Today, I got a call from my grandmother. Turns out my father found out about my elopement with my husband through my stepmother, because someone she works with told her. We were planning on it being a surprise, and telling people on Christmas. My father won't even talk to me now. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I found out that my grandma passed away the morning of my wedding a couple of days ago and my (soon-to-be ex) husband and so-called family all conspired to keep it a secret from me so as not to upset me. FML
Today, I discovered that my father is getting married. Overjoyed and confused because I didn't know he was dating, I called him up to congratulate him, and ask who she was. Apparently, his soon to be fiancée is my mother-in-law. My wife is not happy. FML
Today, my estranged father died. No one bothered to tell me, and the only reason I found out was because his wife texted my sister. When I asked about the service, I was told I was not welcome in the state he had lived in, because I was no longer family. FML
Today, I went to visit my grandparents, as my grandmother may not have long left. When my stepfather wasn't grilling my visibly uncomfortable grandad about Bible passages, my mother was trauma-dumping about how hard her life has been, and how awful her marriage to my father was. They're his parents. FML
Today, I found out that my grandmother desecrated my grandfather's grave. 14 years after his death, she dug up his body and had him cremated so that she could sell his plot back to the cemetery for money. I was the one who found out so I had to tell the rest of the family. FML
Today, my dad, who lives hours away, called and told me he was getting married. Today. As in this evening. Guess I'm not invited. FML
Today, my family and my fiancée's family met each other and my worst fear came true. My asshole dad found out my fiancée's dad is a reverend and his first sentence was, "How's the molestation business these days?" It didn't take long before a brawl erupted and we were kicked out. I'm cutting him off for good. FML
Today, I visited my grandmother who has dementia. She thought I was my father, and told me that I should never have married my mother, let alone have had children with her. FML
Today, my father got married. He left me a voicemail to tell me all about it. FML
Today, I found out my newly-divorced father is now going to marry my girlfriend's mother. Tough situation here. FML
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ImaginaryFoe 1
Why wouldn't expect this sort if thing? Your father either feels disrespected orhe dislikes your husband. YDI for not knowing that would be his reaction. Trying to shove it down people's throats as a Christmas surprise seems a bit thoughtless to me.
stealthkitten 3
Wow, that really sucks but you should've been more open to your family. Think of how your dad feels, this one is your fault.
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Comments (46)
laladalala 0
I really don't see what the problem is here. Everyone is saying the OP is selfish, but really it's her family that's selfish. Who cares what her family might have dreamed for her all her life, it's HER wedding and she should do what makes HER happy. It's her own life decision - weddings can be really really expensive if everyone who wants to be invited attends and not to mention all the inevitable drama! If the family's bitter about not being invited to the wedding when the OP is happy, then they're just bitter about not getting a free meal and a party. I say F the OP's life for everyone sticking their noses in her life and insisting on forcing their opinions on her, and also for everyone around her being selfish and wanting their own wants on her special and important life decision. TL;DR- I disagree with all of you.
Lisa89 3
yeh, or at least told her family she was engaged in the first place. Seems to me she was just single to them, then suddenly married for all they know... Seems a bit inconsiderate i guess. But i do agree, she doesn't have to have a big wedding and invite her family. But at least imo, let them know..
Iknoweverything 29
It's easy to say you disagree, but it really IS immature to make a huge decision and hide it. If you aren't doing anything wrong, what do you have to hide? If OP's father disagreed on her choice, she should have at LEAST given him a chance. Then HE would have been the jerk, and OP would have seen like the mature adult. I hate people who say "it's your life, you should make your own decisions." Unless you're a hermit in the woods and everyone you know is dead, your life still impacts other peoples lives, and if you don't think about the consequences of the impact, you deserve every person who gets pissed at you.
Miss_Represented 0
Imagine how much more pissed off he wouldve been if you'd told him on Christmas, you wouldve ruined his Christmas! YDI
Lisa89 3
I don't see how keeping it from your own family until Christmas is any better? Could you not have told them you were getting married but not going to invite anyone instead?? that's more considerate instead of keeping it from them for ages.. BTW, people can learn from me. Instead of winging about how i don't know what elopement means... i googled it.
ThreeSheetsGone 12
See what happens when you get married to someone your family hates and then try to make it a surprise? Hope your family's poor, because you just got cut out of the will. YDI
bestnamever 6
what does elopement mean?
unatuna 5
Wait, you wrote an FML because you planned to ruin your family's Christmas on Christmas Day, and you're bummed because the news broke early?
LaLaLaLover 0
I'm confused/: sorry I'm a little blonde(x
starberries 0
He doesn't own her so how could he give her away?
msretman 0
I'm in the process of getting married right now. And yes, I mean process. What your family is probably upset about is not that they weren't invited, but that they weren't involved at all. You can say that this is your day and that its cheaper and blah blah blah. But it's just as big of a deal for your family. You've been part of their life for a very long time, and yet you cut them out of this very important life decision. While you may not have meant it like this, it was pretty much like telling them "You're not as important to me as this man is." Perhaps you should write an email explaining that you really didn't think that it would have hurt them to not be involved. And maybe you can offer to throw a small family reception that they can help plan.
Charleezee 0
Ur life is ur to live not n e one elses who cares if it was privet ppl need to just grow up ur dads acting like a big suck for no reason u didn't do it like him cuz ur not him end of story
ohmandapants 17
You're stupid. Just letting you know.
Naitsi 19
^^what she said
WarriorOmen 25
Is this even in English???