ziggers10
United States
Today, I was proposed to, under the condition that I "get thin" first. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Same thing different taste
Guineapig98
Miami, United States
Nice guy
Today, I asked my boyfriend of 5 years when he was going to propose to me because I wasn’t getting any younger. He responded with, “Well, ask yourself are you getting any skinnier? I need a trophy wife, you know?” FML
henley
Today, I told my boyfriend that I didn't want to go out with him because I was having a fat day. After ten minutes of fighting, he threw a ring box on the floor and stormed out. I basically refused his proposal because of my body issues. FML
hater
Today, I was proposed to in a McDonald's. FML
chunky monkey
Dublin, Ireland
Today, my boyfriend of a year and a half informed me that he had "accepted" my stomach, even though it didn't conform to his "preference" for a flat stomach. He then added that his acceptance doesn't extend to my "chunky thighs". FML
Username
United States
Today, my boyfriend proposed to me by tossing the ring at me and saying "Here, wear this." FML
Anonymous
This FML is from back in 2016 but it's good stuff
Middleboro, United States
So romantic
Today, my boyfriend proposed to me by handing me a ring and saying, "Let's get this dumb shit over and done with." FML
Mellon
Mr Romantic
Today, I was doubting my boyfriend's feelings for me, so I asked him if he found me attractive. He replied, "Well, you're thin enough…" That's all. FML
fatty
United States
Today, my fitness trainer husband told me that if I could not make the commitment to stay thin, he could not make the commitment to stay with me. FML
WalkingOnEggshells
Miami, United States
Red flag
Today, the man I've liked for so long asked me out on a date. Three years ago I fell for him and he denied me unless I "lost 100lbs” Now I've lost about 85lbs (not because of him, but for myself) and he wants to give me the time of day. I still like him, but I feel like I have to watch my weight to keep him if I say “Yes.” FML
Anonymous
Target goals
Today, I officially completed my weight loss journey, only for my wife, who'd previously threatened to divorce me if I didn't lose weight, to tell me that she realized she liked me better when I was fat and that "you don't know what you have until it's gone." FML
Top comments
chanellgymnast 17
That proposal deserves nothing more than rejection. You deserve nothing less than the best.
thelinlinx3 10
I hope he's kidding.
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toalysium 15
What is with all this, "find someone who will accept you as you are" crap? I'll grant this is an FML because that's just an awkward moment to bring it up, but perhaps OP's fiancé doesn't want to watch them die younger than they should because of diabetes or heart disease. If OP is big enough to bring about legitimate health concerns then OP's fiancé should most certainly not just accept it, any more than they should "just accept" if OP was an alcoholic.
UsagiArwen 23
To some degree, I think that it is not just a matter of this guy being an asshole. As #102 said, there is a risk of health problems one faces due to the nature of weight issues. I myself have diabetes because I am overweight. My own grandfather died due to complications of heart disease that is linked to his weight, and to diabetes. The problem I have is the method of how your boyfriend delivered this request to you. "Get thin first" is an inappropriate way to make the request that someone he claims to love lose weight. It also makes me question the motive behind his request. Is it just shallow that he wants you to look good, or is he genuinely concerned about your health? If it is the latter, then ask him to be a little more considerate in how he makes the request. "Get healthier" might have been more appropriate, and certainly not part of the proposal. It is just a tacky way to make any request regarding such things.
Botwa 7
Yeah, I know this situation. Although the guy has never seen me thin and I have always been that fat. Don't know why he even bothered to propose.
seriouscat 11
Date someone who loves you for who you are, not this douche bag...
Rodville 28
Dump his ass.
Kamibu 12
You...you said no, right? Proposals should not be conditional. That's like saying to a balding man, "Sure, I'll marry you if you grow your hair back." Metabolisms change, and they're different to begin with, too. For anyone concern-trolling about her supposed health, first, you don't know her size or what her boyfriend judges as thin, and second, "thin" isn't a measure of health. So he's being a shallow jerk whose love is dependent on physicality. Gods forbid she ages, or becomes pregnant or ill, or anything else that may impact her looks.
djinnyf 12
Doesn't deserve you.
skyeyez9 25
Leave him. Lose weight anyways and get yourself looking sexy, and find another man.
MrConcise 35
Maybe OP's weight has been impacting job performance, health, or the relationship itself. Marriage would be a great motivator, IMO. We lack context, making it hard to hear the proposal in such a sour tone.
Jacksparrow72 21
Keep looking for someone who does.