OP was probably trying to keep the situation from escalating by not immediately going to her friend.

1) Seeing as OP’s friend is already in disbelief, I can see if that friend has that history of requiring more “proof” for the OP to wait. 2) Sometimes people wait and try to solve the issue themselves by letting the person know their boundaries. (Until it’s doesn’t work, ofc). And believe it not, there is an unfortunate pressure to “not get involved” in someone else’s relationship, or “be the one to ruin it”. Notice that I put these in quotations because I don’t actually believe in it... but we cannot deny this pressure exists. So it naturally may take longer to speak up at times.

**** all that. Escalate that shit.

Well obviously eventually it gets escalated as it should - but if you don’t understand how emotions and situations work as I attempted to explain - then there’s nothing else to say as you won’t understand. Good day!

Agreed...

Dang, if only there were some way to show you agree. They should make a thumbs up or thumbs down option!

I would let her know. she may get mad but honesty is always the best. better to be honest at the beginning it's it's better than her finding out later. if she chooses to end your friendship at least u can know u did the right thing

It sounds good in theory, but practically speaking your friend is always going to associate you with the cheating no matter how innocent you really are. It makes no rational sense, but that's how things go. I don't think the OP is so innocent since he sent her lots of content.

The reality is: you never want to be the messenger. Even if you just witness your friend's SO cheating, you only lose by informing them. You think you're being the good friend, but that blows up in your face. In this case, it looks like the OP tolerated his bad behavior for a while, so the friend might not think she's so innocent.