im not one of those people but im gonna say it.. time to get a new boyfriend. yes, sex isnt everything. yes, some might see it as a shallow/trivial thing. im looking more at the fact that you've already tried to communicate and tell him what you want, only to be shut down. Thats where you need to get a new person.

Your boyfriend is a selfish d*ck, both figuratively and literally. Dump him, move on and don't look back.

It's called lack of effort and commitment to sexual arousal, including a pinch of selfishness. You got some options here: - Return the same effort he gives off - Give him ZERO sexual attention - Make him jealous with self pleasure like a vibrator - Threaten to peg him (assuming he doesn't like it)

Then don't give him a BJ then

Next time you give him head, put on a timer.

Sweetie he's not tired. He's selfish.

Give him both for a minute each then say that since he's obviously not too tired for either, you deserve more foreplay first.

He's too tired??? Nope. He's too lazy.