Today, I went to the doctor. I told her I felt down all the time. She asked me a few questions and she told me I was depressed. She suggested to go home and find the sources of my depression. When I told my parents, they started laughing and said "Yeah, right." I think I found my source. FML
I agree, your life sucks (36166) - you totally deserved it (1794)
On 07/02/2009 at 3:49pm - health - by farrahfarrest_ (woman) - United States (California)
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Yo, my parents are dead!
Top that.
#1 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:32pm by Lambshanks
#1 even if your parents are dead this isn't a lets see who's life is more messed up.
Everyone has issues, but parents should be supportive but sometimes they aren't good at that...I live with family that doesn't know how to do that. Talk to them seriously about it if it bothers you that much. Dwelling over your parents response your depression won't get you anywhere in life. FYL for having parents who don't get it, but put your big kid pants on and man up.
#12 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:42pm by paintballer87
What is with story-topping? It's just plain annoying
You're also effectively BOASTING about your parents not being around. How can you actually do that?
#39 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:09pm by divineinstrument
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Maybe if the OP didn't spend all their time talking about how their life is fucked, and got a fucking hobbie they wouldn't be 'depressed'. Depression isn't the same thing as being EMO... YDI.
#48 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:30pm by infowarrior
You are a fucking piece of shit.
How can you say that??
I have been in the same place as the OP, and I still am.
I have great friends, and most of my (indirect) family is great, but I am still like that.
Depression is a chemical imbalance, you can't help it, or "just get over it".
It doesn't work that way.
It's the same as if you had a broken bone. You can't just go "OK, bone, heal!" and have it heal.
So shut the fuck up you asshole.
Oh and OP: I'm sorry :(
Hopefully you're old enough to be able to move out soon :(
(And you might just wanna add a "fuck you bitches" on the way out the door)
#78 - On 07/02/2009 at 8:11pm by princeton16
Hey #1, congrats, I bet your parents are real proud in heaven of what a piece of shit son they have. Way to go.
I think 'sick' describes the boasting about parents being dead.
TO OP - Ignore them. If they don't want to support you, don't support them when they need help with an illness of some sort. Why should you when they don't bother showing even a minor amount of interest or care?
#105 - On 07/02/2009 at 10:55pm by BLNovelist
"You felt down all the time"... yeah i would b depressed if I were you too if you have to resort to masturbating cause you can't find a man. Guess your mom doesnt understand that.
#108 - On 07/02/2009 at 11:16pm by MasterModeraor
@ 78 - "Depression is a chemical imbalance, you can't help it, or "just get over it".
It doesn't work that way."
Actually, to some degree, you can, and it does.
I had some pretty ass-kicking depression for several years. An endless parade of new drugs and different therapists didn't do shit about it until one day I decided that I wasn't going to let some neurotransmitter imbalance control my life anymore. Don't get me wrong, the drugs and therapy are necessary, too...in fact, without either of those things I probably wouldn't have been able to make that observation. My point is that you can be taking the best pills available and seeing the smartest shrink in the world and none of it will actually fix you if you're not determined to get completely better.
I'm not saying that depression is all in your head, or that depression sufferers are choosing to be sad, or that one day you should just be able to wake up and go "okay, I'm happy now." I'm only saying that willpower is a significant factor in the speed of one's recovery.
I think maybe the point was to show people complain about their P.O.S. parents all the time, while others wish they had parents to complain about. A little (okay a lot) of insensitivity about depression, does not mean you shouldn't be thankful you're parents are still around.
It's kinda hard just to "get over" something like that. You need support, therapy, sometimes medication.
Sorry to hear your parents would say that to you!! I hope things get better for you.
parents can be like that, because they feel they failt if you get deprest, it was the same whit mine
Yeah... I'm not sure why, but a lot of parents aren't as supportive as they used to be.
Mine tries, but fails.
#5 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:34pm by SiLveRStaRLIGHT
Sometimes parents think it's "just a phase" and that the kid'll get over it. That doesn't mean they should laugh though. If you said the doctor told you you were depressed, then FML. If you just left that part out, then it's more of a YDI. Either way, sorry bout that. Being depressed sucks, and if your rental units don't even know or care... I've been there.
#8 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:36pm by hellobananas
How it is a YDI just because they might have left out the doctor? If I had a child and they said they feel 'depressed' I'd be worried, doctor or not.
#106 - On 07/02/2009 at 10:57pm by BLNovelist
I agree with number 9.
Kidding.
Nah, parents can be like that...
Maybe they think it's just a phase.
#35 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:05pm by katelynmarie
Hopefully you don't have to live with them much longer and you get a good therapist to help you. Parents can suck. I'm sorry.
#16 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:42pm by redbluegreen
Hun, whatever you do don't go to tharapy or take medication that will just fuck you up worse. I know: my mother is a modern meds drug pusher and I finally got my dad to make her stop (after 6 months of flushing unneeded meds down the toilet.) Parents suck, just move out when you can and keep your friends close. Also for your own sake, don't tell anyone you are feeling depressed or you will be soon enough.
I can see where you would say that mess would mea you up further if you don't have a chemical imbalance, but how does therapy hurt anyone?
It sounds like you didn't even try. What's your problem, trying to stop someone from getting the help they need just because of your uppity, biased assumptions?
That's terrible advice.
Several people I know had depression which responded well to medication and cognitive therapy. They are much happier, can function better than they could before the treatment.
Prior to this they were in a downward spiral of feeling useless, and getting depressed about that.
I'd advise the OP to ignore them
#53 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:47pm by drimpossible
Newsflash: not everyone responds the same way to medication. Some people really benefit from it and some people get worse because of it. You can't know until you try it. (And even then you may need to try multiple brands before you find one that works.)
#55 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:55pm by potatopeeler
Not telling people doesn't help at all. The easiest way to deal with depression without medication (if you choose that route) is talking it out with supportive friends and counsellors. You're the opposite of help.
#75 - On 07/02/2009 at 8:09pm by Lonely_Lez
meds for anxiety really work? i have anxiety, but i didnt think it works..............oh well, i'd rather be off the meds and be with my friends than be on the happy pill.
Yes, meds for anxiety work. You should check into them if you seriously have anxiety issues. Do some research (in particular, SSRIs), then talk to your doctor. Right now I'm on a daily 100mg of sertraline (Zoloft), and I absolutely notice a difference. Before I went into therapy, it had never even occurred to me that I might have an anxiety problem.
I can't comment about if the meds would work for you, but I do know that if your doctor decides to try them with you, it can take a couple of weeks before your body totally adjusts.
And, frankly, as for your comment "I'd rather be with my friends than on a happy pill"....again, I don't know your particular situation, but I know I'm actually much MORE likely to hang out with friends now than I had been before. Depression wasn't much of an issue, but anxiety definitely was- to the point that I would avoid people because I "knew" they were judging me.
OP: I'm so sorry you have to go through this, but don't believe for a second that your parents are right. It took me 30 years of life, and 9 months of meds and therapy, but I was finally able to say "Fuck you" to my dad when I realized he was the one that was fucked up, and not me.
#95 - On 07/02/2009 at 9:58pm by segascream
Considering the fact that your doctor is an incompetent *woman*, I wouldn't put much thought into her 'diagnosis'. Tell her to get her ass back in the kitchen. You're a man, so man-up. Depression? Bullshit, we real men call it being a pansy.
#20 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:51pm by JohnSlider
You are on a site where people share bad (but funny) things that have happened to them. Reading this site makes almost everyone seem like jerks.
If you want to read about wonderful, supportive parents, this is not really the site you want!
#24 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:56pm by divineinstrument
Ah, trolls. They are so irritating. I'd love to argue with them all day, but unfortunately, not only are trolls (usually) idiotic pigs with no lives, brain, or worth, it just isn't worth it.
#28 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:59pm by hellobananas
Oh, and just for good measure to the original post, go die in a hole. Please. Don't breed, ever. Anyone who goes off on anything about anyone being inferior or having a certain trait for an uncontrollable quality given by genetics is a pompous ass that doesn't need to pass off his genes to some unfortunate kids.
#37 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:05pm by hellobananas
If I were to ever have children I'm sure it would be the woman who passed tainted genes to our "unfortunate" kids. Alas, that is the price we pay for preserving my bloodline.
#40 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:10pm by JohnSlider
I really feel for you OP!! If I'd said that to my parents, they would have laughed too. Like they're good parents, don't get me wrong, but unless something drastic happened, they would never actually being able to consider the possiblity of there being something wrong with me.
A similar thing happened to me actually. I told my 21-year old brother I thought I had depression a few months ago (when I was feeling really low with no good reason) and his face just broke out in this broad grin. To be fair, I definitely don't have depression, but that doesn't give him the right to find my fears at all amusing. As for my parents, forget smiling, they would have outright laughed.
But firstly, it's important to make sure that you actually have depression. If you describe anything depression-like to a doctor, they'll just assume depression and fill you up with anti-depressants. And anti-depressants can sometimes have the opposite effect and make you incredibly ill! And they're quite addictive. Trust me, my mum's a GP. She says that all her colleagues WAY overprescribe anti-depressants. Go see a psychotherapist or something.
#21 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:52pm by divineinstrument
#1, you sure you want to brag about the fact your parents are dead?
#25 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:56pm by deathbunny256
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I smell a drama queen. stop looking at the glass half empty emo girl and try looking at it half full
#26 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:57pm by Nightfallz
Maybe you read a different post by OP than I did. The one I read said that she'd been diagnosed with a naturally-occurring chemical imbalance (thus, something she has no control over), and she relayed this information to her family, they laughed at her.
What post did you read?
#96 - On 07/02/2009 at 10:02pm by segascream
my life is screwed up too depressed nearly all the time but xbox live is making me fell better passed a whole year without friends due to the fact they won't accept me and fights and i also have a sister whos going through this stuff with me and we support each other
life is too short to let things depress you. find the happy side of things and life won't suck so much. IMO depression is just a state of mind caused by low self esteem and a lack of confidense
#30 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:00pm by Nightfallz
One of the biggest faults in our language is using the same word for two vastly different meanings.
There is "depression", which is "I'm feeling a little down in the dumps today because things aren't going my way", and then there's "DEPRESSION", which is "i have absolutely no idea why I feel like this, I don't like it, and there's only one thing that will end this pain i feel that nobody understands". OP is suffering from the second, obviously, as the first is a temporary mood shift, whereas the second literally has NOTHING to do with mood. You could win free front-row tickets to see your favorite band live, a million dollars, be offered get your dream job, etc etc (generally have the most awesome day imaginable), but if you're suffering from DEPRESSION, you wouldn't care, and probably wouldn't even get out of bed.
I really don't know how to explain the difference between depression (mood shift) and depression (chemical imbalance) any clearer than that.
http://www.depressionisreal.com/
#98 - On 07/02/2009 at 10:11pm by segascream
I am in the same boat. Nobody takes me seriously. Even after the school counselor told my father, that I might have minor depression.
#32 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:01pm by LolitaGirl
While it's true that school counselors aren't qualified to diagnose depression, I would still take such a comment seriously--especially if my child were in distress. Depression is a real problem that interferes with functioning and enjoying life, and too often it goes undiagnosed. And hey, #32 never said anything about medication, did she?
"Might have mild depression" is a rather unhelpful way of putting it--I bet a lot of parents would dismiss that comment from a school counselor. I hope the counselor urged your parents to look into the matter.
Emo is such an overrated stereotype. And looking at the glass any way than other the glass for what it is, a glass with something in it, is idiotic as both optimism and pessimism have their downfalls.
Supposed to be a reply to #26, this messed up...
#33 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:01pm by hellobananas
Parents can be that way. Especially their generation, well at least mine, they didn't really go and see psycologists and things of that sort, so their mentality is more like suck it up and deal with it. Then again they went through the 70's and early 80's where drugs were a little heavy to cure everything if you know what I mean. Don't take it to much to heart your parents probably used to get more physical abuse from your grandparents, and you, because of the day and age, get verbal abuse. Learn to take it in stride I know it sucks but what are you gonna do? If it bothers you to much move out some parents are really awful.
These are just assumptions based on what you tell us do what's best for you.
#34 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:04pm by speak_a_da_truth
you're exactly right--my mom told me she went through exactly what I'm going through at my age (textbook case of depression) but that it's "just something young adults do." her family had the "suck it up" philosophy so she's imparted the same lack of sympathy/understanding that was instilled in her. the difference is, she's worked on a psych ward so she has no right to pretend mental health issues don't exist, and that's exactly why I'm getting far far away as soon as I'm done with school.
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Go hang out in the graveyard and write poetry about how black your soul is.
#41 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:11pm by elfuzzo
Emo doesn't equal hanging around in the graveyard and writing poetry about how black your soul is.
#65 - On 07/02/2009 at 7:23pm by ShimmyPizza
How is this not an FML? He's going through depression and his parents were insensitive about it. You're a fucking idiot if you don't think this is an FML.
That's exactly what my parents would do. I guess it's just some people's natural reaction to think it was a (bad) joke when they get bad news
#47 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:21pm by emer_helena
Good for you going to a doctor. I never did, but I always knew my parents were a big part of the problem. If they're not willing to help you, and really are the problem, then I suggest moving out ASAP. That made all the difference for me. Two days after I moved out I felt like a totally new person. =)
#51 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:44pm by themixedt4pe
To those who are falsely equating depression with being emo: fuck you. Despression is a legitimate illness that can be as debilitating and painful as any other, and you should hope that you never find yourself drowning in it. It is NOT simply a "state of mind" and cannot be alleviated just by merely wishing it away; for many it takes years of therapy and sometimes medication to finally get out of it.
Seriously--cut the ignorance and pick up a book.
#52 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:47pm by ghost_light
Seriously, thank you.
As a psych grad student (doing his dissertation on depression, no less) and someone who has suffered from depression for a few years, (plus someone that was emo in high school, heh) I was shocked reading this thread.
Being emo and being depressed are WAY different. You can be both, but being depressed is more then a mood and it is not possible to just will your way out of it. Many depressed people CANNOT see the positives in life, not that they choose not to, but that they can't.
Further, I am against medication, for the most part. It does have its place, but it is not a cure-all. Further, it is not supposed to be used on its own, but in conjunction with psychotherapy. Most reputable psychiatrists will not prescribe meds if a person is not seeking therapy simultaneously. Medication lessens depression enough for a person to deal with it and overcome it in a healthy manner, it does not fix the reasons the person was depressed in the first place.
The stigma surrounding depression (see THREAD, THIS) is one of the reasons the disorder is so debilitating, too. It's hard to get help when people don't take you seriously and say you're emo and an attention whore.
OP: Find a therapist you like and get some help. You can't necessarily change your parents, but you can help yourself feel better.
#68 - On 07/02/2009 at 7:41pm by go_rangers
#68, if you're a psych grad student, I'm surprised that the way the OP got the diagnosis didn't ring any alarm bells for you.
It's possible this is a fake FML, and there's nothing wrong with that as long as it's entertaining, but it should also be believable. If the doctor knew what she was doing, she wouldn't have told the OP to "go home and look for sources." She would have helped set the OP up with a mental health professional who could have made a real diagnosis, and who would have prescribed a treatment involving some combination of medication and psychotherapy. What this doctor did is just plain stupid for a couple reasons. One is that there are a handful of mental and medical disorders that have "feeling down all the time" (which means different things for different people) as a symptom, and it could be a mistake to just assume it's depression. Another is that it's usually impossible to pinpoint a real reason why someone is depressed--while there are situational factors that can trigger depression, there are other factors having to do with brain chemistry that still aren't well-understood. Moreover, if it were as simple as going home and "looking for sources," you'd think the OP would have figured out why she's sad all the time a long time ago and found a way to deal with it. As for the parents, well, parents can be insensitive sometimes, but that alone is not enough to trigger anything more than teenage angst. So either this is fake, or the OP has a doctor who knows nothing about mental health.
If anyone out there has a therapist who is telling them anything like "go home and look for sources," you're not getting the help you need. Go find a therapist who will give you real treatment.
Emotional abuse from parents can most certainly cause depression, as can physical and sexual abuse.
#129 - On 07/03/2009 at 5:45am by kisekileia
Yeah, but if the OP's treatment from her parents were bad enough to cause depression, she would have noticed it before now. And just because they don't think she's depressed doesn't mean they're emotionally abusive.
Oh, it definitely did. Doctors aren't supposed to say that, and in fact, as a mental health professional, one of the first things you're supposed to do is make sure the person has a recent physical, to make sure there is no medical cause of the symptoms (hypothyroidism, for example, can cause depressive symptoms.). So, I did realize how ridiculous that sounds, and I was mainly just ignoring that part and assuming it was a competent doctor and the only reason the story wasn't explained well was because of the character limit on FML.
#138 - On 07/03/2009 at 11:51am by go_rangers
But especially with something like depression... it's HIGHLY unethical to just send someone home to explore it further, without doing a suicide assessment, or talking to the family, or in other ways making sure the person will be okay in the near future. But, again, I just assumed their practitioner was competent.
#139 - On 07/03/2009 at 11:54am by go_rangers
Awww sweetheart! That must suck! I'm sorry I will be praying for you and your family.
#56 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:59pm by mylifesucks97
Your parents fail hard. :( I'm sorry! I guess they're not the best for confiding stuff like that in? I hope you can get some help from your counsellor. Good luck.
Yeah when i told my mom my doctor wanted me to go on medicine for my depression she told me i needed to be put into a psych ward then. My dad was quiet. my mom is the reason for mine.
Umm. Am I the only one who is appalled that a doctor supposedly told someone to go find the "source" of their depression?
#59 - On 07/02/2009 at 7:08pm by harlequeen
yes. well probably not but i went to a therapist and they can't do everything for you. they talking things out with you and then you find where the source is. they just help you get there.
#63 - On 07/02/2009 at 7:18pm by lilajeanlynn
awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww I'm so sry, I'd ask the doctor to call them and make them feel horrible,(if they r capable of guilt)
Most of the people I know who haven't been able to break away from their parents are crazy as hell. Move a couple states away from them as soon as you're able. You'll thank yourself.
how a parent treats you can make you very depressed if it feels like they're never there for you it can be as bad as if they aren't there. parents can be abusive with or without meaning to, they can talk down to their kids with or without meaning to etc....
this site isn't a contest of whose life is worse and different things can affect various people differently anyhow. some people are also more prone to things like depression to and either way it's dumb and makes you look bad for making fun of anyone for it. there are some things on this site that are true ydi this is not.
Simple: the numbers show the order in which the posts were made, but the posts appear in the order of the replies. (i.e. lets say this post is the 99th one made. It will show as being post #99, but it will appear below post #69, since that's the one I'm replying to.)
Clear enough?
#99 - On 07/02/2009 at 10:17pm by segascream
im sorry but your parents may be douchbags. damn that sucks. but hey it getts better eventually. keep living and it will get better
#72 - On 07/02/2009 at 7:56pm by car6435
no joke. who ever says YDI is retarded and plain rude. depression isnt as easy to get over. plus if it is coming from your own parents. its real bad. but it will get better. to those talking trash. its not helping and it can lead to alot worse situations. something like this happened near me and worst came to worst. but remember life has twists and turns good times and bad times. remember this
#73 - On 07/02/2009 at 8:04pm by car6435
"Feeling down all the time" is not a symptom of clinical depression.
#74 - On 07/02/2009 at 8:07pm by Sgt_Schadenfreud
Are you serious? Do you even know what depression is?
(From MayoClinic) Symptoms of depression include:
Loss of interest in normal daily activities
Feeling sad or down
Feeling hopeless
Crying spells for no apparent reason
Problems sleeping
Trouble focusing or concentrating
Difficulty making decisions
Unintentional weight gain or loss
Irritability
Restlessness
Being easily annoyed
Feeling fatigued or weak
Feeling worthless
Loss of interest in sex
Thoughts of suicide or suicidal behavior
Unexplained physical problems, such as back pain or headaches
#87 - On 07/02/2009 at 8:44pm by anniebananie
It's actually one of the two core criteria, according to the DSM-IV TR (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), put out by the APA.
Without either depressed mood or anhedonia (loss of pleasure or happiness), you cannot have depression. It IS possible to have depression without depressed mood (or "feeling down all the time"), but it is very common for people with depression to feel that way. It is absolutely a criteria for depression.
(Looking at the DSM right now)
#90 - On 07/02/2009 at 9:16pm by go_rangers
a lot of people have a lot of suggestions. but only you know yourself. check out http://psychcentral.com if anyone wants more info. only you and your dr can tell you whether medication is right for you and ultimately its up to you. therapy is always a good start. there are many causes for depression and its not just something you can "get over" if its a chemical imbalance. nobody goes and tells a diabetic to stop taking insulin and fuck their dr. if its a chemical imbalance its not something you'll get over. don't be so ignorant.
actually, yes, it is. do some research before stating what you think are facts.
#85 - On 07/02/2009 at 8:41pm by iamazombie
my last comment was directed at #74...
i want to add that everyone up here talking shit and down-playing OP's depression are the reason why it's hard for people who are truly suffering to be taken seriously. it's people like you who make people who really do have depression feel even worse about themselves, thinking they are just being selfish for wanting help. why are you so angry? maybe you have issues you need to face yourself before you go around telling others whether or not the things they are feeling are 'normal'.
#88 - On 07/02/2009 at 8:46pm by iamazombie
yep! and mine do it too and even when I grew out of my Teens!
#89 - On 07/02/2009 at 8:47pm by Jord111222333
Luckily for me, my parents aren't THAT bad, but they do something I really hate. They don't diss my fears, BUT they often remark that we have no problems at all in comparison with disabled people or the starving people in Africa.
Okay, Mom and Dad, I understand that, but making comments like that makes me feel like I don't deserve help, and that I'm selfish for wanting people to help me instead of someone else.
It's a big reason why I NEVER tell them what social/academic problems I'm having, because I know they'll just look down on my woes like they don't matter for shit. :(
I hate parents like that. When i told my parents i thought i had adhd they just laughed at me. It really sucks when they dont you seriously..
The OP's parents remind me of how my parents are with my sister, they don't take my sister's depression seriously and just say to "get over it" or something of the sort.
:(
#93 - On 07/02/2009 at 9:49pm by Master_Beta_XD
Depression isn't caused by unsupportive parents. Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain, and it is hypothesized that it is a specific virus is involved in stripping the brain of its seratonin, and incapacitating the body's ability to produce more.
SO. Your parents are not the "source" of your depression. Nice try though.
Life experiences change the levels of neurotransmitters. A person's reactions to their parents will probably not CAUSE depression if they are not prone to it, but it could exacerbate the situation or evoke the depressive symptoms.
It's one of those vicious cycle things... NT levels affect behavior and cognition, which affects NT levels, which affects behavior... etc.
#103 - On 07/02/2009 at 10:35pm by go_rangers
I suspect it was poor wording choice on the part of the OP. "Source", no, but "trigger for a depressive episode" certainly could be possible. Keep in mind that all but the most crippling depression can run in cycles. It can also have ties to other psycho/biological mechanisms.
#104 - On 07/02/2009 at 10:38pm by segascream
Prozac works for my orchestra teacher! Sorry you don't have enough seratonin :(
#100 - On 07/02/2009 at 10:24pm by jewelzgalore
Yo, #1 Get a life.
Find something else to do other than to scan other people's stories and find flaws in them. Seriously, jeez.
And the for the OP, nicely worded.
#110 - On 07/02/2009 at 11:42pm by City_at_war
depression and other related illnesses can be controlled to an extent. it's sort of a mental game. you have to tell yourself that you have power over your illness and the negative thoughts that come with it. tell yourself you can control it and you may find that you can. this worked for me to an extent. the general "down" feeling is still there, but it is not dominating or overwhelming. i dont know if this will help you as much as it did for me, but hey, its worth a try.
why didn't i think about that? shit so i just need to think happy thoughts and i'll be chipper and bouncy? so the 6 meds a day, multiple trips to the ER, and a total of 5 weeks in a crisis house wasn't needed? damn someone conned me.
You're a teenager. All of you feel down. Move out when you go to college and everything will turn around.
#123 - On 07/03/2009 at 3:04am by happyvalleygirl
Fucking teenagers have no appreciation for life whatsoever. Your parents are giving you shelter and food and obviously care about you enough to send you to the doctor if something is wrong. There are tons of people out there with bigger problems and as a teenager, life always seems ten times worse than it is, especially where parents are concerned. Take a step back and realize what you truly have in your life, then see if you're still depressed. As the daughter of a woman with actual depression, it's more than just "feeling down." There are a lot of physical and mental side effects that make me feel like you don't even know what real depression is.
For the record, I'm not trying to belittle you. It sucks to FEEL depressed and not get support for it; on the other hand, however, taking a real look at the world around you really puts things in perspective. I hope you feel better, OP.
#125 - On 07/03/2009 at 3:53am by laurisshnazzy
the OP doesnt say that they sent them to the doctor, she says that she went to the doctor. And the doctor told her she was depressed, not that she was feeling depressed. so read the fucking post and how on earth is that not belittling?
#126 - On 07/03/2009 at 4:13am by fule123
The OP also didn't say that she was a teenager. She could be in college and still live at home. Many abusive parents give their children food, shelter etc but that doesn't make it okay.
Wow...you have no idea what you are talking about. The OP isn't being ungrateful to her parents, you dolt! She went to the doctor of her own accord and said doctor told her she was depressed. Just because her life isn't as fucked up as it COULD be, doesn't mean it's not fucked up. And the fact that her parents LAUGHED just proves that they are complete and total dunderheads who aren't even fit to parent a ROCK! So, leave the OP alone.
AND TO ALL THE FUCKERS SAYING 'EMO' = DEPRESSION, FUCK YOU! 'EMO' JUST STANDS FOR EMOTIONAL! IT DOESN'T NECESSARILY MEAN SOMEONE IS SUICIDAL OR THAT THEY CUT! IT JUST MEANS THAT A PERSON IS VERY EMOTIONAL, WHETHER IT BE THROUGH HAPPINESS, ANGER, OR SADDNESS!
God, some people on here are real cold-hearted, brainless assholes who LOVE criticizing people to make themselves feel better. GET A FUCKING LIFE!!
OP, don't worry. Move out as soon as you can and never look back. I'm sorry your parents are assholes.
#155 - On 07/19/2009 at 8:06pm by xXmoses_rocksXx
OP, you should go back to the doctor and have him or her call your parents and set them straight. Parents tend to jump into a great big vat of denial at any hint that their child might have a mental health problem, and they're more likely to listen to a licensed professional about it than to their own offspring.
#128 - On 07/03/2009 at 5:42am by kisekileia
That's nasty... I think parents can too often fall into the trap of thinking their kids "belong" to them, and not give them enough respect as individuals.
Definitely get your doc to set them straight, sounds like they need a good hard wake-up call to their behaviour.
And... give the meds a try... Definitely stick with therapy... If the meds are no good, ask for a different kind, but don't give up. You can get through this.
#130 - On 07/03/2009 at 6:16am by youlightupthesun
Depression is a clinical mental disorder, not just "feeling sad". I'd seriously doubt any doctor that'd diagnose it from just a chat and a few questions.
And by the by, if the OP really IS suffering from clinical depression, then there won't be an outside "source" for it; the cause is a mental disorder, not their parents being cruel; take the parents away and the depression will remain, IF it's actually clinical depression. That the doctor has given this advice, to me, suggests it's not.
People who claim they're suffering from depression when they're just sad, or people who say they have an eating disorder when all they have is a lack of willpower, or people who say they have a food allergy when in reality they're just fussy, are all insulting the people who DO suffer from these legitimate problems, and are actually harming public perception of their problems by belittling them with their own false claims of suffering.
I agree with you about how it is a chemical imbalance (nobody is arguing this point). However, there are certain triggers that can worsen a person's depression. When I'm around supportive people, it gives me hope even though I still have depression, but when I'm around my unsupportive parents it worsens it. I think this is what was meant by "source," but I also could be wrong.
#147 - On 07/04/2009 at 6:00am by itooamscrewed
to all the fuckers who said shit like "its a state of mind," "get on with it", "EMO", "quit whining" and especially "you're thinking wrong, ive been depressed and seeing how lucky i am made it all better!"
FUCK YOU ALL.
its not just a "State of mind", its you. completely, there is no way that just willing yourself out of a depressive episode can work. depression can take over your entire life - literally, every part of it - and getting to the point where youre planning out your own suicide is rarely feeling "depressed."
theres a part of your brain that releases seretonin - feel good chemicals - and stress can cause it to stop working properly. thus, triggering CLINICAL depression.
you think you know what its like and you're so great because you overcame it by this thinking?
either your depression naturally took its course and you got better by yourself or you mean that you just felt a bit shit for an hour or two and felt sorry for yourself.
you think all teenagers are like this?
most teenagers go to school, study, hang out with friends - lead NORMAL lives, but REAL depression (That is not just emo kids, as you probably think) can fuck that all up. no matter how hard you try, no matter what you do, your life can turn to utter shit and you cant function any more.
its a mental illness which has fucked my life over entirely and pushed me as far as i can go.
dont fucking dismiss its seriousness if youve never really been there.
#132 - On 07/03/2009 at 8:19am by penizulaface
YES! YOU ARE TOTALLY RIGHT! I was depressed for a long time in school because I was never accepted, and it sucks loads of ass. I went to therapy and got over my depression, but I know how it feels and I don't make fun of depressed people. Keep spreading the word man, you rock.
My girlfriend is in the same boat; she gets no support from her parents with her depression. I know the kind of shit you have to deal with and I hope things get better for you. And I do recommend "fuzz therapy": when you start feeling down, hug a cat. It just might make you feel a bit better.
I registered just to comment on this. That's a real FYL. I cope by distancing myself from my parents as much as I can, and surround myself with people I know who actually love me - my friends. I hope that's helpful to you. Call up your friends, get out more, get involved in classes, start doing exercise (join a gym, start jogging) - these all help.
#137 - On 07/03/2009 at 11:34am by Heavenguard
I love how ALL of the douchebags reply to comment on the TOP......just to be noticed.
OP;; Yeahhh. I found my source too. My whole family.
#140 - On 07/03/2009 at 1:16pm by ISeeStarsBitchh
Heh... my parents act the exact same way.
Which is way you should try finding your own health insurance, because - like my parents - if they laugh at that, the only person who'll take care of you is YOURSELF.
#141 - On 07/03/2009 at 4:54pm by xTIGERxLILYx
Don't blame you parents. I bet if you started going to the gym an hour every day you would feel less depressed. Physical exercise is a great anti depressant
#142 - On 07/03/2009 at 7:21pm by KorbenDeck
holy crap, i have been depressed a few times for long periods of time, and my source is almost always my mother. spend less time with your parents.
#143 - On 07/03/2009 at 7:31pm by triplethreat13
My parents did that to me too. They still do. 15 years later.
#145 - On 07/03/2009 at 10:08pm by kdodoubleg
My parents are the same way. My mom will come in while I'm napping and jokingly ask if I'm depressed. If I say I'm down they blame my husband for beating me (he has never raised a hand to me). It's a shitty cycle, but at least you've identified the problem. Just brush off what your parents say to you and remember that you're better than that. Best of luck to you
#146 - On 07/04/2009 at 5:57am by itooamscrewed
my parents literally just said that
every time i try to tell them i need help they tell me im just a whiny teenager
what the fuck can i do
#149 - On 07/06/2009 at 1:41pm by wildchildxx7
emo does not equal depression. I'm a freaking cheerleader and part of the dumb 'party crew' at our school that everyone tries to get into and everyone thinks i have the perfect life but i suffer from depression. and anxiety. Noone will believe me either. and since i'm in high school and cant pay for my own insurance, i went to my whole family, who said i was full of shit and dramatic. except for my lovely mom. she pulled me aside and suggested i start sleeping around because when she was my age their adoration helped her feel good about herself. she told me to be a slut. depression isnt a joke. i realized i had it when i realized that i didnt take any joy in absolutely anything. i didnt think anything was stupid, or 'conformist', like emo kids. everything just made me fucking sad.
This sounds super dumb but i read romance novels. the more modern ones are alot of times funny and have very happy endings and even give me some hope. I dont know why. Just food for thought. I guess it lets me escape my shitty home life and fantisize about actually finding that horribly cliched 'true love'.
Hang in there, and DONT commit suicide. My cousin (who was depressed also) and i joked about suicide, saying it would be so great to not feel anything. To be done with our horrible family. He hung himself two days before he graduated college. it was the most horrible experience of my life, seeing his family at the funeral balling there eyes out.
#153 - On 07/13/2009 at 2:32am by mickeyy
do what i do, get on a site like this and think to yourself, wow... people have shittier lives than i do! oh yeah, the max dose of Effexor helps too :P btw, don't commit suicide, my friend did it, it's the coward's way out and it hurts more people than you can imagine. the survivors wrack themselves with guilt thinking 'why didn't i call?'
#156 - On 08/06/2009 at 9:33am by jables1987
I'm getting quite sick of everyone who is claiming that "emo" = depression.
It doesn't.
Emo: Short for "emotional." Usually used to refer to the clique of teenagers who dress in all black, hide their faces in their hair, and otherwise partake in the fad. Sometimes used to describe the style (such as saying someone has "emo hair.") Used more negatively to refer to teenagers who think they are depressed over little things, whine about life even they they probably have it pretty well, and "accidentally" show everyone the cuts on their wrists that really prove they are "depressed."
Depression: A chemical imbalance in the brain in which the individual does not receive enough of the feel-good chemical serotonin, leading to symptoms such as loss of interest, unexplained sadness, and numerous other negative effects. It is a legitimate mental disorder, meaning that it is difficult, if not impossible, for one to "get over it," "man up," or anything of the sort.
Get it right, please. There's a difference, and unfortunately, because of all the so-called "emo kids" who whine about life and are generally just obnoxious, true depression gets downplayed and shoved into the same boat with the emos.
OP, I'm sorry you have to deal with parents like that. My best friend is clinically depressed; her parents wouldn't believe her until a doctor suggested it. I guess the best thing I can say is try to get the doctor to talk to them, and if they still are like that, try to get away and get some real help.
Dude, I know where you're coming from. I first started dealing with depression when I was a little little kid, third grade I think, but it really picked up in fifth grade, and went on until about a year ago.
My mom and dad just blew it off to me wanting attention (Jesus Christ, it still stings to think about, here I am twelve years old, no friends, crying every day at school and at home, cutting the hell out of my arms, "Oh, she just wants attention she will get over it.") I was screaming for help, both literally and figuratively, their response was to tell me to stop making those noises or *insert what you would tell a toddler who is throwing a fit at a toy store*.
I could write a novel on my experiences as a little kid, but I won't. I'm going to stop now. Though I still harbor some anger at my parents for what I went through, but I realized that they just don't understand, it's not that they care about me, it's not that they don't love me, it was too hard for them to come to terms with the idea that their child could really be going through that, so, they covered it up and basically brainwashed themselves. That's what your parents are doing, there, sadly, isn't anything that you can do about it though. You have to play happy while lifting yourself to your feet on your own, but once you come to terms with that the sky is the limit for you! Good luck.
#158 - On 09/22/2009 at 2:35am by Sparkiee93
