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By perfectmoment - 30/11/2009 00:47 - Canada

Today, I called my boyfriend to have a shoulder to cry on because my grandpa died. As soon as I told him, he started crying and telling me how much he missed his grandmother, who died six years ago. I spent the majority of the phone call listening to him wail. FML
I agree, your life sucks 33 570
You deserved it 5 997

Same thing different taste

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caticaticati 3

You add the 'who died six years ago' as if that changes how much it sucks to lose someone. Sometimes my friends' facebook statuses say something about their grandmas/grandpas/other close family dying, and I get really upset thinking about my grandma that died in a car accident 2 years ago. And anytime anyone tries to talk about a car accident they were in, I get upset as well. Some people are sensitive and it's possible that your boyfriend was really close to his grandma, or that he bottled up his emotions after her death and has a hard time dealing with them now. It sucks that you didn't exactly get the comfort you wanted, but at least you have someone who can relate to you and help you. When my boyfriend and I met, we got to talking about the car accident I was in (the one my grandma died in) within the first week of dating - it was only 7 months after it happened and I started getting kind of upset talking about it. My not-yet-boyfriend then told me that he had lost his grandpa earlier in that year - it helped me to know know that I now knew someone who had been through what I had been through in some sense. Try to be understanding and arrange a day for your boyfriend and yourself to get together and talk about memories and such - I'm sure it will be helpful for both of you. I'm very sorry for your loss. I suggest finding a grief group - they're really helpful sometimes.

so? I know somebody who's grandma died when they were 4 (they're 22 now) and they are still sad sometimes. So its ok for you to cry but not for him? And let me guess: you weren't sad anymore?

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Psycho_Babydoll 26

I hate that.. my ex is a bit like that. If I have a headache, he has a brain tumour. If I'm sick, he's dying. That just sucks OP.

Perrydox 5

So you complain about him when you wanted to do the same thing?

TeenageAvatar 0

Well you can't be a hypocrite as you were planning to do the same. Although he may have strayed the subject from you, it doesn't mean you a should break up with him. He knows how you feel about the death of grand parent.

Ok little warning: Unpopular opinion coming up! His grandmother died over six years ago. That's a VERY long time to still be grieving about the inevitable. People get old and people die! That's live! Everyone looses a grandparent eventually (including myself) but there is no point in infinitely grieving over their loss. Why not celebrate their memory instead. I know for a fact that my grandfather (whom I loved very much btw) wouldn't want me to be sad about his death until the end of days. Of course I miss him. Of course sometimes I get sad that he isn't there anymore, but then I remember all the things we did together, the time we spent together and I'm happy again. Breaking down over a loss that happened six years ago is a little extreme! He should've been there for his girlfriend who experienced such a loss just a few days ago!!!

DogSavior 6

All these ******* faggots saying the boy is selfish. What the ****? Calm down pussy pricks it alright for 2 people to mourn together.

EmDizzle2007 28

kinda tough rough, but still classic