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#21, it's more of a feeling of disrespect and fear. If someone called me beautiful, I would take it as a compliment, but by picking out a certain body type, regardless of the gender, it can make it seem like the person being catcalled only worth his/her body parts. Not only that, but as a person that gets cat called, I can honestly say that when it happens to me I wonder that if that person was brazen enough to say that to me, what else they would do.

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You do know that catcalling isn't as innocent as just saying 'you have beautiful eyes'. It's much more leering and aggressive than that. There's a difference between a compliment and a catcall :-/

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Saying 'you have beautiful eyes' when you're already conversing on the internet is way different from shouting it at people from across the street. Since it's pretty difficult to connect on a personal level via yelling about body parts it's safe to assume their motivations aren't to have a pleasant conversation.

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Is it really so hard for people to hear someone say ' I don't like that comment you yelled at me please stop' and just respect that it's their opinion? Their emotions are not up for debate.

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to those easily getting offended by 21s remarks, just stop. The first thing to happen lately is the down votes by either white knights who down vote comments and obviously speak about the female agenda, or we have women immediately who have to state that *oh you brutish men all you think about is body parts* excuse me ask anyone what thing they love about their husband's/wife's/girlfriend's/boyfriends most attractive qualities and see if anyone doesn't say something that isn't about the body the person loves. there will be ass holed both men and women alike. but how dare you say appreciating any feature of a person's body is bad. sincerely the sane

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if you live life afraid and are so frightened and shaken to the core over something like that, think there's probably internal problems on your end as well as on the one doing cat calling. Take a self defense class

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I'm a girl who loves a nice ass on a man. I hate flat asses where their back goes straight to their legs and the ass is nonexistent. A guys ass should have a little cushion and be able to withstand a light smack. Yeah OP, a nice thick ass is definitely a compliment.

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I totally agree but I live on earth. It's about building one's self-confidence. Being able to take care of ones self and being confident of that fact makes most things in life a non-issue.

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Funny how people feel it's okay to comment on a woman's body, but the instant they realize it's a man, they're apologetic. At least the OP now has a small idea of what it's like to be a woman in a man's world.

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Excepting all the comments on here talking about how "at least you know you have a nice ass", you mean? Catcalling shouldn't happen to anyone, and we shouldn't treat men and women differently when they GET catcalled. If this were a woman, people would be up in arms about how rude it was. Because it's a guy, it's a compliment? No. OP, sorry for the douchenozzles of the world. They don't know when to shut it off, apparently.

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I think that previous FMLs where a woman gets unwanted attention probably have more of those "take it as a complement" comments than this one does. The cat-caller was certainly an ass, but it's something that men don't really have to deal with unless they are mistaken for a woman.

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Yup unfortunately not even women are safe from the 'take the compliment' brigade. You are right that it's a douchey move regardless of gender, but unfortunately it's one of those things that women have to put up with more. More people are speaking out against their douchey friends now though (which is not to be underestimated because it's often engrained in work-place culture) so I think maybe communication and empathy is the way to go rather than equal-opportunities harrassment.

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They don't apologize, but they immediately take it back. It shows disrespect to women. If a woman is catcalled and she looks at the person with an obviously unhappy face, nobody says "oh, you don't like that? Whoops, I take it back!", yet they do for men.

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