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Today, my boyfriend decided he's asexual and dumped me on the spot. FML

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garage_fml 18

I mean, yeah, it does suck to be dumped, but if he's really asexual there's not much you can do. Sorry, OP.

stargirl_95 24

Being asexual doesn't necessarily mean that you don't want to be in a romantic relationship. It just means that you have no desire to ever have sex. Plenty of asexuals go on to have healthy sexless romantic relationships. Unless he is aromantic as well (he has no desire to have romantic relationships) or he felt that a sexless relationship would be unfair to you it kinda sounds like he was just looking for an excuse

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ollivander_fml 11

As an asexual man who just broke up with his girlfriend for the same reason, I can't help but think this is about me, lol. If you're with someone who wants to **** And you're not into it...what can you say.

Attacksloth 33

^ This. We don't know what the context of this breakup was - we just know it was sudden. My wife, for example, wants sex a lot. I'm a "typical" heterosexual male, so that isn't a problem for me - but if I had no desire for sex, it would cause significant strain, even though we're married and our relationship is not about sex. In fact, the past while, my relationship has been strained because I haven't felt like doing it because of my severe anxiety problem. It isn't that my wife is heartless, it is just that obviously people want to feel attractive to their SO, so it... might strain, if they are not given that gratification.

travismassie 7

I've gotten that excuse before

cathrope 10

Your ex sounds like a real charmer.

sdbrady 5

it totally sucks but at least he was finally honest. if he is asexual there is nothing either of you can do about it

martin8337 36

Man with no deal?

lj19717 19

The only way he's an asshole is if he's making it up. But he should have given a warning first too.

syed121417 22

That really sucks OP, but try to see it from his point of view. Would you be more sympathetic if he was gay and not asexual? Or would a woman rather him stay without even though he knows it's not right for him? Try to understand. It's not like he said "oh I'm tired of this girl". He realized something and maybe it was sudden but at least he didn't lead you on further. If he feels as though he is asexual, than he would've broken up with you anyways.

whatthefhumanity 7

He can't help being asexual, and it's never a bad idea to dump someone if you don't want to be with them anymore. But he could have not been an ignorant boor and had some sensitivity about doing it as opposed to just dropping you "on the spot".

Kevinkill70 14

Oh Science at its best.