it all. And then getting on the internet to share something likely revealed to you in utter shame, and under the pretense of complete privacy... is worth a sheer win award, as nothing on the internet is remotely private.
And by sheer win I mean "Turns out I'm a superficial bitch!" award.
Here's to hoping at some point, someone you genuinely feel affection for, reveals having a urine fetish. Howard Hughes style.
Good luck with life, trite hack.
#94 - On 02/10/2010 at 2:03am by justanotherhuman
He should have been honest. But this is usually a simple surgery to have corrected. Hit him with a shovel and drag him to a urologist.
If it can't be cured - I can hook you up with some Union-Alls.
#97 - On 02/10/2010 at 10:20pm by Cinderhella
Yikes it could also be that he has urinary problems or potential prostate cancer idk I may be wrong and he's just a weenie lol
#99 - On 02/11/2010 at 3:02am by tommymendo
Deuteronomy 6:32 says 32 But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
its ok trust me mines 24 he did when we first got together you jus have to treat him like a kid and make sure he goes to the bathroom and stuff before bed lol....this is only if u really love him and u can put up with it lol
