Today, my wife is treating me like I'm the devil, all because I refused to go on medication that would kill my sex drive, just so she wouldn't have to deal with me actually wanting to make love more than once a year. FML
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A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my wife told me she had stopped taking her anti-depressants a month ago in hopes of increasing her non-existent sex drive. I asked her if it had helped, and was about to suggest she start taking them again for her own wellbeing. She replied with, "Anyway, I'm just not attracted to you." FML
Today, my wife always told me she loved sex too much to ever give it up. I don’t know what’s happened recently but she’s now angry for no reason, bitter at the world, makes me suffer just for existing, and yes, she’s cancelled all intimacy and sex for the foreseeable future. FML
Today, my wife asked why I was so grumpy. I admitted that I was horny and sexually frustrated. She went on an hour long tirade about how I "shouldn't need sex to not be a jerk" and how I need to handle my own needs. FML
Today, my wife flat out refuses to have sex with me, ever. Most days it's "What have you done to earn sex?" then when I point out all I do (pay bills, work hard, take care of her, the kids and the house) it's, "Oh, so that means I owe you sex?" I even got that excuse on my birthday. FML
Today, my wife accused me of using her for sex. I'd only just admitted to her two days ago that I've been struggling to get it up to try and perform, after a hospital stay and a month of almost no sexual contact. FML
Today, I was told I should try treating my wife the way she treats me when I seek out her affection, so she can see how bad it hurts. Not only could I never do that to her, but that would require her attempting to show me even the simplest form of affection. FML
Today, I felt so rejected by my wife that I can't help myself but feel like shit. She has bipolar, is on medication, yet she makes me feel so little that emotionally and physically that I've started to feel like a failure. No intimacy, shitty behaviour, complaining all the time. Man, I wish I could end it all. FML
Today, I tried to talk to my wife about our lack of sex lately. Apparently, her therapist told her that her high libido and eagerness to experiment came from her early childhood issues, so now she's working through her trauma and will never want sex again. FML
Today, my wife screamed at me, calling me a "useless, ungrateful piece of crap", all because I wouldn't have sex with her, despite hours of her nagging. I said no because I've been laid-up in bed for the past week waiting on surgery for an excruciatingly painful hernia. FML
Today, after close to 10 years of marriage, my wife’s health has improved enough she is craving sex again. Just not with me. FML
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Wizardo 34
That's make you a libido and her a libidont.
alitairi 18
or it'll piss her off and make her reduce her sexual output to once every 3 years
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Comments (118)
ShleeG 23
Is your wife asexual?
aldoshoes 4
A SEXUAL MACHINE!
alovest2015 5
Not all asexuals don't have sex. Asexuals don't experience sexual attraction to the s.o. A lot of us will have sex at the minimum for our significant others.
Weasely 11
Asexual is a really "trendy" term to label people now. But she could just have a low sex drive. Or is inexperienced with sex, and maybe he isn't good at pleasuring her, or who knows.
waleedma 18
Seems her personality is already a sex killer!!!
masschris 17
**** it cheat on her with her best friend
Chazzster 32
Was your wife always like this or is this more recent? If her lack of sexual interest is recent you both need to figure out why. Either you work it out with your wife or you divorce her - Sex is part of the glue that holds relationships together. Frankly I suspect the later is the more likely eventual result.
Flyndaran 10
Wow. Denigrating other people's feelings, love, and realtionships so blatantly is very narrow minded. OP's problem has NOTHING to do with sex. It's the wife acting childish and demanding someone take drugs for no medical reason, but only HER convenience.
Brandi_Faith 34
91, we have absolutely no idea what is really going on in this situation. It sounds like there's a whole lot more to the story and that the "once a year" was most likely an exaggeration. For all we know the wife could be severely depressed, have an illness, or is taking meds or something else that is decreasing her libido and is sick of her husband begging to have sex all the time even though he knows she is having issues. I'm not saying what she did is right, I'm just saying it sounds like there's a whole lot more to this story. I personally think the wife needs to try and go on a medication to increase her sex drive and try and find out what is at the root of her low sex drive, seeing as sex is such an important part of a healthy marriage.
Leviathene 34
I'm curious as to whether or not the pills are specifically for OP's sex drive, or just a side effect. Like OP's wife, I had a low sexual interest, mine was caused by stress. I wouldn't blame the wife or the husband for either reaction. I am thankful that the doctor didn't force me to take pills to "correct" my libido. I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend (the main cause of my stress and anxiety), and since then, I have returned to normal. Go figure.
Chazzster 32
When men get to middle age they often have prostate problems resulting in urination problems. The first line medication for that is Flowmax. Once that is no longer effective the next medication that gets added is Proscar. It's the Proscar that causes a man to almost completely lose his sex drive and may cause E. D. problems. I know, I've been there. There are herbal supplements that together with the Flowmax that can give relief for the original prostate problem without killing the penis.
KingPinkiepie 15
She's either an asexual or she's getting some elsewhere
Steve95401 49
She might just be spending time with B.O.B.
Rababco 29
She could also have a medical issue that decreases her sex drive.
brezzyanna 17
@25 but then shouldn't she be the one taking medication?
pjsr 33
Since there is no such thing as pills specifically to kill sex drive, OP's wife wants him to take the medication he's been prescribed. Not everyone reacts the same way to meds, and they have to list all the side effects, even if they only affect a small percentage. OP needs to try them. If indeed, they cause lowered libido, return to your physician and go from there to find a solution.
pygmyfrog 31
There are specific drugs to blunt sex drive, but they are usually only prescribed if a person has deviant sex drives (paraphilia) eg. paedophiles, fetishists. Which makes me wonder why the wife is requesting he take it; if it's only because of her own low libido, that needs to be discussed and a compromise reached between them.
hashle 15
I seriously seriously doubt that his wife is asking him to take these. Go back and read the post. Does it not sound like a teenager leaving something out to not get in trouble with their parents or to get friends on their side? That's exactly what it sounds like to me.
CoffeeChickBlows 13
That's weird, #54. All I'm getting from your post is "I'm a woman and OP's a woman too. That means I have to defend her no matter what!!!" which seems to be rampant on FML. Yay for assumptions!
Unenunciable 14
#61, why do you have to be the jerk who took it from being a reasonable to discussion to a jibe about her being someone who "has to step in and have an opinion, JUST BECAUSE she's a woman," which sounds like "Taking down a Feminist 101" bull to me. Let people express their opinions without making woman-specific insults your counterargument, that's just a really cheap argument.
CoffeeChickBlows 13
You think it's reasonable to accuse OP of lying by omission and saying he sounds like a teenager who's leaving stuff out of the story so he looks like the good guy? And my comment was the one you jumped on, while you didn't have a single problem with Hashle's? Gee, I wonder why. Oh, and "feminism" didn't enter my thoughts at all when I wrote my comment. I might be wrong about Hashle's reasons for supporting OP's somewhat abusive sounding wife, but I've noticed there is a trend of people jumping to the defense of their own gender even when the story's pretty clear and even when it takes serious mental gymnastics to justify the defense. I'm not saying OP's wife is obligated to put out, but you have to be a nutjob if you think her attitude isn't unjustifiably controlling and damn near abusive.
dannidoll93 24
Seems quite natural to relate more and sympathise with your your own gender. Science does say we have more empathy for those similar to us. Why put feminism in quotation marks as though it isn't a real thing?
CoffeeChickBlows 13
I put it in quote marks because her comment had nothing to do with feminism in the first place. I've got no idea why you assumed I was implying it's not a "real thing". That's almost as hyper defensive as Unenunciable's "taking down a feminist 101" comment. And there's a huge difference between empathizing a little more with your own gender, and jumping to ridiculous conclusions about someone based on no real evidence, like Hashle did. I'm surprised I actually have to point that out. Anyway, I've been bitchy enough for one day, so I'll quit it.
9a_z1 11
Unless it's serious, I think public complaints about personal relationship issues are trashy anyway (though of course it's fun to read them) so I'm already inclined not to side with a poster if there's massive gaps in their story. Like the whole question of where this medication is coming from is.
Chazzster 32
There are multiple medications that have the side effect that it can kill sex for a male. That is not the intended effect, but it us a very real side effect. Antidepressants can kill the ability to have an ******. Some prostate medications can cause the loss of a man's six drive and/or the ability to have an erection. There are alternatives to most of these or ways to minimize the problems - But these are very real indeed!
Prairydawg 6
Never screw anybody that doesn't want it as much as you do
captainsmegma 12
Save the money on the pills and rent some pussy.
dragoongirl90 34
Bitch doesn't love you.
Internetflakes 13
That's ridiculous. You don't need sexual contact to love someone, #33.
dragoongirl90 34
For romantic love, you do.
RinoaHeartilly 36
No, you don't. Love is a deeper emotion than just physical desire.
the_real_dvd 21
I'm with you dragongirl. If you love someone, you want to please them and satisfy them. If her sex drive is that low, it's her that should be seeing a therapist or on medication. If she's selfishly holding out- she don't love him. Sex isn't the only thing to a relationship, but it is important.
GhostFox 34
If you think that someone being in love with you means they should have to have sex with you when they don't want to have sex is okay, you need to look up the term 'coercive rape.' Consent is supposed to be given willingly, not given because of veiled threats of cheating or leaving, which is what you are suggesting. Just because someone is married to you doesn't make going "prove you love me by letting me **** you after I've said you don't want to" any less disgusting and creepy than it would be if it was a boy/girl pressuring their boy/girlfriend the same way. People would find the second morally corrupt, yet somehow they think that marriage is a blanket statement of consent. People who are coercively raped by their spouse have enough issues having what happened to them acknowledged, let alone taken seriously. Marriage does not remove a person's right to say no and have that declination honored.