I think op's wife not cumming might be the cause of this fml in the first place.

Or she's getting it elsewhere.

Well, that is pretty much a nonstarter. But it would be worth a bit of counseling to find out what went wrong so you don't make that mistake again.

You're ten years older than me and this is your advice? Dump her? Did it never accured to you that maybe OP's wife says such cold things because she doesn't feel loved when she has sex? Heck, I'm not even married and yet sometimes I feel like my only role during sex is being a spermbucket, and yes, that feeling makes a coldhearted bitch from me.

#37- Although feeling like a "sperm bucket" i'm sure is not pleasent, it's gotta be better than a "cum dumpster", right? As a man, I gotta say, sometimes I feel like face palming myself over my gender sometimes. You have my sympathy.

Or OP's wife could be on her period...

Period really isn't an excuse. There's places like a shower and various other places they could do it and be fine. I still think that a. She's getting it elsewhere and has lost attraction to her husband. Or b. She's lost her own self worth and doesn't want to do it with anyone.

Djeepee - Don't you know that divorce is the answer to everything these days? Wife not in the mood? Divorce. Husband makes an off-colour joke? Divorce. Hang nail? Divorce. Leaky roof? Divorce! I think that's just what kids are exposed to nowadays. The real meaning behind marriage has been diluted beyond recognition by idiots like Kim Kardashian and Britney Spears who will marry anyone for any reason and divorce just as quickly.

I have to agree with 59...I think she's most likely getting it elsewhere, or lost her own self worth somewhere...now I'm NOT one to advocate for the divorce scenario, but if she is indeed fooling around then something should be done before OP loses his self worth by staying with a useless cheating partner who will eventually leave him feeling emasculated.

Not to mention the risks to OP's health if his wife is screwing around on him and she and her paramour are not using condoms. Also, if she gets pregnant? In some (many? most?) U.S. states, the husband is legally the father of any child conceived during the marriage, with all the financial, legal, and moral responsibility that that entails, regardless of who the actual biological father is. The laws on this mostly date to before biological parentage was easy to establish via DNA testing.

@DocBastard Yeah, those people are doing way more to cheapen marriage than two men, or two women, who want to get married.

But Doc...He's thirty years old. I expect people his age to teach people my age what marriage is about, not the other way around... 59, you forgot option c) she doesn't want to spend time into sex because it doesn't satisfy her enough. To be honest, I think this is the big reason why many women lose their interest in sex, not because they are cheating, not because they have a low self-esteem (that's what you meant, right?), but because it's merely satisfying the needs of their spouse while their own needs are forgotten.

@84 I guess option c is possible but I definitely wouldn't be marrying anyone in the first place if the sex with them was that bad...

37, Dumping her is probably not the best choice, but there's no justification for what she said. I also take this to mean that she will never have sex with him, and not that she just doesn't feel like it tonight. If it's the latter he needs to harden the **** up.

Nicole, you do realize that sex changes in a relationship, right? It's not because the sex is superawesome when you're one year together, it still is when you're with eachother for twenty years. Even the most awesome things can get boring - if you don't spice it up once in a time, that is.

Why is it per say OP's fault? The problem could just as easily be her. I mean who flat out tells their loved one that?

Or in the shed surrounded with power tools and concrete blocks. Oooaarrrr