Today, my mom hates my grandmother (her mother-in-law) so much that she's trying to guilt me into not visiting her when I come home for Thanksgiving. I wouldn't be coming home for Thanksgiving in the first place, but my grandmother bought me the plane ticket. FML
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Thanksgiving
Questions about your love life, a burnt turkey and the cousin who knows everything: Thanksgiving, a contact sport.
Today, I visited my in-laws, whom I thought I was on great terms with. I soon learned that wasn't the case when my mother-in-law yelled at me about how I've been abusing her for years. Ten minutes later, she hugged me and asked me for grandkids. FML
Today, my grandmother hates me. So much so that I've become a rotten, desperate, and overall evil person with no thoughts and considerations towards other people. My family doesn't know this, but I can never undo the damage she has done to me since birth (as she raised me). I only care about my own well-being, nothing else. FML
Today, after being repeatedly talked into meeting my mother and grandmother for lunch, when they were done they tried to convince me to let my grandmother move into my house, for the second time in a year. FML
Today, I already hate the holidays. My mom has been trying to be helpful, but has severe undiagnosed memory problems that our family ignores. They've also ignored all the house repairs, but have no problem consoling her while she cries how mean I am for missing her party, because I used my vacation time to fix the house. FML
Today, I found out my mom booked me a flight to stay with relatives who I don't like, and who don't like me. I leave in two days, and don't return until the day before school starts. FML
Today, my mom is coming to pick up the Christmas presents we got for her and her husband. She won’t come inside or come within 6 feet, so she can be healthy when she goes down to the ex-wife’s parents house to hang out. The ex in-laws that hate me. Glad my mom chose them over me. FML
Today, my mother tried guilt-tripping me about coming home for the holidays by explaining that, “according to average life expectancy,” she and my father could be dead in the next 10-25 years. I’m already coming home for the holidays. She knows this. FML
Today, my mother not only told me that my ex-husband will be spending Thanksgiving with her and my dad, but that I'm also no longer invited to spend the holiday with my family. FML
Today, I went over to confront my parents about how my siblings always get to visit and all I do when I’m over is work on their house or take care of grandma. My mom was very upset. Then she snuck out with my sister, leaving me to take care of grandma until she got back. FML
Today, my mother-in-law yelled from across the house for me to come quickly. She sounded frantic, so I rushed and asked what was wrong. She said, "Nothing." and that she just wanted to remind me that she hates my guts. She'll be living here with me and my wife for the next two months. FML
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MDoremis 38
You're an adult (I'm assuming) and can make your own decisions. Don't let her guilt you into anything.
Rawrshi 25
Fight her.
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Rawrshi 25
Fight her.
Lalala579121 28
I bet the grandma is a member of Hell's Grannies so she's a tough customer.
MonstreBelle 29
I don't remember much from my early childhood, but I know I wouldn't want to face granny in a fight.
Dalboz 26
I'm trying to understand just how the hell can you guilt trip someone into not visiting his grandma
MsFit 17
23- The only thing I can think of is OP's mom giving some sort of ultimatum about OP loving either her or the grandmother. Maybe saying something along the lines of "if you really loved me, you wouldn't be visiting someone you know I hate and spending your time with her knowing that it hurts me." But that's a situation similar to one that happened in my family recently, so I may be way off base.
leogachi 15
@29 Wow, that's awful. I would have responded with, "If you really love me then you wouldn't try to keep me from seeing someone I care about. Until you decide to stop trying to force me to choose your side, I won't be speaking with you."
Hiimhaileypotter 53
#29, that's the same kind of shit my parents attempt to put me through. That's also part of why I moved out of their house and away from them as soon as humanly possible when I turned 18. Now that I'm not with them 24/7, our relationship has actually gotten better (if only slightly). Hope your situation gets better!
MsFit 17
43- I'm sorry you have to deal with that. No one should ever have to. It's good that you moved out, though. Sometimes the relationship between kids and their parents is better off having some distance. Thank you. Unfortunately, it's my sister's husband giving her that ultimatum about me. He hates me because I have been talking to my sister about leaving him before his abuse escalates further. He seems to think I'm the one who told her to leave him, when in reality she came to me and said she wants to make a plan to leave him when she feels safe enough to. Hopefully things will be resolved soon so that she can start over and finally have a chance at the happy, peaceful life she deserves
pabj208 23
Guilt games can work both ways......
MDoremis 38
You're an adult (I'm assuming) and can make your own decisions. Don't let her guilt you into anything.
ebonykatee 11
Just 'forget' to go to your mums place
Accurate_Vision 31
Her rivalries are her rivalries, not yours. Don't let her thoughts and feelings get in the way of your life and who you visit. You love your grandmother, she doesn't. Tough luck for her, you're gonna see your grandmother.
mezochan 29
Go see your grandmother. You have nothing to do with their beef and your grandma would love to see you, seeing as she bought your ticket to go home.
cheeeksss 29
No matter how much I hate someone, I would never convince others to side with me and gang up on him/her. It's so childish; your mother should be ashamed of her actions. It's Thanksgiving for goodness sake, you should be allowed to see all of your family, including your grandmother.
OSMC 10
if a mother is that kind of person, shes a shitty mother
leogachi 15
@20 Agreed. If I were Op, I'd probably stay away from my mother this Thanksgiving.
restinpepperonis 13
It wouldn't be thanksgiving without the whole family!
tintin10_fml 13
if you don't go and visit your grandmother youvmay as well go back to where you came from and rot.
catanita 18
Go visit and spent as much time with her as you can. Once she will be gone there will be noting to do about it and you might regret it. I know i do.