Today, I already hate the holidays. My mom has been trying to be helpful, but has severe undiagnosed memory problems that our family ignores. They've also ignored all the house repairs, but have no problem consoling her while she cries how mean I am for missing her party, because I used my vacation time to fix the house. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, I'm already dreading Christmas. Our mom insists on fairytale-like decorations that everyone else pays for and helps her make. We're exhausted. She's the only one who doesn't have a job, but if we don't help she spends the day crying in her room. FML
Today, I want the holidays to be over. My mom's family thinks I'm an ungrateful brat and a troublemaker because I don't want to see my relatives who are constantly in jail, between jobs, drunk, owing child support, and trash talking the people who lovingly raised me and who died years ago. I only come for my brother. FML
Today, besides the fact that I hate Christmas since my parents divorced, my mom told me she can't come this year with my sister because of no money. We even offered to pay for their tickets, but she won't come because of the "last minute" stress. Fuck this year. FML
Today, like every day for the past two years, my aged mother has sat complaining all day loudly about relatives who call too little or too much, about another package being a few days late, or her laptop and TV not working properly. All while I'm trying to quietly work from home. I'm about ready to jump off a bridge. FML
Today, I’m convinced my mother in law comes over every holiday just to make me miserable. She comes in, criticizes me food, snarks then ignores the kids. I dread every holiday and spend it getting drunk and casting F-you glances at my husband. Is it wrong to buy her a casket for the next holiday? Is it really? FML
Today, my mom once again cried that I never come to visit her. I’ve tried, but her house is just unbearable. It’s always no less than 80°F inside, and she also refuses to clean up. She just burns multiple candles and air fresheners all day to mask the smell. She refuses any cleaning help I offer. FML
Today, I called my mom to let her know I was coming home for my upcoming birthday, as I haven’t seen my parents in months. She then stated she hated my birthday because it reminded her she was getting older, and they may have preexisting plans that evening anyways. Really feeling the family love… FML
Today, I've had my tenth "Christmas" dinner since Christmas last took place. My mum has gone nuts and keeps playing Christmas music, making these dinners, and refusing to let me take down the Christmas decorations. My dad is too whipped to save us from this hell. FML
Today, my mother tried guilt-tripping me about coming home for the holidays by explaining that, “according to average life expectancy,” she and my father could be dead in the next 10-25 years. I’m already coming home for the holidays. She knows this. FML
Today, I've been so stressed out that I forgot my own birthday. I only remembered when my mom talked to me to let me know she wasn't planning on doing anything for it. FML
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Chazzster 32
Chances are your other relatives are aware of Mom’s memory problems and they are just going along with whatever she says instead of arguing with a person with dementia. It’s pointless to argue with a person with dementia. So don’t assume they think you are a bad son because you took care of her needs to have a safe house to live in instead of attending her party. And if they are dumb enough not to be aware of the situation you shouldn’t worry what idiots think. While parties and feelings are nice, having a safe home to live in is really more important and you were a good son to repair Mom’s home. Unfortunately you can never predict what a person with memory issues is going to remember and what they are going to forget.
Hangryko 32
Unless they have financial issues, if they keep taking advantage of you for free house repairs, insist on getting paid. Otherwise, outright refuse. Your mom needs to be assessed by a doctor and possibly placed in long term care, if only to get away from your toxic family.
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RichardPencil 32
The repairs can wait until after the party. Fixing shit doesn't get you cake -- parties do! Where are your priorites, man? It goes: Cake, family, country, deity (optional), celebrities, house, etc. Got it?
Chazzster 32
Chances are your other relatives are aware of Mom’s memory problems and they are just going along with whatever she says instead of arguing with a person with dementia. It’s pointless to argue with a person with dementia. So don’t assume they think you are a bad son because you took care of her needs to have a safe house to live in instead of attending her party. And if they are dumb enough not to be aware of the situation you shouldn’t worry what idiots think. While parties and feelings are nice, having a safe home to live in is really more important and you were a good son to repair Mom’s home. Unfortunately you can never predict what a person with memory issues is going to remember and what they are going to forget.
Hangryko 32
Unless they have financial issues, if they keep taking advantage of you for free house repairs, insist on getting paid. Otherwise, outright refuse. Your mom needs to be assessed by a doctor and possibly placed in long term care, if only to get away from your toxic family.