Today, it's my birthday. Today is also the day my grandma died, six years ago. Since then, I get to sit through any sort of attempted celebration while my mom sobs and drinks herself into a stupor in the background. FML
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A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, it's my birthday. My grandmother died yesterday. We were close and she basically raised me. FML
Today, it's my birthday. It's also the day of my grandmother's funeral. I spent most of my 21st birthday in a cemetery. FML
Today, it was my birthday. It was also the only day my family wanted to hold the graveside funeral for my grandmother, who passed last week. FML
Today, was my birthday. Today was also the day that my mom's cat died four years ago. She was too busy crying and looking at old photos of her beloved cat to even wish me a happy birthday. FML
Today, after mourning and making my girlfriend cancel her big birthday party, I found out my grandma didn't actually die. FML
Today, without telling me, my mom dropped me off at my grandmother's house, and drove off. Now I'm supposed to spend the next month with her. Guess she forgot my grandma died six weeks ago. FML
Today, it's officially been a year since my grandma passed away. I still have the occasional dream where I go to her house and she's right there, waiting for me, after which I wake up sobbing because it will never happen again. I don't wanna be an adult anymore. FML
Today, my mom wished her best friend a Happy Birthday on Facebook. Her best friend died this year. Oh, did I mention that it’s also my birthday? FML
Today, my family is still telling me to "get over" the death of my great aunt. The great aunt who always gave the most wonderful birthday gifts, and was overall one of the most pleasant people I've ever met, and I'm NOT allowed to be sad that she's gone. Did I mention she died on my birthday? FML
Today, it's a day before my birthday and I will be turning 14. My grandma died 5 days ago and in Indian culture you aren’t supposed to celebrate for 16 days after a loved one dies. I have dietary restrictions too and can’t eat eggs because of her death, which means I basically can’t have any sweets. FML
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Windv 12
Celebrate with friends instead...?
Feklfekl2222 32
Try Turning it into a celebration of your grandmas life as well?
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Comments (136)
graphicstyle7 17
You are still alive, your mom should be celebrating that instead of raining on your parade. Also, sounds like she needs some therapy to get over it. My advice? Get out of that house and find a life for yourself that's a bit more focused on you, not your mother and her issues.
Pandacupcakelove 26
I'm so sorry... I understand that your mom is sad and stuff, but it's been six years. She could try to pull herself together for her own daughter's birthday.
rockurheart 9
happy birthday happy birthday happybirthday to you! an youre grandma:) nobody is ever really gone, comfort your mom and make the best out of your birthday! but remember dont let the phantom get near you
Myo_fml 20
I'm sorry OP, but I can't help but see you as a bit selfish. by the sounds of it, this was probably your maternal grandmother and so your mother lost her mom. Six years is not enough to heal that wound, you'll know when your mom dies someday.
Myo_fml 20
Well, maybe I'm missing what's special here because I don't celebrate my own birthday. To me it's just another day of the year.
Myo_fml 20
Because caring for another is worth something, caring about myself is nothing. The OP should be helping her mother bear that heavy weight instead of complaining about the party.
megaboo310 4
Happy belated birthday then and sorry about your loss. Try talking to your mom about it or take her to her grave or ashes and just sorta talk it out.
tomakobriefs 11
My grandpa died on my birthday. I know the feeling. You're probably never going to get a reminder-free birthday again. Good luck.
lexiieeex3 32
Reminds me of those poor kids born on 9/11.
ellytoad 13
One unfortunate girl I read about isn't allowed to celebrate her birthday because of that. It made me so angry!
Zacham 5
however unfortunate your mom is upset on your birthday. you have to be understanding. losing your mother (if close to you) is one of if not the hardest things a person will ever go through.
mrnuleef 7
Hey cheer up, your grandma would want for you to have a happy birthday, and your fml community wishes the same. Next year tell your mom to drink in celebration of your grandma's life, not mourn over her death. And tell your mom to celebrate the present, your grandma would want that. I really do wish you a happy birthday from the heart and a better birthday next year.
ultra_notorious 26
Too bad to hear. I kind of know how it is, my sister passed away on valentines day.