She obviously agreed to it because she wanted to do it, she didn't know he was just wanting to cheat with permission and would be crazy jealous.

1) There is a difference between swinging and Swing. 2) Just because you don't agree with it doesn't mean others don't. Everyone has their own opinion on the matter. 3) Cheating is never acceptable. I honestly can't see how that is good news.

Some couples are into that and still have a healthy relationship. They don't consider it cheating, but it only works if both partners want and are allowed to do the same things.

1) calm thy *******, it was a lame joke. 2) I guess I should be apologizing for having a different opinion. LOLJKNOPE. 3) I seem to be a rare type of species that still believes in a one man one woman/one man one man/one woman one woman relationship. That's my opinion and I don't understand why get married if you want to swing, that's just me. If you want to be together forever, you'd risk sharing and them leaving you?

#11, actually if you get permission to cheat, it's not cheating anymore. Let's just call this "asymmetric swinging."

Somewhat cheat, I said. Only one party is following the new rules as the other isn't easily allowed to.

Speck of good news since she doesn't have to sit and ponder and sneak to find out that he's cheating. She already knows he deceived her with his new ideas, that's a short cut. And since he thinks only he can do it, it's like cheating. Seriously, I have to explain everything I write lolol. AGAIN, TO ME, swinging is like cheating.

26, I agree with you. While everyone has their own opinion on the matter, it doesn't mean everyone will agree or like that type of life style. I couldn't personally ever do it. It falls under the trust between OP and her husband, in my opinion. Her husband wants to cheat, tell OP, and OP is supposed to sit back and let it happen? I think OP will stand up for herself and leave him if he doesn't agree to different terms. I'm now wondering if he's already cheated, feels guilty, so now he's giving OP a heads up. And like how you thought it was for dancing (that you joked about), I thought maybe he was talking about a sex swing, which is also swinging.

cheating is a deception tho. pleople who swing or are polyamourous do it with the full trust of each other and a ruleset. i can understand your opinion as i am not entirely sure i would be happy with a poly relationship however if both parties agree it cannot be defined as cheating.

48, I thought the same thing about him somewhat giving into his guilt. If he was already cheating. If someone wants to be open minded like that, they wouldn't have reacted that way. Again, I shall reiterate that I said only he would be swinging, that to me is being a deceitful cheater. I guess everyone's concern was my lame joke and how I don't understand why someone would live in a relationship like that. That's just me. I never said it wouldn't work, I just don't agree with it. I hope panties have been untwisted now.

54, I was with a guy for just under a year. He was with a girl before me, who cheated on him for the 13 years they were together. They have a child together so every time they met up to exchange their child, he would get all pissy. He was mostly upset about how he gave in to try to do swinging with her, she said no, yet kept cheating on him. It's more of a control thing. And what happened when I was with him? He cheated on me with multiple women because he wanted to know how it felt as a cheater. WTF??? I left him immediately. He never once brought up swinging, he just went out and cheated. Each relationship creates their own rules and usually they work for the couple. Most of the time, a couple won't react to swinging as they originally thought; usually jealousy is the first problem. I never seen it work out any other way.

To be honest 26 I don't get it either. What happened to the concept of making love to someone your in love with. Especially if your MARRIED and made a commitment to that person. If you want to sleep with someone else then leave. I do understand it works for some people but personally I don't understand it. I don't want just sex with multiple people I want to be in a mutually fulfilling relationship (as I am in).

67 my comment was in reply to the one above yours and as such i didnt meqn to imply that swinging or polyamory was a fix to cheating. people cheat because they make mistakes or are selfish but a poly or swinging relationship is made with the full knowledge of both parties and is adjusted to accomodate the changing feelings of the parties involved. both your (ex)bf and ops bf sound like selfish jerksand i am sorry you both met guys like that.

he just wanted to cheat

You are a smart man ;)

"So much as eye contact" meaning if she at LEAST makes eye contact, thats past eye contact

Perdix is known for solving problems ;).

#41, I guess some people call it "the brown eye," so you may be right. Point taken.

Heaven forbid if she makes that brown "eye" wink-- It might cause him to "push it, push it, push it some more" Alalalala