Today, my mom told me she wouldn't be able to leave my middle-aged brother at home for Christmas in order to meet her first grandchild. FML
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Today, my mum told me she would rather spend Christmas with her boyfriend than with her own family. FML
Today, I told my future MIL that we couldn't see her on Christmas because I have to work that day passing out gifts to elderly patients, but that I would call off work to travel to see her any day after. That isn't good enough, so she asked my fiance to spend Christmas without me. FML
Today, my mother told me that I could take a friend on vacation with us. Then she added that because I have no friends, my brother can bring his girlfriend instead. FML
Today, my mother called to uninvite me from Christmas, my ex-wife is going and she doesn't want it to be awkward for her. FML
Today, I told my mom for the third time that I won’t be able to attend her husband's family Christmas party because it’s on my birthday. She won’t take no for an answer, and I just don’t want to spend my whole birthday in a car for an 8-hour drive there and back. FML
Today, my mother-in-law told me to "just wait" until she gets home from her trip, because apparently, taking a vacation with her partner is more important than the birth of her first grandchild. Contractions started a few hours ago. Part of me hopes she misses it. FML
Today, my mom is coming to pick up the Christmas presents we got for her and her husband. She won’t come inside or come within 6 feet, so she can be healthy when she goes down to the ex-wife’s parents house to hang out. The ex in-laws that hate me. Glad my mom chose them over me. FML
Today, besides the fact that I hate Christmas since my parents divorced, my mom told me she can't come this year with my sister because of no money. We even offered to pay for their tickets, but she won't come because of the "last minute" stress. Fuck this year. FML
Today, my mom had to go off on my grandmother because I don’t have kids yet and she, "wants great grand babies before she dies." My grandmother was going to gift me a baby outfit for me to get another hint. I’m 25 and can’t conceive because of health issues. I may never have my own kids. She knows. FML
Today, my family cancelled coming for Christmas again for the third time in four years. I only get to see my son for a few hours in the morning, then I'll be on my own the whole time. Again. FML
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PineapplePizza 15
Unless your brother has some sort of disability that does not allow for him to be alone for extended periods of time, she just chose him over you and your new baby and she needs to know how upset that makes you. A middle age man can take care of himself. If he can't, that is 100 percent her fault and she needs to give him a sink or swim moment.
sarcasmismyno1 22
So then why can't she take him with?
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Comments (23)
Bassam24 21
your middle aged brother needs to grow up
PineapplePizza 15
Unless your brother has some sort of disability that does not allow for him to be alone for extended periods of time, she just chose him over you and your new baby and she needs to know how upset that makes you. A middle age man can take care of himself. If he can't, that is 100 percent her fault and she needs to give him a sink or swim moment.
IceWrath 22
Yeah, if he had a disability then it would be understandable but other than that, the woman has her priorities wrong and the brother should grow up. I'm disabled and when my sister gave birth to her first baby, my mum couldn't travel to be there for the birth because she couldn't leave me alone and I've always felt extraordinarily guilty for it. The birth of a baby, especially a new grandchild is very important and emotional event that my mum couldn't witness because of me.
creditless 14
your brother is debilitated?
sarcasmismyno1 22
So then why can't she take him with?
Mangascribbler 19
Maybe OP prefers not to see her brother? It seems like there's already some family weirdness in this situation.
Odin1624 12
Barring and disabilities this is a dick move picking your brother over you and your newborn
Namenlos_fml 20
Then the FML would read, "Today, I found out I'll be alone at Christmas because my sister won't visit, effectively forcing my parents to go to them. I'd go too, but [wasn't invited, can't fly, can't get out of work or some other compelling reason]. FML" The parents seem to be in a tough spot either way, so they made a tough choice.
Dat_Class_Tho 26
@28: First, it's a lot easier/cheaper for a single middle aged man to travel on a plane than for a family of 3 or more that includes a newborn and a woman who's still recovering from childbirth (yes, that can sometimes take months). Second, who said the brother wasn't invited? He may have been the one that forced his mother to choose by refusing to go. He might just hate kids. Or hates flying. Or hates his sister. Or just hates seeing other people happy because he's 40+ and still living with his mother. Third, if he wasn't invited- there may have been good reason. For all we know, he's not allowed around the child because he's an abusive drunk. Fourth, the brother has had at least 40 Christmas celebrations with his mother already. The baby has had zero. He can't give up ONE Christmas?
trucker2 33
Tell her to bring him along if he is disabled-if not mail her some scissors to cut her own cord.. Congrats to you and your little one.
Bliepje 22
disabled or not (and I believe not or else OP wouldn't complain) I would want my brother to see my baby as well
DoomedGemini 38
Not everyone has good relationships with siblings though. If op doesn't want to see her brother that's up to her
hailunicorns 9
I feel like OP would understand if their brother had a disability.
crimson_roxy 23
I feel as if maybe some information is missing. My older middle aged brother is mentally handicapped and can't be left unsupervised and can't travel from the house. So if I had a kid, my mother wouldn't be able to be present. I'd have to send her a video and take the kid to meet her.
Rabite 28
So how does your mother leave the house then to buy groceries or go to work?
TheYorkieOfDoom 8
Can't your mother get someone to stay with him like a community nurse?
DravensTheName 16
Tell your brother to visit you for Christmas and then she'll have to come see you. Although I doubt you really want to see her after that situation