Today, my mother tried guilt-tripping me about coming home for the holidays by explaining that, “according to average life expectancy,” she and my father could be dead in the next 10-25 years. I’m already coming home for the holidays. She knows this. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, I called my mom to let her know I was coming home for my upcoming birthday, as I haven’t seen my parents in months. She then stated she hated my birthday because it reminded her she was getting older, and they may have preexisting plans that evening anyways. Really feeling the family love… FML
Today, I already hate the holidays. My mom has been trying to be helpful, but has severe undiagnosed memory problems that our family ignores. They've also ignored all the house repairs, but have no problem consoling her while she cries how mean I am for missing her party, because I used my vacation time to fix the house. FML
Today, my mother bitched me out for not coming to my sister's birthday tomorrow. She's 25 and lives at home, and she, my mother, and father all have Covid. FML
Today, my mom hates my grandmother (her mother-in-law) so much that she's trying to guilt me into not visiting her when I come home for Thanksgiving. I wouldn't be coming home for Thanksgiving in the first place, but my grandmother bought me the plane ticket. FML
Today, my mother was guilting my wife and I for freezing embryos as a delay tactic to deny her grandchildren. Fed up, I told her, "Why don't you throw in a 'You'll miss me when I'm dead' to finish this guilt trip?" Now, she's crying and my father wants to murder me. FML
Today, I want the holidays to be over. My mom's family thinks I'm an ungrateful brat and a troublemaker because I don't want to see my relatives who are constantly in jail, between jobs, drunk, owing child support, and trash talking the people who lovingly raised me and who died years ago. I only come for my brother. FML
Today, my mom is coming to pick up the Christmas presents we got for her and her husband. She won’t come inside or come within 6 feet, so she can be healthy when she goes down to the ex-wife’s parents house to hang out. The ex in-laws that hate me. Glad my mom chose them over me. FML
Today, after losing my father a little over 6 months ago, and finally feeling comfortable talking to my fiancé (who lives with me and my family) about it, my mother forced her way into the room and started yelling at me for crying. Her excuse, "It’s after your bedtime." I’m 20. FML
Today, I’m an adult and my mother lives with me, not me with her. She found out I was going to be gone for 9 days on vacation and that she couldn’t come, so she had a “mental break down” and checked herself into a psych ward. Last year, she did the same thing when I graduated college and celebrated it. FML
Today, my mom made the (not) very wise decision to once again inform me that my grandma is in rapidly declining health, and as a result she is not long for this world. My brain took this as an opportunity to push my anxiety into overdrive. I can't stop thinking about what will happen when my grandma dies. FML
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JasonThorn 23
"So...you're trying to tell me I've got some TIME. A couple of DECADES, by your reckoning. I'LL BE SURE TO KEEP THAT IN MIND."
RichardPencil 32
Well, if they are that close to death, they should probably buy you much more expensive gifts so they can see you enjoy them before they go. Makes sense, right?
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JasonThorn 23
"So...you're trying to tell me I've got some TIME. A couple of DECADES, by your reckoning. I'LL BE SURE TO KEEP THAT IN MIND."
RichardPencil 32
Well, if they are that close to death, they should probably buy you much more expensive gifts so they can see you enjoy them before they go. Makes sense, right?
Chazzster 32
(1) Until Mom learns that you don’t respond to guilt trips she’s going to use that. Ignore every attempt she makes to use that “tool”. If you’re on the phone just say you have to go, say “bye” and hang up. If she calls right back, let it go to voice mail... (2) If mom already knew you were planning to come over, maybe she forgot or she has the beginnings of dementia or Alzheimer’s. Keep an ear and eye open in case dementia or Alzheimer’s is the case.
Rusty Armstrong 13
Maybe she was hunting at you NOT coming home to protect them from covid.
Jonkbaby 23
Parents do get like this as they get older. Do an eyeroll, but also make sure to appreciate the time you do spend with them. And make sure to check in on them