or let by gones be by gones and dont let it bother you? they didn't tip its not the end of the world.

for the server, it can be. In the U.s., the minimum wage is just over $2 an hour for a server, plus they pay of their percentage of sales to the restaurant. Where i worked, it was 8%. So if you came in and spent $200 for a nice dinner and tipped $30 (the basic 15%), then i would pay out $16 of those dollars, leaving me with $14. If you forgot to tip, I would still pay that 8%, effectively paying $16 for the "honour" of serving you. The restaurant industry screws employees (servers arent entitled to breaks like hourly or salaried employees are and will regularly work 12-14 hour shifts with no breaks. we have to take bites of our meals in the back while still running out to serve people). When a server works so hard and doesn't get tipped, its like a slap in the face. I once had to pay over $30 to the house after the hibachi chef at my table argued with a customer over a racist comment the customer said and i left work in tears because I effectively worked for free that night (as the amount I paid was almost the same as what i made on my other tables) Sometimes its hard to fathom if you've never worked in a restaurant, but tipping is a huge deal.

Not everyone is insecure or a cheater

Him cheating with her won't be a problem....since he's gay....

Maybe, but why tempt fate?

Your way of thinking is really unhealthy. It's never your job to make sure that your partner doesn't cheat. If he/she is likely to cheat, they will eventually

He might give her more than just the tip. ?

Should I buy you a trampoline since you like jumping to conclusions?

Cray cray alert

I always stick the cash in the black folder the check comes in so it's possible they both handled it and thought the other was taking care of it.

If I do cash, so do I (or on the table) but we sit right across from one another. How would one or the other not see? If you're both sitting down, one person obviously has to put a card/cash in and either write the tip/leave the tip. You'd either say "Don't worry about change." So you'd know it's left, you'd put it in afterwards, and again, you'd both see it. Or it would be left on the table. Is one person leaving the table before the other? I stick with my statement!

Yeah I agree, I mean... me and my boyfriend discuss payment. We see if either of us has cash, and then we discuss how much we should leave. I mean you're like 3 feet from the other person, so even if you don't talk about it, you can see if they left money or not!

I am a server, and I once had a very busy night where I was the only server on and I had multiple tables of 4 or more, one table of 10 I believe it was, and lots of smaller tables. I believe I had 18 tables in 3 hours. This was only my second or third month ever serving. I work at a restaurant that does takeout/delivery as well so food was taking very long to come. I had many tables complaining about the wait. However, there was one table who did not tip, and the guy paying was very rude to me. His wife came back 20 minutes later and apologized, and told me she knew it wasn't my fault for how long things were taking and gave me a $20 tip. I was extremely grateful and honestly a little moved that she took the time to come back to make sure that I got a tip and apologize for the way her husband had treated me. There are some good customers out there.