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By perfectmoment - 30/11/2009 00:47 - Canada

Today, I called my boyfriend to have a shoulder to cry on because my grandpa died. As soon as I told him, he started crying and telling me how much he missed his grandmother, who died six years ago. I spent the majority of the phone call listening to him wail. FML
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caticaticati 3

You add the 'who died six years ago' as if that changes how much it sucks to lose someone. Sometimes my friends' facebook statuses say something about their grandmas/grandpas/other close family dying, and I get really upset thinking about my grandma that died in a car accident 2 years ago. And anytime anyone tries to talk about a car accident they were in, I get upset as well. Some people are sensitive and it's possible that your boyfriend was really close to his grandma, or that he bottled up his emotions after her death and has a hard time dealing with them now. It sucks that you didn't exactly get the comfort you wanted, but at least you have someone who can relate to you and help you. When my boyfriend and I met, we got to talking about the car accident I was in (the one my grandma died in) within the first week of dating - it was only 7 months after it happened and I started getting kind of upset talking about it. My not-yet-boyfriend then told me that he had lost his grandpa earlier in that year - it helped me to know know that I now knew someone who had been through what I had been through in some sense. Try to be understanding and arrange a day for your boyfriend and yourself to get together and talk about memories and such - I'm sure it will be helpful for both of you. I'm very sorry for your loss. I suggest finding a grief group - they're really helpful sometimes.

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polico_wolf 0

so? I know somebody who's grandma died when they were 4 (they're 22 now) and they are still sad sometimes. So its ok for you to cry but not for him? And let me guess: you weren't sad anymore?

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toongirl 4

All those people saying the OP is a bitch for being upset that her boyfriend turned the conversation around to his, much older, loss, how would you feel? Can you honestly say you wouldn't get annoyed if you rang someone for support and they started telling you about how they were in the same situation 6 years ago? I doubt it. OP, not sure it's an FML but I can understand why you were upset with/taken aback by his response. There's no reason you can't share your grief a bit later on but at the time you need to talk, not worry about someone else.

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jdawg2010 0

awww! so what? he was probably gonna spend the majority of the time listening to u wail! that's so sweet. ydi.

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neonpanda44 0

I don't see how this is a FML. You are in a relationship with him, you two are supposted to be there for eachother, you can't expect him to be there for you if you aren't there for him. Not everything is about you hun.

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Daecious 0

F his life for having a girlfriend that thought the worst part of her grandpas death was that it brought up bad memories for him.

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shopfitch 7

You two are supposed to listen to each other. Perhaps no one was there to listen to him when his grandmother passed away.

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fml_mu 10

So what? Maybe he is an emotional guy. Maybe this was to make you strong enough so that you could comfort him thus forgetting your pain. :)

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sezzle17 11

I hate people that make everything about them :(

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