Today, I told my future MIL that we couldn't see her on Christmas because I have to work that day passing out gifts to elderly patients, but that I would call off work to travel to see her any day after. That isn't good enough, so she asked my fiance to spend Christmas without me. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Same thing different taste
Today, my mom told me she wouldn't be able to leave my middle-aged brother at home for Christmas in order to meet her first grandchild. FML
Bosses gonna boss
Today, I talked to my boss about scheduling my urgently needed surgery. She asked me to wait until after Christmas, and told me that I should use vacation time instead of sick leave. She's also not going to give me the total paid time off my contract specifies, because it's "inconvenient." FML
Today, my manager rejected my leave application for Christmas. Later I found out that I'm going to be the only employee working at the office during Christmas. FML
Today, my girlfriend's dad called to say she wasn't allowed to come with me on a three-day trip on New Year's. He waited until Christmas to say it, even though we booked and paid for the trip nearly a month ago. Now he ruined both holidays. FML
Blue Christmas
Today, my mum told me she would rather spend Christmas with her boyfriend than with her own family. FML
Festive spirit
Today, my mother called to uninvite me from Christmas, my ex-wife is going and she doesn't want it to be awkward for her. FML
Merry sigma grindset!
Today, it's Christmas day. Normally, I'd be spending it with family. However, my boss decided everyone has to work today, despite the fact that there's enough people who want to work to run the place. Apparently it's "fairer" if we all have to do it - except him. FML
Today, I found out that my 2 week Christmas vacation my boss was talking about wasn't for this year, but 2010. I spent the day with my husband cancelling flights to Florida, and explaning to my 8 year old why we were not going to Disney World. FML
I don't wanna!
Today, I told my mom for the third time that I won’t be able to attend her husband's family Christmas party because it’s on my birthday. She won’t take no for an answer, and I just don’t want to spend my whole birthday in a car for an 8-hour drive there and back. FML
Today, my boss asked me if I had any special plans for Christmas. After I told him I was planning a trip to Canada, he snapped, "Well, you can forget it. I need you at the office." FML
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Xcizer 17
Your fiancé should have a talk with her because she clearly doesn't appreciate what you are trying to do.
dannidoll93 24
Thank you for giving up your Christmas to bring joy to others, and sorry your mother in law doesn't appreciate what you're doing. That said, can't your fiancé spend time with his mother until you finish work? Could you join them after your shift? Seems as though there are some work-arounds here (unless MIL is a long distance away in which case I agree she is being unfair)
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Xcizer 17
Your fiancé should have a talk with her because she clearly doesn't appreciate what you are trying to do.
Goblin182 27
Well, it's her daughter. She wants to spend Christmas with her daughter.
dannidoll93 24
What made you decide that OP's fiancé was female? "Fiancé" traditionally is the male spelling (although many people use it for either gender nowadays)
DocNastt 4
what made you decide to reply to that comment.
dannidoll93 24
Curiosity :)
Goblin182 27
There was some one standing beside me (gender is not important here) with a gun to my head and told me to my head and told me to post as if the fiancé was a female. Its her child, she wants to spend time with her child. Better?
MamaChey 24
Some people get off on pointing out others' mistakes in grammar or comprehension on this site...happens all the time. I just figure that they don't have anything more interesting to post.
SteelSoul5 9
Grammar Nazis
magicdust95 31
She wants to spend time with her son. Probably is a tradition. Let your fiancé decide for himself
usnwife 18
Tradition or not, unless literally working ALL day, I would be very hurt if my fiance chose to travel to spend the day with his mom instead of me. The post made it sound like OP will still have time off, just not able to travel... I have had many holidays where we celebrated early or late, OP shouldn't have to be without the person she is about to marry. Unless previously discussed or I was working all day, there would be some serious discussions before moving on with the wedding if my fiance picked his mom over me...
neuronerd 29
It sounded like it was a day trip kind of travel. If OP will be busy all day, she would be leaving her fiance alone for most of the day as well. Why shouldn't her future mother in law and her fiancé get to spend the day together, instead of both of them being alone?
usnwife 18
Day trip, sure, but the way I read it, it sounded like more... I mean, it depends on their relationship and if it had been talked about in advance, etc, and Im not saying Id leave him or prevent him from seeing his mom or whatever, but if we're getting married I would expect him to not just up and go leaving me alone if I have a significant part of the day off because his mom didn't want to be alone. If he could go the whole time I was working and come home, or if I was only off a short time that'd be different. Like I said, depends on how far, how long Id work, and what previous arrangements/expectations were. There really isnt a ton of info in the post...
tantanpanda 26
Actually, there's a lot to go off of. OP said she couldn't visit that day but could any other day. This implies that OP cannot go at all on that day. If she just had a morning shift, there's always an afternoon trip, but since it's not possible, you could throw out this scenario. Sounds like OP has some sort of nursing job, which are usually 12 hour shifts anyway. OP should probably just let the fiance decide. If he decides to go, don't hold it against him for not wanting to spend the whole day alone. OP can always come to visit the day after and they can all spend time together, just not on Christmas. Mind you, this is basically what OP had asked the mother in law to do. This is a grey area topic and you can't just point fingers at the mother in law. There are inferences to draw from the fml, so you can't really say there's not enough info.
youdon'tknowme 9
Thank you for being a rational person on the Internet. If they are already living together and acting like spouses/partners, I might understand a bit more, but if not, then they don't have those formal ties yet. I can't imagine sitting home alone on Christmas away from my family while my fiance worked. Knowing my husband and myself, in that situation he would have gone on ahead, enjoyed timec with his family, I would have joined a soon as possible, and at that time ib could have opened my gifts and given others there. Maybe we would have all eaten somewhere special to make up for the Christmas meal I missed.
fushengyuan 20
You are a wonderful person! Marry Christmas!
masterreader878 12
Wait, let me get this straight? Are you saying OP's fiance is Christmas? Now, that makes me very curious as to who OP's mother is.
URBeingLied2 23
I was completely distracted by OP being too lazy to type out mother-in-law.
usnwife 18
These posts do have a character limit...
almost_there44 26
But somehow you still figured out who OP was referring to.
cchamberlin1 13
A bit hypocritical to shit on someone for using an acronym when the term OP is an acronym, eh?
Ultimate_Batman 28
That sucks OP. Ah well. You don't need her negativity this Christmas anyway
kenyrabit 25
It sounds like the plan was to work that day, so mom's just making sure fiance has some company.
mssileas 25
Well your schedule isn't technically her fault. For some people it's important to celebrate Christmas ON Christmas Day, also why should your fiance stay when you're working anyway...?
allforfun 23
Two things about working in healthcare: you will have to work holidays and not everyone else is going to understand or accept that. I miss all kinds of holiday functions but I don't expect everyone else to put their holiday on hold just because I have to work.
Zoom10124 13
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