Today, I got a call from my grandmother. Turns out my father found out about my elopement with my husband through my stepmother, because someone she works with told her. We were planning on it being a surprise, and telling people on Christmas. My father won't even talk to me now. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I found out that my grandma passed away the morning of my wedding a couple of days ago and my (soon-to-be ex) husband and so-called family all conspired to keep it a secret from me so as not to upset me. FML
Today, I discovered that my father is getting married. Overjoyed and confused because I didn't know he was dating, I called him up to congratulate him, and ask who she was. Apparently, his soon to be fiancée is my mother-in-law. My wife is not happy. FML
Today, my estranged father died. No one bothered to tell me, and the only reason I found out was because his wife texted my sister. When I asked about the service, I was told I was not welcome in the state he had lived in, because I was no longer family. FML
Today, I went to visit my grandparents, as my grandmother may not have long left. When my stepfather wasn't grilling my visibly uncomfortable grandad about Bible passages, my mother was trauma-dumping about how hard her life has been, and how awful her marriage to my father was. They're his parents. FML
Today, I found out that my grandmother desecrated my grandfather's grave. 14 years after his death, she dug up his body and had him cremated so that she could sell his plot back to the cemetery for money. I was the one who found out so I had to tell the rest of the family. FML
Today, my dad, who lives hours away, called and told me he was getting married. Today. As in this evening. Guess I'm not invited. FML
Today, my family and my fiancée's family met each other and my worst fear came true. My asshole dad found out my fiancée's dad is a reverend and his first sentence was, "How's the molestation business these days?" It didn't take long before a brawl erupted and we were kicked out. I'm cutting him off for good. FML
Today, I visited my grandmother who has dementia. She thought I was my father, and told me that I should never have married my mother, let alone have had children with her. FML
Today, my father got married. He left me a voicemail to tell me all about it. FML
Today, I found out my newly-divorced father is now going to marry my girlfriend's mother. Tough situation here. FML
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ImaginaryFoe 1
Why wouldn't expect this sort if thing? Your father either feels disrespected orhe dislikes your husband. YDI for not knowing that would be his reaction. Trying to shove it down people's throats as a Christmas surprise seems a bit thoughtless to me.
stealthkitten 3
Wow, that really sucks but you should've been more open to your family. Think of how your dad feels, this one is your fault.
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Comments (46)
Zebidee 9
I can completely understand the desire to elope and avoid all the wedding dramas, but you'd be naive to think it wasn't going to piss people off. There are always going to be consequences to doing this sort of thing.
jagd 0
Wat is a elope
Geoffrx7 0
it's a very complex issue. first you must force an antelope and elephant to copulate. after the calf is 2 years and 34 days old, you must slaughter, and than eat the calf. After the couple eats the elopement, they are forever bonded. it's a really beautiful thing.
bodnarfresh 0
53 is right on the money. Elopement was delicious.
VinegarStrokes 0
Damn... I don't know what's worse- the fact that 53 took the time to think of that and type it out or the fact that I just took the time to read it.
hellokat1 0
That was good 53 :D
sexyypurple 0
I thought he was serious for a sec....haha
saeho 0
WHAT IS AN Elopement!??!?!?
firemanrob 0
it means to runaway and get married to your lover without anybody in your family having knowldge of it
BeRealz 0
Google it?
iPlayRS 0
Reapet please.. I.. Talk.. Slowww..
truthinlies 1
OBJECTION please repeat what you just said and think for a moment
bubbaboo 0
that wasn't the right thing to do. if you love him so much you should gave fought for him even if your parents were not ready for you to get married. you could have showed that he was worthy to take your hand in marriage. you took the easy way out so ydi. sorry
hellokat1 0
Did you read this FML correctly?
msretman 0
I think they were saying that she should have made her parents understand how she felt and got their blessing instead of running away to get married.
iheartglasses 0
I was going to say the exact same thing as Zebidee said! There is obviously no going back now, but maybe now that you know how your dad reacted you can figure a way to pacify anyone else that may feel the same way as he. Maybe you all can plan a nice low budget ceremony that will include your family. Just think how you would feel if your future children didnt let you in on such a wonderful celebration...
Zebidee 9
This is exactly what my brother did. A registry office wedding with family and a couple of close friends that cost a whole $300 start to finish, followed up by a fancy dress party at their house where people were told to come dressed for a school formal. As the guests arrived, they told them the news. Brilliantly handled.
MuchDance90s 0
sounds great
auntbitsy 0
I can't imagine why you'd think that would be a nice surprise to give your family at Christmas. My family would be hurt to have missed it. Your father sounds the same, and I can't blame him. It was your choice to do it if that's what you wanted, but the consequences are yours as well.
mythoughts 0
We don't know your family dynamics so in hopes that: your father is a jerk, the rest of the family is snobish, your soon to be hubby got you pregnant (or wants to), you are old enough to make this choice without regard to the family, and that you will be moving away from them not needing any financial/emotional support... I think it's great. In the off chance that some of what I said is total bull... you should probably have told someone in the family sooner. Otherwise there is no need for them to make choices for you. Do what you got to do...
Illblowyourmind 3
I don't usually choose YDI but in this case definitely :/ Secrets like that usually get out one way or another...
iewisokwas 0
your own fault you should have told him before